(Closed) And I've hit the wall.. and possibly turned Bridezilla :( (vent)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Soon2bSykes:  What your BMs did was unexcusible. They waited for THAT LONG to tell the bride the dress does not fit? That is NOT your fault. At this point, they either find a dress or you may have to rearrange the bridal party.

Hopefully your sister will get her plane ticket.

I ran into some bumps towards the end. Some in the bridal party didnt get their tuxs until the very.last.day. If they waited 24 more hours, there would have been 2 men outof the party. They were having money issues but still it caused stress.

My JBM didn’t get her dress until a week before the wedding. It came in that Wednesday; we married that Saturday. Lucily we ordered a size that fit!!!!

Hopefully everything will work out!!

Post # 4
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1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Soon2bSykes:  I turned a little bit bridezilla a couple weeks before the wedding – had a minor dress disaster, bridesmaid issues, tux problems, program fiascos, etc… but in the end, even with minor hiccups, everything worked out. Just take a deep breath (hard to do, I know) and trust that your day is going to be amazing!!

Post # 6
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Why can’t they get a tailor to resize the dresses? If the dresses are too small the tailor can always add a triangle panel in a neutral color to the backs of the dresses. You won’t see in photos. 

 

Post # 7
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2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is not your fault and they definitely should have said something the moment they knew the dress didn’t fit.  Give them an ultimatum:

Dear *bridesmaid,*

Please rent *this specific* dress from LBD (order 2 sizes if you need to!) or get your J.Crew dress tailored.  Please let me know which option you choose by *this date.*  See you soon.

Soon2bSykes

Post # 8
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Who wants to bet that eight months ago at least one of those bridesmaids ordered her dress too small on purpose because she was totally going to fit into it by the time she wore it?

That’s the only reason I can come up with that they didn’t deal with it ASAP when the dress showed up and didn’t fit and waited until now to say something. 

 

@BooRadley:  +1

Post # 10
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2274 posts
Buzzing bee

I would tell them to have the dresses tailored, crash some weight off, or crash some weight off and then get the damn dress tailored. Jeez, wtf is wrong with them? Who waits 8 months to mention it?

Post # 11
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Yes! That’s crazy….I’m already going crazy over my BM dresses as well. One of my BM don’t have her dress yet and the deadline was 1 October! The Bridal Shop said it’s going to take 12 weeks!!! I’m not reminding her again, if she don’t have it….then she is not in the wedding. I think the worst part about planning is the wedding party! Getting them all on the right track is ANNOYING!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 13
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2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

They ordered the dresses, they should have ordered the correct size, shouldn’t bee too hard to know the size you wear. On top of that they waited until way too much time had passed to even mention anythign, well honestly, the dresses are their responsibility, they needed to order correct sizes and since they didn’t and the dresses are too small, they need to figure out for themselves with a seamstress, if anything can be done. And if a seamstress can’t fix it, they need to search high and low starting on ebay for that dress in the correct size and suck it up. 

It’s their mistake, not yours, they shouldn’t be making it your problem.

Post # 14
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yes!! I did. My MOH (sister) and BM had free reign over choosing their dresses, because the coral ones I bought at Gap didn’t fit them (they were super clearanced, but I was able to return). Then I found one at TJMaxx (beach wedding)…we couldn’t find another one in the states they live in. Returned. My BM found a suitable dress in KY at Gordman’s. Mailed one to my sister. Sister says it’s too hoochie for her. (However she is planning on shortening it..so..wth) Finally I just told them both to find a pale color dress that would go with my vintage, beachy, turquoise/gold/cream wedding. My MOH found a gauzy long dress at Old Navy, and my sister wore a short white 1950’s style dress. At that point I didn’t even care. The flower girls wore big messy white tutus that I made with white tanks, and my dress was gold/cream with a blue cardigan so it all worked out. But seriously, at the end I was going to lose it! They bought their dresses the last week before the wedding.

Post # 15
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1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Soon2bSykes:  Date twin! Sorry you are going through this but I feel your pain. My sister/MOH ordered her dress too small and it would not zip up a week ago. We could not order another dress in time and I as not going to let her buy some random dress that didnt match the other girls. I suggested she get a corset put in and luckily that solved the issue. I agree that its their mistake not yours so they need to figure out how to fix it and not stress you out.

I decided that I may have to stop fighting the bridezilla in me and let it out! Hahahah

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