- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
So let me start off by saying I cant wait for the wedding. Its only three weeks away and I’m so excited! I just wish my family and my girlfriends were more involved. I want to go into wedding planning (actually my guy and I are working on a business plan for an event design and lighting company… but we wont start until after our wedding lol) maybe everyone just figures i want to coordinate weddings so they’re just leaving me to do mine. I literally planned my shower (all my mom did was pay) I planned my bachelorette (my maid of honor did nothing… thats next friday night) and i’m now planning my rehearsal dinner as well. Its ridiculous…. Its not even the point for me of actually doing the coordinating, decorating, planning…etc, but the fact that i feel like no one cares enough about me or the fact that i’m getting married to do any more than either pay for something and show up… I just feel kind of forgotten. I basically want to ask most of the women in my life… “Hey i’m getting married! SO, how can I make my wedding and bridal experience great for you?” I feel so frustrated … My maid of honor and I have been best friends since i was five, and she has literally talked to me for less than ten minutes total over the past two months. My bridesmaid is literally MIA (i maybe get a text from her every week or so). SHe’s pregnant (i get that its a super excting time for her), but for her wedding (mind you I wasnt in the bridal oarty) I helped her with every idea she needed advice on, the day before the wedding I was at the venue with her from 8:30 AM to 9:00pm setting up, and on wedding day i was at the church by noon pinning down her aisle, then running out for baloons someone forgot to get, and chasing the photographer to make sure he got the pictures of the reception room before the guest got there (and I wasnt even helping coordinate). Neither of them (and they are my only two in the bridal party) have offered to help AT ALL… I’m not just talking the past few weeks, I mean period, EVER, since i got engaged. I finally broke down a couple months ago and asked my maid of honor to help me with some fabric for my pergola, I cant sew at all and shes a total wiz. SO of course she says yes (thank GOD) but when she came down 2 weeks later and i showed her what needed to be done and how stressed out i was she didnt help, or take anything… she just told me how I (thats right me) should do it! So my mother in law (who mind you literally lives less than 1 minute away) offers to help me… great so i gave her the fabric (lets say about 2 weeks ago) and told her if she could iron the pieces together with bonding glue then i would somehow figure out to sew them. Easy right (put two pieces of material together with fabric glue strip and Iron)… WRONG she finished one curtain as of TONIGHT!!! and so when i finally completely broke down and told my mom how frustrated I am… SHe says “Well i hope your not including me in this.. because i feel like i’ve done a ton for this wedding” YEAH RIGHT !!! All she’s done is pay! (which i know is a huge help and amazing of her… but really come on thats not actually doing something. My mom even helped me pick out ribbon to tie around the 102 wine glasses (which are at her house 3 1/2 hours away from me) that i’m giving as favors (mind you it was like pulling teeth to get her into Michaels to buy the ribbon.) SO we pick out all this ribbon and she goes home… WITHOUT THE RIBBON… never offering to take it… or tie it onto the glasses in her free time at home… NO way When i get up there on tuesday (4 days before my wedding) SOmeone (no we have no idea who.. because MOM is only taking off Thursday and friday before the wedding <because thats when guests will be arriving>) , someone will be able to help me tie the 102 ribbons around the wine glasses plus aroung the addition 50 mason jars for the welcome beverage station and all the other crap i need to do in that 4 days. (lets hope someone does arrive to help because aparently none of the women who in my opinion should be helping are available)….
I really dont want to sound like one of those pathetic and annoying bridezillas… I just want to feel like these women who i love and continuously try to do nice things for would want to make this time special for me. I just really feel like they could care less that i’m getting married and could really care less about me.
Oh BTW NONE (AND YES I MEAN NONE, AKA ZERO) of them could come with me to my dress fitting… I had to BEG my girlfriend (who i really never hang out with and who i’ve known for less than two years, and only through work) to come with me to see my wedding dress for the first time.
SOrry to vent ladies… but i’m just sick and tired of feeling ignored and completely invisible to some of the most important people in my life.