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and I thought I was having a drama free wedding.... 23 days to go...

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    AshleyB    February 11, 2012   so cal

    so I thought I was going to be the one bride who got through wedding planning with out any drama... well 23 days from the wedding and drama hit...

     

    one of the groomsmen, who FI was the best man in his wedding and we spent 150 on there tux, and we woke up at 4:30 AM the day of there wedding to help set up everything tables and decor, and then stay late to clean up and take all there gifts to there house. with out a thank you was giving us drama over the price of the tux. and it was his wife who was texting FI About it all... t

     

    she is nortious for bein the biggest bitch in the world.... so our tuxes were 20 busks more then theres. they got married 3 years ago... all they have to do for our wedding is rent a tux and show up. no cleaning, no prep work nothing else. and she turns into mega bitch and gets made that we ordered a tux and it has a tie included in the package but we bought our own ties because they dodnt have the color we wanted, sorry we were not using it but its a package deal... she bitched about the find that they are Calvin Klien, with fancy button covers. so FI went down and paid 50 bucks towrads his tx and since he did iit for them he did it for every one.

    Then all of a sudden they claim they cant make it to the rehershal...

    AND THEN   today she text and has to ask about who he is walking down the asile with... I really do not get it why would you cause drama over these two things... and its not the money they both have really, really well paying jobs....

    we have 8 groomsmen and 7 bridesmaids not one of the others have made a peep about anything drama related... I dont get why they would make a big deal about little things, espically since they went though a whole wedding them selfs and had there share of drama... you would think they would be like, wow weddings are stressful I will just go with the flow so I dont cause drama but no, she has to be mega bitch once again....

     

    Really, you agree to be in someones wedding you should be able to put all your drama asaide for one day....

     

    I text FI back and said to tell her we had a last min addition to the wedding party and kate (groomsmens ex girlfriend who was his 1st and long time girlfriend for like 4 years) was added to the bridal party and she is walking with him....

     
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    abirdword    September 30, 2012   California

    Yikes!  She sounds really controlling and a PITA.

    I'm not really sure what you should do, but I vote ignore her!  She's not the groomsan, her husband is.  If he needs to know something, he can ask ur FI.  All the guys have to do is rent a tux.  If it's too much hassle for them, they can back out.

     

     
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    AshleyB    February 11, 2012   so cal

    Thats what I told FI if she cares this much then he sould backout... she is obviosly jealious of our wedding heres was not even lying or being mean but the worst, cheapest, ghettoest, drama filled weddings i have ever been to and I have been to my fair share of weddings over my life time... I think she is trying to invlove herself inthings that dont matter, like who cares who he walks donw the asile with....

     
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    medsie35    March 10, 2012  

    @AshleyB:  Hahaha that text idea about groomsmen's ex gf is awesome.  Totally something I would want to do.

     
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    MrsTCB    August 10, 2012  

    @AshleyB:  honestly...stop texting w/HER. she's not even in the wedding and she's obviously really insecure. so nothing you say will be ok with her and it's a waste of breath.

    her husband prob knows she's insane and will do his best to show up Day of.

     
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    RunsWithBears    September 29, 2012  

    1. Weddings are not tit for tat.  The sooner you understand this the better off and more drama free you will be.  It was really nice of you and your FI to put all that time and effort into your friends' wedding, but it's not fair to expect that from them (though it would be awesome if they returned the gesture).

    2. Did you ask your GM privately what their budgets are before you went out and picked tuxes and ties? If you didn't I can see why they are upset.  Yes, your FI spent so much for your friends' wedding, but that doesn't mean he can afford it now.  And I don't care if you think they have well-paying jobs, you do not know their fiancial situation and you don't know what they can and cannot afford.    Howver, I admit that It is weird though that she is the one telling you it's too much - your GM should really be confornting your FI about it.  It was nice that you put $50 towards the cost of the tux.

    3. Is there a reason they can't make the rehearsal?  People do have lives, maybe something important came up.  You said so yourself that all they have to do is show up to the wedding, clean, sober, and dressed appropriately.

    4. I'm sorry, I just don't see the big deal about her asking who her H is walking down the aisle with.

     

    OP, I think you need to calm down and relax.  Unless she is literally yelling and screaming and throwing things I don't see how she has caused all this drama.

     

     
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    AshleyB    February 11, 2012   so cal

    @ Runswithbears... I was just venting, and you dont need to be so harsh in your response.... I was never the one to make it tit for tat GM's wife was the one who had to compare eveything. I just stated it in the post to give a comparsion as to the fact that we would go above and beyond for our firends because that is the kind of people we are where she is self centered. The GM him self had no issue with the price it was all his wife she was the one who texted my FI. she is just a drama queen who is super jealious of our wedding. she was trying to be contralling by telling us what we needed and didnt need for our wedding.

     

    I have had no contact with either GM or his wife she has been the one texting my FI.

     

    I am plenty calm I just thought it was a funny sisuation. that the wife was the one who had issues and causeing drama when she is not invloved in the wedding.... but I digress.... issue is fixed and now we are on to bigger things. my one bridesmaid who is flying in from Japan just let me know her dress wont fit... and we have someone who RSVP'd for two people and now are brinig 6. including 2 kids... weddings are fun to plan.

     
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    RunsWithBears    September 29, 2012  

    @AshleyB:  Sorry my response was harsh.  I meant it to be honest and blunt.  I just read your post as "OMG we did all of this and she's being a b*tch for not doing the same for us."  And most of times when people vent like that, I try and point out the other side of the story.  Perhaps the venter was being unreasonable and once they realize that they can calm down.  Also it might prevent furture drama and stress.  I'm glad to hear that this isn't the case though and that it was a more confused WTF? rant and that you weren't sitting at your computer freaking out.  And I honestly meant it when I said it was really nice of you to do all that for your friend.

    I'm glad the issue is fixed.  If the GM said he was ok with that price, then I agree that she was way out of line texting your FI that it was too expensive.

    Good luck with the rest of your issues though. I can't believe someone whould RSVP for 2 people and then bring 6! 

     
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    andilovesjosh      

    Sounds like a nightmare.

    I would either nicely tell her to please chill out and back off or ignore all the drama and enjoy your last few weeks before the wedding.

     

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