(Closed) and I STILL have to get rid of my cat and it isn’t over an apartment =(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

maybe she can foster your kitty until you’re out of your fathers? i’m sorry. 🙁

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Do you have a friend that could foster the kitty until your husband returns? Sadness. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m sorry I just don’t understand.  Why do you have to go stay with your parents?  and why can’t you just tell your dad that the cat is part of your family?  would he say no way to your daughter coming? 

I just think there are A LOT of alternative options in this situation.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I guess I don’t understand why you can’t live on your own? I would try a lot more among friends and family before giving her up.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

i’m sorry you’re dealing with this.  in my experience men, especially fathers, can be manipulated into ANYTHING.  I’m sure you can get your dad to soften up on the cat thing.  Can you get your mom on your side?  What would happen if you just showed up with the cat?

When i was about 21 and still living with my parents i got a cat even though i knew my dad was dead set against one, (he hated cats).  i brought him home and my dad told me to get rid of it/find another home for it.  I told him i would.  Some time went by and as i was “looking” for another home, my dad just got used to the cat being there.  Now my dad and the cat have an intense love affair and are inseparable.  moral of the story: don’t accept an answer you don’t like.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

LOL, Meowkers.  I was thinking something similar…

@ OP, can you have your daughter cry to grampa that she just can’t part with her pretty kitty?  (Gosh, that’s like contributing to the delinquency of a minor.)

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@ JamieMichelle – So right now you live in North Carolina (I gather from your status), your family (parents) live in Texas, and your hubby is going to help with the cleanup effort in Louisiana for what likely will be 6 months. You said it wouldn’t make sense for you to live on your own with your cat and daughter – is it just becuase you would prefer to be with your family, or is it a financial concern? Based on the situation as you have presented it, I think the other posters are having a hard time understanding why you can’t either stay in your current place (I remember another thread about you wanting to move to a new place anyway) or move to a new apartment in the same place you currently live, and have hubby move back after he is done in Louisiana. That way you don’t have to live out of a hotel, and you can keep your kitty. Would that work? What line of work is your husband in?

I hope everything works out for you and your family!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am so, so sorry.   I know that I would be devasted if I have to get rid of my kitty.  Good luck, and I hope your father changes his mind.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

yay i’m so glad it worked out for you and your kitty.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I am glad that things are working out better, but PLEASE get your kitty spayed!  The heat cycles are not good for her health and will make her much more likely to get cancerous mammary tumors.  She will handle being at the vet fine, we deal with these scaredy-cats regularly, just warn the vet that she is scared and needs a place to hide in her cage (we give them the bottom half of a paperbag so they can hide from us in they want to.)

They do not usually regress from being spayed, she will not have to warm up to you all over again and in fact she will likely be more calm and relaxed once she is spayed. 

I think it is important that you teach your daughter that pets are important and that you don’t just ‘get rid of them’ ( I HATE that phase!) when they are inconvient. 

I am glad the neighbor thing will work out, if not I was going to suggest you stay in your apartment and call your parents constantly to tell them how lonely and blue you are and how you wish you could come home if only they’d let you (bring the cat.)  If not giving up the cat is not an option they may have relented.

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