(Closed) And just like that I went from 4 bridesmaids to 3….

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

That really stinks!  Sorry you have to go through that.

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Man…that’s too bad :/

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Awww I’m so sorry!! I had a similar situation where one of my BM’s talked badly about me behind my back, said she had no idea why my FI would marry someone like me, etc, etc. Our friendship fizzled out and she is no longer a BM. Our friendship totally changed once I got engaged, as have my other friendships with my single friends.

I wish I had some real advice for you, but I know how you feel. Hang in there!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

eeek. that sucks. how bad was the msg? I mean if she was just saying that she didnt like your hair and that you were stressing her out etc I think I would still forgive the person. If it was bad bad I wouldnt want her there..but idk, ive said kinda mean stuff behind peoples backs before when theres a lot of stress, its not because I dont like them its because Im venting and probably dont mean it

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

That is weird, I dont blame you for wanting her out. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MrsDTMajor:  I think you made the right choice, it’s crazy how many people’s true colors come out in this whole process.  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Right. and with only a few months to go until your wedding, the last thing you need is a bm who isn’t going to be there for you. I’m so sorry this is happening to you, but I don’t disagree with what you are doing. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I thinking having her at this point is the best choice. No one wants negative feelings on the wedding day and its for a valid reason

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have heard about this kind of thing happening too. And I didnt believe it was that common until it happened to me.. today!! My BEST friend just sent me messages saying how selfish i have been over the last few months when I have tried over and over to talk to her. She basically tells me rudly that she will be too busy to be in my wedding bc shes going to medical school. When we talked about that in the beginning and I rescheduled my entire wedding around her… wow. Its a really big blow when people disappoint you this way. But I think its true that when something this big comes along in your life, you really find out who your real friends are. Maybe its better that you found out ahead of time like I did. Now we can both put them aside.. and focus on ourselves. Like they have basically blamed us for doing anyways. Turns out that did you a favor for revealing their true selves. and saved you money. Sorry about your loss of friend.. I know how bad it hurts at such an important time in your life. Prayer helps..

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Wow I’m so sorry that happened. Sometimes the bride isn’t justified with asking a bridesmaid to step down but you definitely are! I would never want a woman standing up with me at my wedding who would do that to me. That isn’t a friend or frenemy.. that’s just an enemy. Good for you for standing up for yourself and not allowing people to walk all over you. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel like I could’ve written this post myself! My MOH is my cousin and she just last week sent me a nasty email followed up by a nasty phone call the next night. She was calling me selfish, etc. too.

I’m glad that you had the guts to stand up to your bridesmaid and that you have someone who wants to stand up for you and support you! 🙂

Hang in there…people are showing their true colors… Green with Envy…

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