and I thought everything was so easy… our first big snag

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@futuremrsmcq:  can you just do an insert in The programs? That sucks though, im sorry

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If he hasn’t already offered, you should try to get him to find a priest for you, especially since it’s his mistake. Priests know a lot more other priests than you do, and he’s more likely to be able to get someone to do it as a personal favor to *him* than you are. 

And, I doubt anyone would care about the wrong name in the program. Just have someone announce it at some point. (Maybe even the new priest would in the homily; explain how you got him last minute and why he’s not the same guy in the program.)

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

He didn’t say what the “vacation” was and 2 weeks out and unplanned it could be somthing in the relm of an ailing relative or their own illness/need for surgery.  This happened at our parish…some priests are incredibly private and just dodge questions by saying “vacaiton”

He should ask another priest.  As far as the programs….quite frankly no one is going to care if they are not good buddies with the preist.  Paper is going the way of the dinosaurs so years from now they probably won’t even exist.  Have the cantor announce….that’s really all you need.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@futuremrsmcq:  Yeah just announce the understudy at the start of the mass.  No big on that – if it’s good enough for Broadway, it’s good enough for you :p

Did he not arrange someone else?  That should fall on him, really.  Is he the only priest in the parish?  Just ask him if he can reccomend someone.  I mean, if you don’t have a relationship with him, a priest is a priest.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@searock:  I second this. Our priest often has to take unexplained “vacations” and we all know why. He takes on way too much and has to take ample time off so he doesn’t have a nervous breakdown! It’s happened in the past. But we don;t ever talk about it! He’s on “vacation” a lot, lol.

I say leave the programs as is. No one will care.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@futuremrsmcq:  Side note, at my sister’s wedding, our priest, with whom we did have a long and close relationship, was, on short notice, not going to be celebrating.  He arranged for another priest he knew to come over from out of town.  She’d been having lots of trouble with her in-laws, who had to stick their fingers in, and control, everything.  Fr. Darek was out of town, so he called in Fr. Jarek, so really he was only one letter different, lol.  Anyway Fr. Jarek delivered this homily about not interfering.  No one expected it; it was awesome.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

There should be plenty of priests to choose from. Look into other priests at the parish and other priests at local parishes.. I know often when the church only has one or two priests they’ll have another come in and sub for the week/weekend he’s on vacation.

As for the programs… I’d just leave them be. We had a minor error (wrong psalm # entered in) and I could do absolutely nothing about it. I only noticed it during the ceremony that it was a different page I had noted, not sure if it was an error on my part or if the music director gave me the wrong number, but I didn’t care and I didn’t hear anything about it. I would just have the cantor announce that along with the standard “please turn off your cell phones and other noisy devices” announcement.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@futuremrsmcq:  If it makes you feel any better, I’m not even doing programs. Trust me, NO ONE CARES.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@solidarity:  I’m not doing programs either.  High five!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The important thing is to find another priest that is available. That is it. Nobody cares about program, would be waste of money to reprint. 

If it makes you feel better, i am 2 months from my wedding and don’t have the ceremony planned as the priest is now refusing to marry us (I am catholic, he is greek orthodox, and the priest claims there’s paperowrk missing)… So as long as you HAVE a priest and a ceremony, you are cool!

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