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We went in for our anatomy scan on 3/21, Baby was 18w4d. We were met with devastating news that our sweet baby girl had Anecephaly. It is a fatal neural tube defect that prevenets the skull & brain from forming correctly. The chance of this happening…1 in 1,000! Can you believe that! I went in that Thursday for induction & finally delivered our Sweet Olivia Christine on Saturday. The hospital was wonderful & we got to hold our tiny angel & spend as much time with her as we wanted. It was crazy because by that time she was 19w & everything on her was perfect except the skull & brain. She had 10 tiny perfect little toes & fingers, little button nose & sweet little lips. Life is so unfair!
I don’t know how to handle this. She was everything to me & I hadn’t even laid eyes on her. Every morning I looked forward to seeing if my belly had gotten bigger, wondered if today would be the day I felt her move, I looked forward to reading a daily tidbit about her growth & the changes she & I would go through that week. Now I feel like I have nothing but emptiness to look forward to. My husband has been wonderful but my heart just aches at all the plans we had made for our little girl & now they are just gone!
I am sorry to be a downer on the board, but I wanted to share my little girl Olivia with you. Olivia means peace & at least I know she will have that & she will never feel pain. Thank you for letting me get this out.
Best wishes for all of you & prayers for healthy babies.
Post # 3
I am so sorry for your loss.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Post # 5
My heart is breaking for you and your husband – I am so sorry for your loss!
Post # 6
You’re not a downer. You’re in pain and I know it. I’ve been there. It’s alwful and if you need me, I’m right here. PM me, whatever you want. I’m here. Right now is the most awful time. It’s so hard because people don’t understand what it’s like to go into a delivery room, have a baby, and go home empty handed. You may hear cruel, well meaning comments. Try your best to ignore them or walk away. It’s so hard right now, but I’m here.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry. My heart is hurting for you and your husband.
Post # 9
I am so, so very sorry. I cannot begin to imagine the depth of your loss.
Post # 10
Oh…I am so, so sorry for your loss. Do you know anyone who has gone through something similar? My friend’s brother and SIL had an angel baby and she joined a fb group of people to connect with those who would understand the experience. She is also getting involved in organizations that advocate research and funding for babies (March for Babies, etc). I know it’s too soon now, but as the months go on, it may be something to consider.
Again, my condolences to you and your families.
Post # 11
i am so sorry for your loss. thoughts and prayers going out to you and your husband.
Post # 12
I am so sorry. Like they said, you’re not a downer, you need to talk about it and that is fine. I don’t what else to say, except that I am crying with you. I really am sorry.
Post # 13
I am so sorry for your loss and can’t even imagine what you and your husband are going through now.
Post # 14
I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine what you must be going through.
Post # 15
As heartbreaking as it is, thank you for sharing with us. I hope it helps you heal during this difficult time, and I know it reminds all of us just how precious life is. My thoughts are with your family.
Post # 16
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. That was such a beautiful name to pick for a beautiful baby girl. I wish the best and peace to both you and your husband.