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IMO, the STD isn't an invitation - its just a heads up to get the date on your calendar, and make a hotel reservation or buy a plane ticket if you have to. So I just addressed it to the primary person or couple (leaving off any SOs that aren't live-in, and also leaving off kids). I presume that people will call if they have questions about those sorts of things. The main confusion we have had (from a couple of guys) is as to whether they needed to RSVP - even though the STD said "Formal Invitation to Follow." I did have one single guy call to tell me that he hoped I wasn't going to nag him to bring a date, or try to set him up with a single friend!!
ITA with Suzanno - it's not an invite, just a heads up. It's fine to address it to just the person recieveing it.
I'm planning on doing the same as suzanno when we send out our Save The Dates. You never know what could happen in the six months between sending them out and the wedding. I just want to make sure the main person I'm inviting remembers not to schedule anything else for that day.
We are also putting formal invitation to follow, so, to me, that makes it seem like this is just a casual heads up, not a formal invite with who exactly can come!
Hope this helps a bit!
Thanks for your input! I guess I just wonder if people will be more hesitant to book a flight or a hotel room without knowing if they'll be invited solo or with their significant other?
I labeled our save the dates with Miss Jane Doe & Guest. I wanted to let them know they can bring a guest so they can make arrangements appropriately. I think if they break up with their SO before my wedding, they probably wouldn't bring anyone and even if they did, I don't mind since I already budgeted for the "Plus one"
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I addressed them to the "main invitee"...if that invitee has a SO that I knew, I also put their names, but for those who will have a guest (that I dont know), I didnt write "and guest".
Like PPs have said, its not an invitation, its just a heads up. If you know the invitee's SO's name, definitely address it to both guests. But if you know the person is single but youre still allowing them a guest, I would just stick with their name only.
I'm going to agree with the majority-- we're probably just going to address it to the main person for the STDs. I'm sure if it comes down to someone hesitating to book a flight/hotel room if they're not sure about their SO being invited, they'll probably call or email someone involved with the planning.
I'm sending out our save the dates this week for our wedding in November. We are planning on just addressing them to the primary invite because as you said you have no idea if the couple will be together.
I had our wedding website added to the save the date... I've put all the hotel and time information there so people can begin booking hotel/ airfare.
I'm thinking I might add a note on site regarding the +guests/ seroius relationships only.... that way the information is presented somewhat informally but its known right off the bat random dates are not invited... unless they pay for their plate
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I put "and guest" on my save the dates. Primarily because that was the way I'd entered the names into my master guest list spreadsheet and I was using mail merge for my envelopes, but also because if people are going to be making plane and hotel reservations ahead of time (which is a major reason for save the dates, since plane tickets are usually cheaper in advance), they ought to know if they need to book for two instead of one. Just a thought.
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I am finally, finally getting ready to send my save-the-dates. There are a few friends who have significant others whom I haven't met, but I plan to invite these friends to the wedding with their SOs if they're still together when our invitations go out. However, the wedding isn't for seven more months.... is it rude if I address their save-the-date without their SO? Or, if I address their save-the-date to them and their SO, but they aren't together anymore when the wedding rolls around, is it rude if I don't invite them with a guest anymore when the invites go out? We're staying firm in our "no guest if you're not in a relationship" rule, but I want to be cautious of these possible odd situations!
What did you do?