Post # 1
Finalised ring in November and ordered and paid for it then.
Arrived in December.
I’ve had a really good couple of months, been really happy, told my SO I was happy to wait etc.
Then today… it’s been a long day. Our new bed’s been delivered, engineer was over at 8am this morning, family friends have been over to start working on bathroom, phone’s been ringing all day, and I have a list of things a mile high to get on with, renewal time for home insurance and tarriff being changed with gas company so trying to find a new one so it’s not too much dearer, etc etc!
And then one of the people that were in my house doing the bathroom, W, is the fiance of one of my best friends from high school. They have two kids together, and will be getting married on their 4th year anniversary. So, W turns round to me and says “Haven’t you and A being going out longer than me and M? Does he not want to marry you? Etc”
Wow. Thanks. I just feel crappy now.
Post # 3
You have my permission to hit him on the head–really hard!
Post # 4
@KoiKove: Lol, thanks 🙂 I think I’ll wait til after my bathroom is done 😉
But it’s so hard sometimes, you know? And people do not help!
Post # 5
I have this theory that the worse it feels now while you’re waiting, the better it will feel once you’re engaged. Sort of like a reverse polarity lol. Just hang in there, at least you know he’s got the ring!
Post # 6
dude is an idiot- I would say don’t let it ruin your day but I know if that was said to me it would ruin mine, so I’ll just say “I feel ya”
Post # 8
Ouch. That’s about as stupid as one of my friends’ husbands to her the day after the baby was born: “the baby is crying when you try to feed it. why does she not like you?”
ummm, yeah. Fail, and slap-worthy.
Post # 9
What an ASS! No one has ever said that to me and I have plenty of friends who have been dating way less than us and I don’t see why that would be an issue. Rude friend you have 🙁 Keep your head up! Seriously, there is nothing to be upset about 🙂 Your man has the ring…..you WILL get it! 😀 That is sooo exciting! Try your very best to be patient love 🙂
Post # 10
I know it sucks to have someone say something like that to you, but at least you know a proposal is on its way! He has the ring! Don’t let stupid, rude comments like that get you down.
Post # 11
Wow, guys can be stupid and clueluess! Sounds like life is a stressful mess right now, so ignore him, and focus on the positives. You’ve got a great guy, are going to be engaged soon, and it seems like you’ll be settled in your home before you get married. You’re doing what is best for you and your SO, and will be better off because of it =)
Post # 12
Men can be very insensitive.
He may not have been trying to be mean. Often men say things that may seem blunt or mean, but in fact they are trying to turn their (simple) thoughts into a real conversation. Perhaps he was trying to give a subtle hint that he thinks your man should mary you.
I think all the women of the world would be millionaires if they had a dollar for every time men said something insentive or stupid to them.
Post # 13
@Mrs.SleepyKitty: How did you manage to restrain yourself from punching him? Seriously well dont for not slapping him. What an awful question. It’s the worst question in the world and should be immediately banned
Post # 14
Thanks bees 🙂 I had a really good day yesterday, and best night’s sleep ever in the new bed. SO is also taking a half day today to help me tidy up the house and sort out insurance and gas/elec so that’s good. Hopefully this happy stage will last me a good while more!
And just call me the saint of self-restraint 😛
Post # 15
I just read everyone’s messages again, and I just want you all to know how much they meant to me. It really helped that you all felt the same and didn’t think I was being silly. And of course, thank you so much for the kind words. I love WB! <3
Post # 16
What a rude question!
Me and my fiance just now decided to get married, and last november we celebrated 10 years together! If you are happy together, you don’t need to have the paper about it and a ring on your finger.
We live happely together, many of our friends managed to marry and devorce and find a new love in this 10 years time, but we are still together. I remember a friend of my saying to my face ” Look i am getting married and you still not “. But gess what ? She is devorced! Think about that! Marriege or engagement won’t make you happy, if something is wrong in the relationship nothing will save it. From your writing i feel everything is good with your man otherwise. So dont worry, you will get engaged when the time is right for you bouth and you will get married!
Look we finally decided, that it will be fantastic way to celebrate our love with the wedding, and whole our famely managed to loose hopes that this day will ever come hehe
Wishing you all the best sweety! <3