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OOOH! Sucks! I would beg.borrow and steal for a new bed, and put some kind of insulation, soundmuffling device on the wall of the bedroom. Or I'd find lots of good reasons to go camping!
Move the mattress onto the floor, and try to keep your own sounds to a minimum :)
I'm sure there's a time when your roommate is out of the apartment - you don't have to wait until night!!
Also you can probably find some time at his parents' house too. Again, you don't have to sleep over to have sex, if that's what you're talking about. Sounds like fun for now and you will have plenty of time in the future to do things your way!
Um, yeah, you can still twister, just not in the bed. Move to the floor! Keep a blanket under your bed for that. And just be quiet. Your roommate isn't clueless, she just doesn't want to hear it!
Hopefully your roommate is respectful enough to leave and give you guys some personal space sometimes. Not enough to inconvenience her, but maybe she'll let you know when, say, she's going to the grocery store FOR A WHOLE HOUR, haha. Ok that's not so subtle.
Yes, I agree with the others that there is hope here. Maybe even talk to your roommate about it just so she can give you a heads up as to when she'll be out of the aparment for a bit and then you guys can have some alone time for "twister" as you call it, lol.
Yep, and then make some plans to get out of town sometimes together, go camping and whatnot, it would be fun!
Haha, I second the floor. I feel you on the twister situation, we both live with my parents!
The shower and floor are good options. Also maybe put on some music lol? But hey look on the bright side this could be a way to spice up your sex life by doing it in places you normally wouldn't.
Your roomie is an adult, she knows it's happening. Just don't subject her to every moan and you should be fine. Get a new bed with all that money your FI is saving living at home.
Also, do we really have to say Twister? Can't we just call it sex? If you are old enough to have it, you should be old enough to say the actual word. :)
I recommend just putting the box spring and mattress on the floor, that's what we have and it doesn't make a sound. We live with his dad and the family room (where his dad is for most of the time he's awake) is directly underneath us. If he's heard he's never said anything!! We do have to keep the noise down tho, since the vent is right next to the bed....
Oh the joys of living with parents...
I wrote sex. I would probably have a bigger problem if my roommate kept playing Twister! Scrabble is more fun.
i just think it's nice that you're taking your roommate's feelings into consideration.
that said, she's not always there...and there are plenty of other hours in the day. 
utlize them! but i agree with the pps, try to get a new bed if possible or take the adventures outside. but not literally. i hear that's frowned upon by polite society. and the cops.
Everyone has to leave the house sooner or later.. take advantage of the times that his parents or your roommate go out of the house.. You'll be fine and if you don't get to do it as much as usual, maybe it will make the twister more fun and exciting for the both of you.
Thanks everyone for the helpful advice! Yes, the floor is always an option, as is a quickie when the roomie is out for a bit. I think what's going to be hardest for me is knowing that we'll always be rushed or feel like we're sneaking around like two high schoolers, when before we were able to do whatever we wanted whenever we wanted. But yes Beav, perhaps it will make it more exciting!
Get a new roommate? :) Her principles shouldn't be determining your sex life.
I don't know how old you guys are but I would not tolerate this kind of attitude from a roommate. I would move out or tell her to keep her morals out of my bedroom.
Fiance currently lives with his two brothers. They own a house they are having a hard time selling because the market sucks. I can not go to his house at all because his brothers 3 cats send me into anaphylaxic shock (deadly allergic reactions where you stop breathing etc.) so we always stay at my apt. I have a roomie too. We all get along just fine. My roomie could care less what I do in my own bedroom here. My roomie (a man) understands that I can not go to fiances house due to the severity of my allergies to his brothers pets. We all also agree that making his bro get rid of his pets is out of the question. We make it work.
In a year, I will be moving into my parents house to save for the wedding. I will move in w/ fiance once his house is sold but who knows how long that could take. During that time, there will likely be no "twister" as you put it for us either, unless we go on vaca somewhere. Which we won't, since we'e saving for the wedding. It won't kill us for a year.
@ Miss Slice: I can understand how the quickie sex would get old. As fun as that stuff is, I sometimes need the more "emotional" connection, you know? I'd try to plan a weekend adventure every once and a while to get the both of you out of your apartment/ his parents house. Hotel sex is fabulous too! But camping, etc. is a good thing as well.
I can understand your desire to respect your roomate, but make sure you're getting what you need too!
... Our freshman year in college we lived in the dorms. We took a lot of long drives into the woods that year. 
@KateMW, yes, yes, I am =]
@Gothybride, I think by "roommate" she means "housemate".
But regardless, I don't know ANYBODY who would want to hear their roommate's moaning and groaning. I, too, lived with a very devout Catholic and c'mon, she wasn't dumb, but I was respectful of the fact that she didn't want to hear the bed bouncing at 1am. Personally, I'd DIE if I knew somebody EVER heard me. Nobody needs an audience, unless you're into that, lol =]
Funny story tho. My husband and I lived in an apartment a few years ago and occassionally we'd wake up at 3am to this woman having the most wild sex in the apartment next to ours or above ours! It'd wake us up and it was just hilarious! I mean, you could hear a LOT and she'd say the WEIRDEST things. It was funny at first but got old real fast...
Um, can we please stop hating on the roommate and her morals? I see NOWHERE in Miss Slice's posts that the roommate has ever been judgmental or asked that there not be sex in the apartment, just that Miss Slice and her boyfriend have tried to be RESPECTFUL of the roommate's religious beliefs by not having sex in the apartment.
I waited till marriage too, for the same reasons as your roommate, so I won't give any advice but rather just say THANK YOU for being so thoughtful and respectful. As you can see from some people's attitudes in this thread, people who wait get a lot of judgment and crazy assumptions made about them. Miss Slice, your attitude is very sweet and helpful, and I hope that you and your roommate continue to get along well and you and your boyfriend are able to overcome any obstacles that you face. :)
You should buy your roommate some noise reducing headphones for Christmas-- think Paris and Rory's (gilmore girls) situation at Yale. lol
lol sex doesn't have to stop, you just have to get creative. Go for long drives (in the woods! haha mrs.spring) do it on the floor, get rid of the squeaky bed- redecorating is fun! Just keep the noise to a minimum. Silent sex can be fun... it's like a game & surprisingly a major turn on! When you're quiet, all your other senses seem to be heightened!
I understand you want to respect your roommate (and I commend you for that!), but it is your home too. You need to feel comfortable in it too!
lol, ejs! We had one of those, too! For about a month we lived in our friend's house. He was out of the country, so we just had the friend's roommate to deal. Every single night it was a different girl, and the walls were paper thin! Plus, they'd go on for hours; literally from 1-5 am sometimes. Ugh! I felt like a zombie, I was so sleep-deprived.
well, you can look at it this way. when the wedding night comes it's going to be amazing!!
I don't have any new suggestions, but I did want to commend you on being respectful of your roomate. From exerience living in an apartment with a VERY thin wall between my apartment and that of my neighbor, I can tell you that being awakened by the sounds of headboads banging on the wall, squeaky bed frames, and moans are not pleasant things at 2 am (or 3, or 4). I hope your roomate appreciates your consideration!
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My boyfriend (of two years) living situation is about to change, and I'm definitely not looking forward to it. Here's the deal:
I currently live with a roommate, who is a friend from college. BF recently graduated in May, and for the past year has lived with 2 other guy friends from college. We typically spend the night together (ie, sleepovers) every Friday and Saturday night, and usually one night during the week based on our work schedules. My roomie has no problem with BF sleeping over, but she is pretty religious (waiting til marriage to do the deed) and our rooms are right next to each other with a thin wall in between. Add in a creaky old bed I inherited from my parent's spare room, and there's no "twister" going on in my apartment ever. However, this was never a problem before, as we could just do those things at BF's apartment.
But now, in about a month, BF's lease will be up and he will be moving home with his parents (for probably about a year) to save money during his first year of work. He will still be pretty close by, and of course I am welcome to hang out at his house, but his parents are pretty strict about us staying in the same room in their house (mine are too, so I understand where they are coming from.) Of course, they aren't dumb and know that we do have sleepovers, and they don't seem to mind that as long as it isn't in their house.
So, if you haven't figured it out by now, starting soon the situation will be:
No twister at his house + No twister in my apt = No twister at all???
Ahhh what am I going to do?!?!? Has anyone out there faced a similar situation?