Post # 1
Slightly over two weeks out. Phone call from priest who we have been preparing with for 6+ months.
He wrote down the wrong weekend and will be out of town for our wedding.
While he’s a great priest and I would have loved for him to celebrate our wedding, neither of us were PARTICULARLY close to him so it’s not that that I’m upset about…
IT’S FINDING ANOTHER PRIEST TWO WEEKS OUT.
AND what to do with our programs. We had them printed two weeks ago (perfectly reasonable, yes?)… We used a small business for our printing and I’ve really built a relationship with them. What chance do I have that they’ll reprint at a discount? OR, am I the only one that cares and I can have the cantor announce before mass starts that Fr. XYZ will be celebrating in the absence of Fr. ABC?? Opinions on this.
AHHHHH it couldn’t be easy right? haha everything else has gone pretty well so I’m just hoping we have enough time to jump this hurdle!
Post # 3
@futuremrsmcq: can you just do an insert in The programs? That sucks though, im sorry
Post # 4
If he hasn’t already offered, you should try to get him to find a priest for you, especially since it’s his mistake. Priests know a lot more other priests than you do, and he’s more likely to be able to get someone to do it as a personal favor to *him* than you are.
And, I doubt anyone would care about the wrong name in the program. Just have someone announce it at some point. (Maybe even the new priest would in the homily; explain how you got him last minute and why he’s not the same guy in the program.)
Post # 5
He didn’t say what the “vacation” was and 2 weeks out and unplanned it could be somthing in the relm of an ailing relative or their own illness/need for surgery. This happened at our parish…some priests are incredibly private and just dodge questions by saying “vacaiton”
He should ask another priest. As far as the programs….quite frankly no one is going to care if they are not good buddies with the preist. Paper is going the way of the dinosaurs so years from now they probably won’t even exist. Have the cantor announce….that’s really all you need.
Post # 6
@futuremrsmcq: Yeah just announce the understudy at the start of the mass. No big on that – if it’s good enough for Broadway, it’s good enough for you :p
Did he not arrange someone else? That should fall on him, really. Is he the only priest in the parish? Just ask him if he can reccomend someone. I mean, if you don’t have a relationship with him, a priest is a priest.
Post # 7
@searock: I second this. Our priest often has to take unexplained “vacations” and we all know why. He takes on way too much and has to take ample time off so he doesn’t have a nervous breakdown! It’s happened in the past. But we don;t ever talk about it! He’s on “vacation” a lot, lol.
I say leave the programs as is. No one will care.
Post # 8
@futuremrsmcq: Side note, at my sister’s wedding, our priest, with whom we did have a long and close relationship, was, on short notice, not going to be celebrating. He arranged for another priest he knew to come over from out of town. She’d been having lots of trouble with her in-laws, who had to stick their fingers in, and control, everything. Fr. Darek was out of town, so he called in Fr. Jarek, so really he was only one letter different, lol. Anyway Fr. Jarek delivered this homily about not interfering. No one expected it; it was awesome.
Post # 9
There should be plenty of priests to choose from. Look into other priests at the parish and other priests at local parishes.. I know often when the church only has one or two priests they’ll have another come in and sub for the week/weekend he’s on vacation.
As for the programs… I’d just leave them be. We had a minor error (wrong psalm # entered in) and I could do absolutely nothing about it. I only noticed it during the ceremony that it was a different page I had noted, not sure if it was an error on my part or if the music director gave me the wrong number, but I didn’t care and I didn’t hear anything about it. I would just have the cantor announce that along with the standard “please turn off your cell phones and other noisy devices” announcement.
Post # 10
@Duncan: Yeah just announce the understudy at the start of the mass. No big on that – if it’s good enough for Broadway, it’s good enough for you :p
HAHAHA I LOLed for real at this.
thanks all 🙂 you’ve made me feel a lot better! he did make it sound like it really was a date mix up, not a last minute out of town type thing, but either way he’s going. he used to be the only priest at the parish when I went there (it’s my parents’ church) but a new priest has just come in that my mom hasn’t even been to mass with yet! he has said the new priest will do it or he would find one so I definitely don’t fault him for doing what he can. my mom is going to go to mass with the new priest this weekend and be my eyes 🙂 We’ve also called our priest from college (super late notice so I don’t think it’ll happen but it would be super serendipetous!)
I’m hopeful for a good outcome no matter what! At first my biggest freak out was the programs so that you for the reassurance that no one REALLY gives a flying you know what 🙂
Post # 11
@futuremrsmcq: If it makes you feel any better, I’m not even doing programs. Trust me, NO ONE CARES.
Post # 12
@solidarity: I’m not doing programs either. High five!
Post # 13
The important thing is to find another priest that is available. That is it. Nobody cares about program, would be waste of money to reprint.
If it makes you feel better, i am 2 months from my wedding and don’t have the ceremony planned as the priest is now refusing to marry us (I am catholic, he is greek orthodox, and the priest claims there’s paperowrk missing)… So as long as you HAVE a priest and a ceremony, you are cool!