Post # 1
Hello all, i have an etiquette question here and i need opinions beforei/my family insults someone. My fiance know about our engagement party and are actively participating in the planning. Partly because a lot of his family doesn’t speak English so he has to translate a lot of things and partly because we dont think my parents should be doing everything on their own.
Scenario: Our families have never met for 2 reasons 1. his parents dont speak english, are seperated and live in seperate states and the rest of his family just plan lives far away. We are having an engagement party so that both sides of our fmailies can meet before the wedding. We dont want them to meet for the first time at our wedding. So engagement party is the best way to get everyone together. My question is this. do we invite “and guest” I have 4 cousins that i know are not actively dating someone but will bring someone just because the invitation says “and guest” i have another cousin that has been seeing someone for a few months on and off do i give her “and guest” I heard that the rule of thumb for inviting “and guest” was if ther person is in a long term relationship, living together, or engaged. The point of the party is for our families to meet not for people to sit with their date for the night. What do we do? We have to send out invites at the end of this month and we dont want to insult anyone.
Post # 3
I understand limiting Plus Ones when you have a 200 person wedding guest list at 100$ a plate. But if this is a simple party at home or something fairly cheap, I would allow the cousins to bring dates. It can be boring for young people to attend family parties, I think it’s a very nice gesture for you to allow it, if it’s not too much of an inconvenience for you. It’s definitely not a must though, nothing for them to get insulted about.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Save worrying about plus 1’s for the actual wedding guestlist. If this is just an engagement party I’d let them bring dates.
Post # 5
@daniellemc: I don’t think you need to ‘& guest’ for the engagement party. Especially if this is a families meeting for the first time party.
Post # 6
i forgot to include that we’ve made our guest list and will be including all plus ones for everyone if they are seeing someone or not. So we didn’t know if we had to do that for engagement party too. Also, it’s at a small hall and it’s not a price per person it’s just a catered brunch. Fiance and i just LOVE brunch. Mom said no to a brunch wedding since it was too informal in her oppinion, so she agreed to a brunch engagement party 🙂
Post # 7
I don’t think you need to add plus ones. Basically anyone you invite to an engagement party, you should also invite to your wedding. What you are doing right now is a private family affair, I think it should be family only.