(Closed) AND now she's ignoring me…

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
Member
6503 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ZebraPrintMe:  don’t talk to her anymore.

I would rather have someone ignore me than do what she was doing originally.

Post # 4
Member
791 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I say just give her some time. 

If I was reprimanded for my behavior, as inappropriate as the behavior was, I would probably have a beef with the person I thought reported me.  I wouldn’t take it personally.  Ignoring you isn’t polite, but it’s better than the nitpicking.

Post # 6
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12998 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why do you bother.  I’d probably had told her to go f–k herself already and then ignored her existance.  She’s obviously going to be a pain and getting a rise out of it cause you just keep trying.  Keep it strictly professional.  Say what you need and no more.

Post # 9
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2581 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

@ZebraPrintMe:  In which case I definitely think it’s worth having a talk about now!

Post # 10
Member
4212 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What she’s doing is bullying. You need to file another complaint with HR. 

Post # 11
Member
6503 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ZebraPrintMe:  I would only speak to her when absolutely needed. Don’t try to be friendly. If she won’t cooperate when it comes to work than you should talk to your manager again. Don’t say hi, don’t smile, don’t talk about anything unless it’s work related.

She might have heard from someone that you talked to your manager and HR. TBH I would be a bit embarrassed and probably not want to talk as well (even though she was clearly in the wrong before). I just wouldn’t expect her to be friendly. I would be thankful that she stopped the nitpicking.

Post # 13
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6503 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ZebraPrintMe:  okay I see! Gosh that would be terrible if you found out she was a bee!  At least she would know how mean she is!

On that case, I have no idea why her behavior changed. I don’t think HR can force her to say hi to you or get your papers so I would just leave it alone unless it starts affecting your work communication or if she starts up her previous behavior.

Sorry you have to deal with this! I will just never understand mean people!

Post # 15
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3223 posts
Sugar bee

@ZebraPrintMe:  I don’t understand why her ignoring you is a problem.  It sounds like the ideal situation for someone who is terrible to you.

So what if she doesn’t get your printing?  Get up and get your own.  She doesn’t owe you picking up your printing.  I wouldn’t even want her touching my printing.  I don’t wnat her to know what I am doing/working on.

Speak to her, only when you need to, and expect the same. 

You don’t like her, so I don’t know why you want her to talk to you.

 

Post # 16
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@ZebraPrintMe:  Stop trying with this woman. Do what you need to do with her to get your job done, be professional and civil, but otherwise ignore her. Don’t be hostile, just stop worrying about her. Document her behavior – the PA and outright aggressive things she does tO let you know she doesn’t like you. The next time she mutters something under her breath, ask her calmly, “what did you say?” 

 

Go back to HR and discuss her latest behavior. Give specific examples. She’s creating a hostile work environment. Tell HR you just want a pleasant and cooperative working relationship. that if she has any issues with you or your work, youre willing to hear her out but would like the hostility to stop.  Maybe suggest a meeting with you, her and an HR to see if you can work out whatever the hell her problem is. She doesn’t have to like you, but she does need to work with you in a polite and mature manner.

Watch how you handle yourself. If you retaliate, you give her ammunition to use against you and HR will approach it as a problem with both of you.  

 

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