(Closed) And now I will actually post about this…..

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Wow, that’s harsh. Maybe it would be good if you guys had a talk about what’s bothering you. I agree that it’s a good idea not to “fire” her, it’s probably best just to ignore her the best you can and try to focus on more positive things on wedding day.

Post # 4
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@HardyPooleParty: ahh sisters. I went went through the same issue with mine.

I would just leave it to be hoonest. I confronted my issues with my sister, and she took the time to call me bridezilla to my face. I think your sister is just venting and that what people do. Maybe she just wants attention so an anon. bitch post on the internet will get it.

 

If you confront her she will quit, or you will want heer to quit more and come the wedidng day…you will both be sad. Atleast thats how i felt about my situation.

Post # 5
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Whoa. It seems the feelings are mutual though, and since she IS  your sister, I’d have to second the “talk it out beforehand” solution.

Post # 6
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2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think you should talk to her about what you read.  Explain how much it hurts you and see if you can understand what’s going on with her.  It’s hard, I know.  I have sister drama too.  Good luck to you.

Post # 7
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sit down and talk to her, be as calm as possible about everything going on. If things get going in a “drama” fashion, then bring up the fact of her posting these things (with print outs) and offer her an out, don’t “fire” her but say that if she feels this way then you understand her not being at the wedding and leave it at that.

 

The reason I say print it out, is that if she tries telling people you “fired” her or are making things up about her, you have proof and she knows you have proof.

Post # 10
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2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Sounds like she might be a bit jealous.

Post # 11
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I personaly wouldnt want someone in my wedding who doesnt want to be in it.

Post # 12
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3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think this is all a bit vague to be giving advice on. It doesn’t sound like either of you are handling each other or the wedding related issues very well.

I say ignore negative comments, be thankful for positive comments, and don’t have more interactions with her than necessary. Whether she’s a bitch that’s had enough with you or whether you’re being a bitch or a bit of both or whether she’s jealous or what doesn’t really matter.

Get through the wedding and makeup when you have available emotional energy.

Post # 13
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9825 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

She’s allowed to vent on the ‘net. You’re doing the same thing right now, right? Just get through the wedding, don’t do anything drastic, and talk to her when it’s over with. Family is forever, so there is no point in adding more friction over a wedding. Unfortunately sometimes weddings can bring out the worst in people.

Post # 15
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You need to talk to her.  You’ve got 3 months to figure it out.  My sister is my MOH and she’s working really hard on stuff for me and the wedding, but we sometimes have fights… we just work it out.  let her know you appreciate all she’s done, but saw what she said and think you should figure out why she’s so upset with you and make it better.

Post # 16
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6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@HardyPooleParty: sounds to me like she could be a little jealous, plus sisters seem to nautrally fight so i am actually surprised we dont hear about this more.   based on what is written above some of it might be due to that.  the attention is on you and she is not happy about that so she is going to talk trash about your wedding when really im sure she is happy for you – if talking to her isnt going to work then i would just not aknowledge it – stop talking to her about the wedding and only engage her if necessary.. if she cant be adult enough to talk through issues its not even worth your time…i mean its family – its not like you guys wont work it out eventually ya know? is she younger?

I hope she comes around and steps up to the role of MOH and becomes supportive but don’t stress if she doesn’t some people are just not so good at the supportive role.

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