An awkward Moissanite Sitch…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Obviously I wasn’t there, but I don’t think she meant fake-fake… I would have taken it as a ‘stand in ring’ like one you might wear to work as you dont want to damage your original ring?

Post # 4
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Screw her! It is a real ring, because it is right in front of her face and it isn’t imaginary. I am sure it is beautiful and looks like a diamond. 

do you think she was asking if it was a stand in ring?

Post # 5
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@princessggg:  I think what she was asking was if the stone was a diamond. Rude question, asked in a very rude way for sure. A reply of, “Its a moissanite. I just love it!” is really all you need say.

Post # 7
1164 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

The way it’s worded makes me believe what others have suggested, that she was asking if it was a stand in. I still would have answered, “It’s my real ring! FI and I decided to choose one together and I just love it!”

Post # 9
1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@Sunnyinct:  I wouldn’t say that, clearly they’re friends enough for her to be invited. Plus they worked together. Spending 8 hrs a day w/ someone you get to know them (and their life) pretty well. Maybe she’s seen her w/ costume jewelry/faux bags etc before so thought it safe to ask.

If she’s a jewelry girl, she may have remembered the more demure diamond ring and now seeing a large and different ring–she asked.

There probably was no judgment, just curiosity. Was it the most tactful? Definitely not!

@princessggg:   If it were me, I would simply say: it’s my engagement ring, it’s actually a moissante / Asha / cz / crystal ball and leave it at that, unless they asked anything else.  The same as if I were asked about my diamond e-ring(and I never have been)  Noone is owed an explanation. Just my opinion.

Post # 10
1787 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

There’s always the option of looking down and saying “What ring?”

Post # 11
3112 posts
Sugar bee

@princessggg:  How incredibly rude!  No one has ever asked me that before, but then again, no one has every really cared about my ring period.  If it was someone who could benefit from knowing about moissanite (a pre-engaged female), then I would definitely talk it up.  With everyone else, I don’t care what they think it is.

Post # 12
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

wow.  It isn’t a diamond, but it isn’t “fake.”  A sapphire isn’t a diamond either, does that mean a sapphire is fake?  I bet your ring is gorgeous.  Too bad there are such rude people out there.

Post # 13
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@princessggg:  I’ve only encountered this situation once before (with a friend of my FI who is very nice and didn’t really know any better), and I just said “yeah, it’s really my engagement ring!  Getting married for real and everything!”

Post # 14
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

it sounds to me like she was asking if it was a stand-in ring, but if that wasn’t the case, that’s quite rude

Post # 15
4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

That’s kinda rude. I always get annoyed when people call things “fake” – like yeah, my ring is fake, imaginary. I cannot even see anything on my finger!

It’s not fake, it’s just not a diamond. It’s very much a real stone.

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