An Introduction and My Waiting Story…LONG

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Welcome! 🙂  Thanks so much for sharing your story. I was a lurker for a while too!

I totally understand how you felt thinking your SO would propose on your first year anniversary.  I thought mine would do the same, since we’d had conversations about how big the one year anniversary would be and that, once we hit a year, we’d decide to make our relationship permanent or not.  Our one year came and went last month with not only no proposal, but also no real discussion about the future.  I had gotten my nails done, worn a new dress, and gotten him some sweet gifts.  But there was nothing discussed regarding engagement.  I have no idea what to think at this point.  We are discussing moving in together, but that is as far as it has gone.  So I completely understand your disappointment! 

I know it is hard to try and not let the expectation ruin your vacation, but Mexico is beautiful and you will have a great time with your SO.  If a proposal comes, you’d surely be ecstatic, but try to enjoy the time with your SO regardless of whether or not a ring comes out of it.  Remember, he wants to spend the time and go on a vacation with you.  And he wants the proposal to be special!  I’d probably wait him out a little bit more…go on the vacation.  If it doesn’t happen then, give him a few more months before bringing it up.  It will be hard, but it sounds to me like he really wants to surprise you and make the proposal special.

Post # 4
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65 posts
Worker bee

Wow I really feel for you, right now I too feel like I’ve been expecting it for so long and have also gone through all the upset when nothing happened. I’m not really sure what I can say to Mame you feel better- you know from your own experience you could well end up let down after the holiday…

 

could you not do something along the lines of… I don’t want to ruin the surprise or any plans you might have, but I’m loosing my mind a little bit so can you put me out of my misery and just give me a time frame ie i will have proposed within the next 4 weeks? 

 

 

 

That way you don’t know EXACTLY WHEN but you’ll probably find you calm down and just enjoy the moment? X

 

Post # 5
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1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I will say that I’ve been dating my SO for 3 years (as of the 8th of this month) and I only started ‘waiting’ when he bought the ring in Feb. I was certainly hoping before then, but I didn’t think anything seriously about it.

My SO has told me time and again that there’s no proposal until after he sees how school goes (which is a pretty open timeline given that he could mean how this class goes (Dec) or how the whole rest of it goes (next June)) … that doesn’t mean that I don’t hope just a little bit when special occasions come and go. 

The best thing I’ve done, remind yourself that you are in love with him, and it needs to be about ya’ll and the relationship, not putting a ring on it. I keep telling my SO that I don’t care about a ring and a wedding, I just want to get started on our lives.

It’s hard. Really really hard. Own up to your breakdowns, be honest, and then try to move on. 

Have fun in Mexico! Go shopping, get your nails done, flirt with him, remember why you got together with him in the first place. You can do it.

Post # 6
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1442 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just want to say hold tight and let it happen as naturally as possible! It’s so close! I would say plan a bunch of activities for the both of you to do on vaca and just TRY to have fun and not make it all about the proposal. Can’t wait to see you post your new bling!

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