Post # 1
–please realize this is done in humor and frustration at the same time—
Dear first try and pregnant girls. you suck. Ok. Not really, I’m just supremely jealous. 😛
Dear girls who don’t really desperately want kids but just are because “the clock is ticking” and it’s time and get pregnant like that.
Dear teenage girl I saw on the train this morning that is not a day older than 16. How the fudge are YOU pregnant but me older, stable income, loving relationship, own home have been trying for 6 months and still zilch?
And yes, I know the grammar on this post is horrible. I’m rambling.
What about you? Any jealousy/angry gripes?
Post # 3
I hear ya. I’m not trying yet but if I do and I have fertility problems, I will probably have to quit my job lest I go crazy from dealing with the Moms in my caseload. It’s like God made all the useless tweekers and irresponsible 15 year olds the most fertile people on earth as some sort of sick joke.
Post # 4
Interestingly, in most cultures for all of human history–when fertility has been valued much more than it is now (see: the pill,) women WERE married and expected to have kids when they were 16.
but yeah, that stinks it’s hard for you. sorry to hear that. :-/
Post # 5
my friend who struggled to become pregnant once told me it seemed any young dumb 16yr can get pregnant but the older, wiser and educated struggle – she now has a beautiful girl so it did happen with some medical assistance
goodluck and i hope it happens for your sooner than later
Post # 6
I am with you, I work in NICU so I have my face shoved in all the “accidents” and “not even tryings” all of the time and it makes me want to punch someone in the face after 11 months of trying with no success!
Post # 7
I’m sorry this is happening to you.
I agree. My druggie cocaine loving cousin is a year younger than me, been married 3 times and divorced twice, had 4 different pregnancies from 4 different guys and is refusing to make arrangements for her unborn child’s special needs (poor thing has clubbed feet and she didn’t think it was necessary to find a specialist to get the baby casts to straighten his ankles out once he was born. My mother mentioned this and her response was “Oh….no. I didn’t think of that.”)
Then me future med school student with a wonderful man who will be my husband someday…not able to have kids. What….the fuck.
Post # 8
Sometimes it’s just as hard when you know you’re not “allowed” to get pregnant. Some people have medical reasons for not being able to have a child. FI and I have financial reasons for not being able to have a baby right now and when I see teenaged girls getting pregnant on purpose and acting like it’s no big deal it rips my heart out.
Post # 9
I always thought how funny Nature works. How is it we are the most fertile when we are younger, and least fertile when were more mature and have more wisdom.
It should be the other way around.
Post # 10
All I want to know how is how on earth these girls actually manage to get knocked up “by accident” in the first place. I mean seriously, I only have a 20% chance if I do it at the right time and these girls get knocked up by doing it just once!
Post # 11
I am pregnant and what makes me the most upset is when i see a child neglected or treated badly the other day i was shopping and a little girl about 4 or 5 years old said “momma i need something…(dont know what it was) and kept asking and then she gets spanked and told told shut up or else i going to spank you again…..like really, lets address the need and move on in a civil manner.
ETA: I guess my point is that after wanting a baby so bad i cant imagine treating him like i see some people treat their children.
Post # 12
@Kemma: As one of those ones who got “knocked up” (yes on accident) at the age of 14 from only having sex once, I ask myself the same thing all the time…
Post # 13
@Ugoob: Well, it made perfect sense when humans only lived til 30. 16 was the perfect age to have children back then. We just haven’t evolved from that yet.
Just an interesting tidbit: If the government banned sex (and actually policed it) until 40 (and all conceptions were natural), we would eventually (like, in 100+ years) see an increase in fertility at that age as well as an increase in life expectancy in general. Of course there would be a lot of childless people before that kicked in.
I understand how frustrating it must be to see such young people with children. I can’t believe how “lucky/unlucky” they are either.
Post # 14
It infuriates me to see parents like that!!!
One of my husband’s co-worker is a liar and a thief and has 4 kids, all under the age of 10, by 4 different mothers. He can not afford to pay child support for any of them. He is divorcing his current wife, whom he got knocked up and they are getting kicked out of their place because they can not afford rent.
Why is it that a piece of shit like that has four kids and there are others like you and me out there who just wants it so bad and cannot.
We are blessed in so many other ways. I mean at the end of the day I think this makes us stronger and better parents. And perhaps it’s penance for being so lucky in other parts of life.
Post # 15
This makes me so angry. Why did I have to carry a baby all the way to the end only to have my baby die when children get pregnant so easily. Also, my mom got pregnant with me at 16 and my dad was 17. They were in no way ready for a child as I became an adult years ago, but am still waiting on them.
Post # 16
I felt this exact way after trying for a year. Within that time, my SO’s niece (19) got pregnant. I was SO upset and he didn’t understand why. Whatevs.lol It all turned out good because I got pregnant the month she gave birth! 🙂 But Ispent a long time being jealous and I NEVER get jealous over anything!