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@MsBrooklynA: OMG are you serious?!?!?!
Now, as far as insurance goes, when the home was damaged your parents were entitled to the claim because it is their home. They should have fixed your roof though.
Do you have renter's insurance to protect your stuff? Because for the bed you could make a claim.
As far as the house, I do not know what legally you could do to your SO's parents for being slum lords. Would you or you SO be willing to sue them?
Can you move into an apartment? I would leave the house and confront the MIL on why she is lying about you not paying rent
@LuvMySailor:Oh we've confronted her multiple times. They are being so sketch about everything. We would never sue them but we are being forced to move much much earlier then we may be ready for. I could cry. I've been looking for a 2nd or Full time job for so long and I HAVE to have one if were going to move. I could seriously cry right now.
@MsBrooklynA: ** HUGS** hun. It will all work out. Do you have renter's insurance? Really I would make your SO's parents buy you a new bed
@lefeymw: I know. That is most definitely what we are doing. It just sucks that for the 3 years we have lived here there was never an issue and they were more than willing to come over and help and now since his sister moved home they want more rent, they want my SO to do work for them for free and they don't want to fix our roof. It makes me so angry.
@LuvMySailor:Thanks! That means a lot. We do not. We should but we pay very very very low rent and I NEVER gave a thought to them ever leaving us high and dry like this. Lesson learned. This is my first time ever renting so I didn't really know what I should do.
Cyber hug... wow that really sucks. And to have "family" screw you over is the worst. Just try to focus on what you can control, which is getting the hell out of there.
@bklynbridetobe: Thank you. I honestly cannot fathom how they would be acting like this. They were always the nicest people and it's like a switch flipped.
you could hire a contractor to come out and give you an (free?) estimate and the status of the damage to prove to them how bad it is. At least once they see the estimate they'll know its serious.
I'd be honest with them and let them know you're planning on moving out when you can and tell them what you need in the mean time. What does your FI say about all of this?
Is this a family you really want to spend the rest of your life associated with?
Forf whatever reason, it sounds like they are trying to force you to move out. How sad that they have to stoop to such a level to do it.
How to Get Your Landlord to Make Repairs (copied and pasted from http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/renters-rights-minor-repairs-30276.html;jsessionid=4A9E1B427700A17E8E52B827D4C73BB5
It's often harder to enforce your rights to minor repairs than major ones. Tenants in an uninhabitable dwelling are often allowed by law to withhold rent or use "repair and deduct" procedures, but taking those actions for merely minor problems could get you evicted. There are, however, a number of proven strategies for getting landlords to take care of minor problems.
1. Write a repair request. Even if you've already asked your landlord to take care of a problem, a written request is almost always helpful. It gives you a chance to articulate the problem clearly and point out why it's in the landlord's best interest to have it fixed. A letter also allows a reluctant landlord to think it over without having to give you an immediate answer (which often results in a knee-jerk "no").
Try to develop a number of themes in your letter. One effective tactic is to explain that the problem might become worse -- and more costly to the landlord -- if it's not taken care of right away. A landlord might find it easy to ignore your drippy faucet until you point out the possibility of an overflowing sink and water damage to the floors.
Another theme that will grab your landlord's attention is the potential for injury. A hole in the stairway carpeting could cause someone to trip and fall, making the landlord liable for the injury. Landlords are also sensitive to security issues, so be sure to point out any security risks created by your problem, such as a broken lock or faulty hallway light. Finally, if the problem affects other tenants, be sure to emphasize that.
2. Propose mediation. If your oral and written requests are ignored, contact a mediation service, which will invite the landlord to meet with you and a trained mediator. The mediator will help the two of you reach a mutually-acceptable solution, but will not (unlike a judge) impose a solution. Many communities offer free or low-cost mediation services as an alternative to going to court.
3. Report your landlord to your local building or housing agency. Some minor problems may violate local building or housing codes. Call the agency that enforces these codes in your area to find out. (Look under the city or county government listings of your phone book.) Officials at the agency should be able to explain whether your problem violates local or state codes, and may be able to take action against your landlord.
Keep in mind that reporting your landlord won't likely improve your relationship, which may be important to you if you want to stay in your unit for some time. Even state "antiretaliation" laws, which prohibit rent hikes, terminations, or other adverse actions following a tenant's complaint to a government agency or exercise of a legal right, cannot forestall a sour relationship.
4. Sue your landlord in small claims court. If you can prove in court that the unaddressed problems decrease the value of your unit, a judge can award you the difference between what you've been paying in rent and the amount the unit is actually worth. Obviously, suing your landlord is not your best option if you want to salvage your landlord-tenant relationship. But if you've tried everything else and moving elsewhere is not feasible, taking your landlord to court might be the right remedy.
That is awful. I can't imagine the anguish you are going through. This is why I have not and would never rent from anyone I know. If I can't afford to feed/clothe myself or my family then I would do my best to get welfare and/or rent a shack really.
The emotional trauma that people can inflict upon you whom you will know and be attached to FOR LIFE, is not worth it in the end. Your relationship with them is permanently damaged with scars that will stay with you forever. You can forgive them eventually but the pain will always be there.
This is your lesson learned the VERY hard way. Cut your losses and MOVE AWAY IMMEDIATELY. You owe 'em NOTHING at this point. 'Pack yer $hit and git out!'
@rosworms: What if they had never signed a contract with the homeowners? And what if there aren't records of rent being paid, and the owners can just say they were letting them stay for free? Would they still legally count as tenants, with all the rights outlined here?
@Rgeddy: He's extremely angry and we have let them know that we are planning on moving. They say they don't want us to move and his mom cries because she says it's tearing their family apart but they still chose not to fix it. My BIL does estimates. Maybe I will have him look at it and let me know what it would really cost. The worst part is they say they are going to just push it over but it would most likely cost less to fix the roof.
@glorfin: In the 4 years of being with my SO I never saw one thing that would show me that they were going to start acting like this. My SO is absolutely the person I am going to marry and so I will just have to deal from now on I guess.
@smyley: I believe that is what they are doing as well. They refuse to tell us they want more rent but they say that what we are paying in rent is not worth them fixing anything for us.
@rosworms:Thank you for the information! I will have to take some time after work to really go through that.
@Sasha2011: I most definitely never anticipated this and I guess I know better then to ever do something like this again. Especially withouth protecting myself more.
@MsBrooklynA: They don't want you to move and your FMIL cries about it but they won't fix the roof?!?!?!? They want their son and future wife living in a moldy house????
That is just bizarre.
I don't have any good advice aside from keep them at an arm's distance. Something is not right there.
@PinkPinstripes: The kicker is they were worried about mold being in our house previously and they were very concerned about it. They told us they didn't want us getting sick and that they most definitely were worried that was why my SO's allergies were getting worse... Um excuse me??
@MsBrooklynA: I'm so sorry! That sucks! I feel you on the princessy SIL. I've got one too and it drives me up a wall and back down again :-P
WTF? I would have SO tell them you are looking at apartments and are hoping to move out asap. When she does the crying bit etc he needs to tell her that SHE is tearing the family apart and he is not going to continue living with his future wife in an unsafe house. He also should tell them flat out that this is ruining their relationship and that it will take a long time to fix it if ever. Maybe that will wake them up to the fact that they are losing their son.
Do you have family or friends you both could stay with for the time being? I can tell you for sure mold=no good for anyone so you really shouldn't be staying there, it will be horrible for your health. Move out asap.
@Treasure43: Me too. SIL practically prances around with a crown on... (ok, that's a bit harsh, but seriously)
@MsBrooklynA: The worst part is that you know if SIL were in the house and renting from them, they would fix it in a heartbeat.
My future in-laws blatantly play favorites with their kids and it drives me CRAZY. And when I see them, it's so much harder for me to be super nice because I just hate how they've hurt their son.
@PinkPinstripes: When SIL frustrates me from now on I'm going to picture her prancing through a field with a crown on. It will make me smile :)
@Soon2beeMrsM: He has talked to them until he is blue in the face but they just cannot seem to let go of the rope. I have even talked to both his parents and let them know that we do not appreciate the way things have been handled and that if they have any issues with the two of us they need to speak to us not go telling his sister all of their complaints about us.
We are most definitely looking for somewhere else to live but we are not in the financial position we were hoping to be in before we were going to move. It's extremely stressful right now.
@Treasure43:She is the princess of all princess'. Her parents even say that it is no use in trying to teach her to be a better person now because she is always going to be as unforgiving as they tought her to be. Grr!
@PinkPinstripes:The favorites thing kills me! I don't understand it one bit.
Depending on your state, there are regulations for mold in indoor air. If your state does not, a landlord has a duty to maintain a habitable premises. I would pay a lawyer to send them a letter demanding the repairs (get an estimate by at least two reputable vendors). If you have renter's insurance I would go to them for damage to personal property. If there are any medical claims, you would have to go thru your own health insurance company. I would sue them for any out of pocket expsenses and look for another apartment. Good luck
@jumpthegun: if there is no contract or proof that they are paying tenants... then they are probably screwed.
@rosworms: Well hopefully if they aren't legally considered paying tenants, there is still a course of action with the mold being a health hazard for anyone to live with.
Thank you everyone for the advice. We are working as quickly as we can to get out of here. His parents don't seem to even care about us anymore so I'm just completely over it.
IT does NOT matter that there is not a contract. That means you are on a 30 day lease that renews every month you decide to stay. You can proove you are paying rent by showing canceled checks. If you contacted the city you could pay the city your rent (refusing to give it to your IL), until they fix the roof. That way they can't come after you for not paying because you are... but they can't have the money until the roof is fixed.
Sending good luck your way. It'll all work out in the end. But, get the hell outta there. ASAP!
What a horrible situation to be in.
At this point, one thing is obvious: they're not going to fix the roof. And most likely, they're not going to pay to replace your stuff.
You're going to stay with your FI, and those will always be his parents. I think rather than start a war, or start a fight with your FI about his parents... just move out. Write this off as a life lesson and move on.
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I am about to lose my shit! Seriously so fucking angry right now I can barely breathe.
A slight bit of back story....
My SO and I rent from my FILs. Last year 3 very very large pine trees fell on our home. They didn't seem to create any initial damage and we moved on. Over the next 6-9 months my FILs redid their entire kitchen so that my SO's only sister could get the bonus check from the tile place she worked at. They got new granite counter tops, retiled most of their home, re-carpeted certain areas, painted their kitchen, dining room, bedroom, master bath, guest room and other bathroom. They also redid their bedroom with new linens, new paint, decor and redid the bathroom with all the matching accessories. They also bought themselves a new bobcat and completely refurbished the barn on our property with couches, carpet, a brand new bar, rewired the entire thing and new doors and windows.
I am 100% positive they received an insurance check for the damage to our home. They chose NOT to fix our roof AT ALL. Our roof started leaking in one place in about April. We let them know and they let us know that they had chosen not to fix anything about our roof or our home at all. They also let us know that they have chosen to basically push this home over when we eventually move out.
My SO's sister then brought up an entire fight by letting us know (after a few drinks) that my FMIL had told her that we DO NOT pay our rent. Which is NOT true. This has started a HUGE fight in the family. His sister refuses to apologize because she is the type of person that is always right and has never done anything wrong in her life.
Now I've gotten off track. The reason I am bitching now is because OUR FUCKING ROOF IS LEAKING! In like 10 spots!!!! One of which happens to be our bedroom. We are now sleeping in the living room and have discovered that our bed is MOLDING! ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME!!!? I am so fucking pissed. Our mattress is ruined, our box spring is molding and it smells. I obviously don't pick my mattress or box spring up every single day so I had no idea how bad it was.
I officially fucking hate these people for SOO many other reasons besides this one but this is the one that is forcing us to move out. I should also mention that I absolutely adored these people until their daughter moved back in at the beginning of the summer and she has turned his parents right back into the sniveling little princess butlers that they are. I am so angry!