Post # 1
The wedding drama begins…today I got a phone call and FI’s grandmother wants to know why some people from her family are not invited to my shower. This is like her niece and their kids we are talkking about. Bottom line is we don’t know any of those people, and we can’t afford to invite them to our wedding. FI’s parents are divorced and this side of the family her never sees ever. We invited everyone we know and see, and FI was firm with not inviting them since he and I are paying for the wedding.
I heard about this drama through other family members, so I made FI call the grandmother and tell her not to talk to others about and to call us with questions or concerns. Now she is not coming to the shower! Why why why do weddings cause this kind of drama.
Are we wrong? I feel terrible now, and I am mad she is not coming to the shower. End vent sorry I had to get it out. Thanks for listening bees.
Has anyone else had to deal with this type of situation, and what did you do?
Post # 3
OMG…I came here to vent myself… Wedding are just so full of drama.
Espeically from women. Young and jealous or old and set in her ways…
And then the guilt…the guilt of not shelling out more and more money to have the wedding you want.
Hopefully Granny is just upset and her feelings will pass.
Post # 4
I dont think you were wrong. Hopefully it will pass and she will calm down.
Post # 5
i dont think you were wrong – these are people you do not know plus its your dime, you can invite whomever you choose to invite. its your FIs side of the family and he said not to invite them, end of discussion grandma – hopefully she will get over it
Post # 6
Some people actually don’t understand that you can’t invite people to your shower if you don’t intend to have them at the wedding. Well, you can, but that’s mighty rude! My FMIL keeps saying who all she’s going to invite to the shower, but none of these people are invited to the wedding (and she knows it!). Maybe your FI’s grandma just thought the relatives would at least be included. Either way, it’s really none of her concern. I don’t understand why people make such a fuss over stupid crap.