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i wouldnt put either. the save the date cards go out 4 to 5 months if not longer before the wedding. now on the invites you should put the person you are actually inviting and on an inside card say plus one example:

john doe plus one for like a date

the doe family or john and jane doe and family

or and guests

make sure the rsvp well in advance

the save the date card shouldnt really have the names of the invitee on the cars...on the envolope should be the person who actually lives at the address your sending it to. if the have a girl/boy friend take the time and find out what there name is

btw... theres this book that has how to word things from save the dates to thank you notes. it has great ideas in it and has been real helpful for me to learn about the wedding thing. its called "The Wedding Book" its by mindy weiss i think i paid 20 dollars but it has everything! its a 485 page book with lots of good info...i read it in like 3 days...really intresting stuff!

If you have any friends or family who will be traveling far for your wedding (i.e. they are flying and would need to also book a flight for their guest and/or children) - then I think it's okay to put "and guest" or "and family" on the STD for those people because they really need to know for planning purposes.  Or, if you put your friend's name only on the STD then you could just communicate to them separately they you will be giving them a guest in case they need to look at flights, etc.

Now MY problem is.... what do you do with friends who are very newly dating someone?  I.e. if my friend has been dating this guy for like a month, do I put his name on the STD too or do I put only my friend's name on there and wait it out to see if they are still dating by the time we send out the real invitations :)  He would obviously be invited if they are still dating by the time of our wedding... and I don't want to be rude by not including him or acknowledging their relationship, it just seems so early! I actually have multiple friends in this situation... what would you do?

Thanks Mrs. Louboutin :)  I guess the problem then is, that our guest list is kind of out of control and we really can't give everyone a guest unless they are dating someone.  I wouldn't want the person to think that it is okay to bring just anyone along if they end up breaking up with their significant other... So in that case maybe it's not such a bad idea to write the boyfriend's name, even if it has just been a short while.