An Eager Bride

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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2087 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@CheeneyC:  I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing that you’re the one starting all of the wedding related conversations. Men typically do not get excited about flowers and coordinated BM dresses. However, it would concern me that he has not proposed yet. I think you should have an open conversation with him. Ask him calmly if he still wants to get married and in the timeline you have set

Post # 4
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We only had two conversations about getting/being married in the summer before we got engaged… He wanted to make sure it was a surprise!

Post # 7
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@CheeneyC:  A lot of couples choose to make the decision together to get married. In that case, they generally decide not to go with an e-ring.

Would you be okay with that?

Post # 10
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

Do you have a date set?  That is usually a good indicator that both of you are on the same page about getting married. You don’t necessarily have to have a ring to be engaged, but you do need to both agree that you are getting married on a specific date in a specific place and then move forward from there. 

Post # 11
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131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

You say most of the talks come from you? How involved has he been of this idea of marriage from day one? Did he bring up the idea first? I ask because were the rings, marriage, etc your idea from the start and he just went along with it? If thats the case then I would worry you just pressured him into this idea and he was just going with the flow maybe out of fear you will leave him if he doesnt, meanwhile he may just not be quite ready for marriage.

Post # 12
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117 posts
Blushing bee

What really concerns me is that he hasn’t told his parents you’re engaged. That sounds like a big red flag, an engagement (ring or no ring) is something to be proud and excited about… and that includes telling both of your friends & family. I think you need to sit him down for a serious talk about his feeling & true intentions. 

Post # 15
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I see you are already concerned and there is only so much you can type in the box to make a post. If he is not sharing such an important thing with his own parents something is up. 

If you are concerned enough to ask us, I believe that you two needs some serious dialoge.

Suggest even extending the wedding date to see his reaction. Maybe its cold feet.

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