Post # 1
I went to an engagement party today and the girl who the engagement party was for is a girl I used to work with and hadnt seen her since I got engaged about a year ago.
I have a moissanite ring, which is different to the quad princess diamond ring she saw me with before. My FI’s family bought him that ring to propose to me with, and after a while he bought me the moissanite bridal set that he and I liked.
Anyway, I arrive at the party and shes like “oh hi, thanks for coming… wow, did you get a new ring? You spoilt little miss!… Is that a ring ring or a fake ring??”
I was almost shocked that she asked me that I just said”yeah its fake” and half blended into the crowd and I just couldnt believe myself! I couldnt come up with anything better to say than yeah its fake! argh!
Anyway, has anyone had a similar situation? or how do you deal when people ask you about your moissanite? I love my ring, wouldnt trade it for the world, Im not ashamed of it, its just hard when you dont want to get into details about moissanite and blah blah blah… lol
Post # 3
Obviously I wasn’t there, but I don’t think she meant fake-fake… I would have taken it as a ‘stand in ring’ like one you might wear to work as you dont want to damage your original ring?
Post # 4
Screw her! It is a real ring, because it is right in front of her face and it isn’t imaginary. I am sure it is beautiful and looks like a diamond.
do you think she was asking if it was a stand in ring?
Post # 5
@princessggg: I think what she was asking was if the stone was a diamond. Rude question, asked in a very rude way for sure. A reply of, “Its a moissanite. I just love it!” is really all you need say.
Post # 6
@Sunnyinct: i did consider whether she meant “stand-in” but I remembered when I first got engaged and got my ring, it wasnt really my taste (FI knew it,thats why FI just used that one to propose with while saved up for the moissanite). When I said I couldnt wait to get my new ring, she thought I was even silly for even thinking about it…
Post # 7
The way it’s worded makes me believe what others have suggested, that she was asking if it was a stand in. I still would have answered, “It’s my real ring! FI and I decided to choose one together and I just love it!”
Post # 8
@princessggg: she isn’t a real friend.
Post # 9
@Sunnyinct: I wouldn’t say that, clearly they’re friends enough for her to be invited. Plus they worked together. Spending 8 hrs a day w/ someone you get to know them (and their life) pretty well. Maybe she’s seen her w/ costume jewelry/faux bags etc before so thought it safe to ask.
If she’s a jewelry girl, she may have remembered the more demure diamond ring and now seeing a large and different ring–she asked.
There probably was no judgment, just curiosity. Was it the most tactful? Definitely not!
@princessggg: If it were me, I would simply say: it’s my engagement ring, it’s actually a moissante / Asha / cz / crystal ball and leave it at that, unless they asked anything else. The same as if I were asked about my diamond e-ring(and I never have been) Noone is owed an explanation. Just my opinion.
Post # 10
There’s always the option of looking down and saying “What ring?”
Post # 11
@princessggg: How incredibly rude! No one has ever asked me that before, but then again, no one has every really cared about my ring period. If it was someone who could benefit from knowing about moissanite (a pre-engaged female), then I would definitely talk it up. With everyone else, I don’t care what they think it is.
Post # 12
wow. It isn’t a diamond, but it isn’t “fake.” A sapphire isn’t a diamond either, does that mean a sapphire is fake? I bet your ring is gorgeous. Too bad there are such rude people out there.
Post # 13
@princessggg: I’ve only encountered this situation once before (with a friend of my FI who is very nice and didn’t really know any better), and I just said “yeah, it’s really my engagement ring! Getting married for real and everything!”
Post # 14
it sounds to me like she was asking if it was a stand-in ring, but if that wasn’t the case, that’s quite rude
Post # 15
That’s kinda rude. I always get annoyed when people call things “fake” – like yeah, my ring is fake, imaginary. I cannot even see anything on my finger!
It’s not fake, it’s just not a diamond. It’s very much a real stone.
Post # 16