And i thought people asking for an invitation was rude ….

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MrsC2014:  Wow. That lady has PROBLEMS. Feel sorry for the GM!

Post # 4
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MrsC2014:  Oh my. That’s a new one for me. Psychoooooooo!

Post # 5
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsC2014:  holy S on a cracker, that lady has issues! SERIOUS issues. Rant away girl! Chick has mad jealousy and distrust issues… 

I’m so glad you didn’t agree! 

Post # 6
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsC2014:  I feel sorry for that man dealing with her insecurities.

Post # 7
2694 posts
Sugar bee

You did the right thing. How strange.

Post # 8
4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MrsC2014:  Never heard that one before- how bizarre!! 

Post # 9
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is truly bonkers. She’s coming across as desperately needy and worryingly jealous and of course you shouldn’t be including her as a bridesmaid in these circumstances.

I wonder if it would help if the words “pairing up” are taken out of the equation though. Only they are bound to be a bit of a trigger to someone so clearly irrational! Instead, she needs to be told that her husband will walk down the aisle next to someone (that’s what happens at weddings!) in full view of everyone present. When photographs are done, he’ll have to stand next to someone. Sometimes it might be your DH. At other times, the whole bridal party. But again, these are formal wedding pictures. Not snapshots from a Roman orgy.

Regardless of what you do to put her fears at rest, this level of jealousy must make her damned near impossible to live with though. Her husband must find this all very difficult and not a little embarassing.


Post # 10
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

We had a jealousy situation like this at my BFFs wedding, but no one asked her if the woman could be in the wedding party! She just had to deal with it. She was the SO of the BM and I was the MOH. She stared daggers at us while walking down the aisle. The worst part was that my BFF had a bridal party dance – the whole time I had to dance with the BM and he kept telling me how angry it was probably making his girlfriend. I think the whole wedding made her angry to be honest. She had been with him for 5-6 years and I think the waiting was getting to her.

Post # 11
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MrsC2014:  Um, how old is his wife, 14? Seriously, I know teenagers with less insecurity issues. Good for you for standing your ground.

I feel bad for the GM and his partnered-up 16-year-old BM as she may be the recipient of some dagger eyes from Crazy Wifey.

Post # 12
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Wow. That is just so sad. He must have been mortified to even have to ask that. What a nut job!!

Post # 13
2136 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That does sound a little on the psycho side. However, I can’t help but wonder if SHE was actually crazy enough to have him ask for her to be in the bridal party, or if HE thought that maybe since he was close with you guys, HE decided to ask?

Post # 14
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@MrsC2014:  I can’t believe she would have him ask that. You’re right to feel put off… how bizarre!

Post # 15
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That is SO bizarre!

I could maybe understand it if, let’s say, her husband would be walking with his college ex-GF that the thought seriously about marrying (or, worse, his actual ex-wife or something)

But I’m pretty sure he’s not going to get into any trouble with your 16 year old sister!

Post # 16
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

That is weirdddd.

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