(Closed) And here it is…runaway bride

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Ouch!

Even if she didn’t do it “on purpose” it’s awful that your parents couldn’t find a way to more equitably balance their attention.

Do you think it would help to talk about those feelings with various members of your family?  Not accusing them of having done anything wrong necessarily, but explaining that you feel hurt and forgotten because it seems as though your wedding got lost in the shuffle and drama?

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Um, I’m not really sure what to say, but I can say that I saw your wedding video and absolutely ADORED it! It brought tears to my eyes! To me it looked like you had a wonderful day and are really in love with your husband… what about focusing on that? Either way, I’m sure it sucks and it hurts and I’m sorry that she did that to you!

Post # 7
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1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

That sucks. There’s no other way to put it. She sounds pretty immature and selfish. Unfortunately it takes some people longer to grow up than others. I’d try to focus on the fact that you are married, which is what is important. And at least she didn’t break up with him the day before your wedding, which would have been worse.

At least your dad can acknowledge what she did, and maybe you can talk to him and other family members more about your feelings to at least feel like you’re not alone.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Eeeek!  So thankful I was an only child for most of my life (I have 2 great step-sisters now, but we’re not that close).  I just can’t imagine having a sister whose sibling rivalry is so bad that it destroys my happiness to this extreme.  I’m sorry you’re feeling so hurt, but it speaks a lot that you’re still willing to support her and love her through everything.  *hugs*

Post # 9
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Ouch. I’m really sorry. It sounds to me like your Dad just figured out exactly what was going on. I think talking to everybody in a non-confrontational way may help. Or even writing a letter you don’t intend to send.

Post # 10
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447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

attention hog, yikes

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Awe girl I feel for you! Don’t let it get you down though…that would just let her win even more! The past is the past and guess what?? Now that the dust has settled YOU are the one with a wonderful hubbie and memories of your big day to last you  a life time! What does she have to show for it all?? NOTHING!

Be happy 🙂 (if all else fails loose youself in those amazing wedding photos of yours!)

Post # 12
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1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m sorry about all the family drama.

BUT

You are married now. Concentrate on your life and being part of your own family–not being the dark horse in your old family.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Baileyh:

the whole situation sucks.

But I agree with what other people & your husband have said, you should probably just look forward to the fact that you’re married — and as a side note, if it’s normal for your sister to behave this way it probably reflects poorly on her (being selfish, immature, etc etc), than it does on your marriage/ the timing etc.

Although, I agree it is really unfortunate that people may have missed their opportunity to celebrate with you because of your sister’s timing/personal issues.

Post # 15
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1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Her timing definitely sucks, but to her credit, she probably said yes to her now-ex when he proposed in part because she was so excited about your wedding and wrapped up in your happy, about-to-marry-my-true-love feelings… But after the excitement died down, she realized that maybe she was in over her head and did not feel for her guy the way you do for yours.  You are truly lucky, not only to have a husband who you love and loves you back, but to have a sister that you are good friends with.  Sorry to get on a soap box, I had a sister who died when I was 13 and I feel like I’d give anything to have her back, sibling rivalry and all.  Be thankful for your loving family!

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