Post # 1
Okay, so I’m trying really hard to be a nice, accomodating bride for the most part, but sometimes it takes a lot to restrain myself when talking wedding with others. Like when my fiance’s cousin and his wife asked as (jokingly but not) if we would consider moving the date because her brother is getting married that day as well. Um…no. Like when his sister told me that it was really good I didn’t pick the week after because a classmate of hers is getting married that weekend (I’m sorry, and thats a difficult choice to make how).
BUT for as many rude guests, there are definitely some…demanding brides!
So my question is, what favor/demand did a bride ask that left you scratching your head or absolutely bewildered?
I’ll start. My future SIL had a destination wedding (which I couldn’t attend as it was the weekend before I graduated) and then a big reception at home a few months later. It was a casual, but large reception and they needed people to serve the buffet dinner (no service with catered food for some reason?). So fsil asked my fiance (then boyfriend) if he would ask our friends if they would be servers. And then she asked if I would! YES you read correctly. My fiance was so upset. Apparently as her brother’s girlfriend of 2.5 years I was not guestworthy for a 300+ person reception, but I would do fine as the hired help! When he told her hell no, that he didn’t think it was nice at all to ask that of me, SHE was miffed. So the day of the reception I asked a few times (during set up) what she needed help with yet and she said don’t worry you don’t have to do anything. SNARKY. I can light candles and set up some chairs, but don’t you think its a bit to ask that. Anyway, so our poor friends worked nonstop for 3-4 hours setting up, serving food, clearing tables on a HOT and very humid August day and I’m still not even sure she remembered to pay them.
So what’s your story?
Post # 3
it’s not what a bride asked but what she did… she had a small reception that was a buffet, but was held in a nice beach house. unfortunately there were only two tables and no one else got a seat aside from her mom/husband’s immediate family and her bridal party! Did not think of the guests in that situation, basically wanted us all to just keep standing with our drinks and plates carefully balanced?
Post # 4
It was a buffet style wedding at a restaurant and there were no seats and the food ran out!!!!
Post # 5
@Bamboo: Horrifying. Just horrifying! Wow! I can’t believe you weren’t even invited let alone that she then wanted you to be a server.
I’ve been pretty lucky. The worst thing that’s ever been asked me from a bride is that I help set up her reception site – that’s not the bad part – while listening to the same Shania Twain album on repeat all. day. long. By the third repetition I was ready to kick the stereo.
Post # 6
Right after the ceremony at my brother’s friend’s wedding, I was asked by the mother of the bride, whom I had never even met, if I could stick around the ceremony site to clean up decorations. Maybe it was rude of me, but I said that I couldn’t abandon my date to do that – who happened to propose to me the next morning.
Post # 7
My worst was last year at a cousin’s wedding. This is a girl who tried to cut corners at every turn and ended up ticking off a lot of people. To begin with each person was given an envelope with their assigned job the morning of the wedding, she did not ask, she assumed. For myself it was taking care of the flower girls and ring bearer (18 month old, 2 year old, and 3 year old who had no idea who I was). I saw 2 minutes of the ceremony and then had to go spend the rest of the time in the nursery with the children. The only thank yous I got was from the guests not the bride. My second job was a server, along with my brother and 5 other first cousins. We had to serve everyone their food and cake before we were allowed to eat, even the restaurant that brought the food thought that was ridiculous, our food had to be microwaved. The we never received a thank you from the bridal party. This is only the tip of the iceberg with this wedding, to put it simply my ultra-conservative grandma told me I should get married in Vegas.
Post # 8
My story doesn’t really include a task or favor, but it was definitely a what the…? kind of moment.
For a rehearsal dinner once at a destination wedding, we ended up at a really chic restaurant that the couple rented out. We were expecting a fun evening. When we walked in we were instantly handed 2 drink tickets & told if we lost them we were “SOL”. Literally. I found it a little rude… they treated us like children!
Before we could eat, we were subjected to an hour long slideshow of the couple over the years. We literally had to sit and watch… any talking (or fun) was strictly frowned upon & ended up with death stares from the bride.
“Dinner” was then served… it was crudite, a disgusting roasted pepper that was cold stuffed with something that tasted similar to sand, a slice of bread and grapes. I’m not even exaggerating. It was awful. All I kept thinking was “I spent $1500 on this weekend and they serve me wonderbread?”
Post # 9
my co-worker asked me to work with her and her FI on the invites – considering she had four BM’s i dont know why me but i love weddings and helping out so said yes.
we arranged a saturday to meet in our office (midway between our homes) and after getting there and setting up and showing me the sample she and her FI went out to get some morning tea for “us” and disappeared for the next 4hrs and returned only after i finished putting together all the invites. apparently the bride and groom got sidetracked and went off to do their wedding registries
pretty much the same thing happened with their programs and favours & she asked me to drive all the BM’s to the church but my invite was for me only and my hubby wasnt allowed to come – but i love a wedding so what can i say
Post # 10
Wow. After reading the posts on this thread, I’m relieved to be the bride who has frustrated her bridesmaids by not giving them much to do.
Post # 11
I can’t say anything like that has happend to me! My FSIL got married, and I helped make the bouquets and take pictures of my own will!
I did have someone freak out because I picked my wedding day to be her birthday-and it’s not even someone I know well. It was my MOH’s SIL! And somehow I am ruining her day? wth? lol.
Post # 12
This did not happen to me (thank goodness), but my friend was in a wedding and she was trying to bustle the bride’s gown before they entered the reception. She was having trouble with it, when suddenly the bride lost it, grabbed her by the arm and shook her yelling ‘Are you a retard?! Can else someone please do this?!’ My friend was so mortified, and even worse, the bride made a joke about it later like ‘She was just kidding’ for beyond rude behavior.
Post # 13
Oh my god! “Are you a retard?” WHAT THE HECK!? I am picturing it in my head and laughing because that is just so wrong on so many levels.
I haven’t been to a lot of weddings, but my FSIL was invited to one where she was expected to pay for her meal!!! Needless to say, she declined, but what is WRONG with people?!?!
Post # 14
This happened to my sister, but I thought it was kind of outrageous. A friend of ours from college was getting married (we’re friends with the groom) and his fiancee asked my sister (whom she had met only a couple of times) to be her DOC! She said that because my sister was so organized, she wanted her to basically coordinate their wedding and do ALL of the WD tasks. My sister has pretty much no interest in wedding coordinating and was already upset to be the only one of our college friends who was not being included in the ceremony somehow. My sister politely declined the offer.
This same bride also just assumed that she could use our car to transport their cake. We found out about her plan when we saw “pick up cake-S & J’s car” on her wedding day schedule. She never actually asked, but assumed it would be okay for a friend (whom we had never met) to drive our car 35 miles & back to pick up their cake. No thanks!
Post # 15
My FI’s cousin who he’s not especially close with selected his siblings to be in her wedding party. Feeling “guilty” she didn’t ask FI to be part of the party, she asked him to videotape the entire ceremony and reception so he would feel included. He just laughed at her and said he didn’t think servitude was the best way to include him in her wedding.
For me, the worst experience I had was when I was a BM for a wedding where the bride changed the date about 4 or 5 times. It was brutal because she would send STDs each time she changed it. She critized me for being unenthusiastic. I had half the mind to tell her my enthusiasm would be there when she stuck to a friggin’ date.
Post # 16
Ug my FSIL decided on a whim to have a ‘destination’ wedding in Tahoe which is relatively close to her but really far for the rest of her family. She told us about it 2 weeks before her planned wedding date, which also happened to fall on a Monday or a Tuesday. When we informed her that we simply couldn’t make it on that date, that we’d have to take too much time off of work (which we can’t afford, we are saving our vaca time for our own honeymoon) she threw a total guilt trip at us saying well why can’t we just drive down for the day (um, it’s a 9 – 11 hour drive both ways???) and she’s so disappointed in us that we couldn’t go…..we felt bad as it was, but it was really confusing because seriously…..who decides to get married in 2 weeks and then gets mad when people can’t make it?
THEN she decides to have a ‘reception’ at her house, asking everyone to bring food as a potluck reception, but also registered for expensive gifts. Um, usually, at a potluck reception, the bride and groom understand that the food IS the gift. Ugg.
I am seriously just waiting for this girl to show up at our wedding in her own wedding dress.