Post # 1
I got 10, count them, 10 messages in my inbox about the thread my FI (already using your lingo) started about me being lazy. And it wasn’t like they were joking. One said, “I just feel like you should know what you are marrying.” Wow! I know some women can be petty and catty, but really?
So in response to the why am I so effing lazy thread, here is my answer.
Miss Tattoo is right. My mom did not assign chores to us and she was cleaning my room and making my bed well through high school. Now, I’m not here to blame my mother for my behavior, but she did kind of beat it into our heads that women did the cleaning, cooking, washing, ect and men made the money and did the hard labor jobs.
I’m trying. I really am, but it’s tough after almost 21 years of never having to do anything but mow the lawn (Miss Tattoo can’t mow the lawn in her heels!) and take out the garbage.
I know she’s frustrated with me and the lack of cleaning, BUT in my defense she is kind of anal about things. She has said it too. I’m going to get better on picking up my things and she is going to get better with not letting things build up.
I don’t think I need anyone running to me basically telling on her and trying to stir stuff up.
So that was interesting to see all the “OMG! Look what she’s writing about you!” messages. 10 of them. Wow.
Post # 3
People seriously did that? Jeez.
Post # 4
Sorry that you got caught up in the dramarama that’s been going on around here lately! It’s not usually like this, I swear!
You aren’t the only guy who doesn’t do chores, my husband doesn’t do anything inside the house unless I really remind him But I just ask him to help with this or that and he will.
Post # 5
you have GOT to be kidding me. completely inappropriate!! i swear, we aren’t all catty…
Post # 6
Please consider that sort of thing non-representative of the hive, generally!
Post # 7
@Mr. Tattoo: WTF?! That’s awful, and I’m truly embarrassed on behalf of the Bee that anyone had the gall to try to stir up ish like that! I don’t know what else to say, except that I think 99% of us would never do that, and I guess the 1% who thought it appropriate to message you should crawl back into the woodwork!
Post # 8
wow, awful! what a shame, shame, shame.
yay for you for trying, though! i have full faith that miss tattoo can whip you into a mini housewife in no time! you’ll be doing dishes, folding her laundy, and cooking her brownies! yay for you! 🙂
Post # 9
Also, there are a whole bunch of us who really enjoy Miss Tattoo’s contributions to the Bee, and if she is “what you are marrying,” then you are a lucky guy! 😉
Post # 10
I know 99% of you are awesome, but I was just laughing so hard at work here with my buddy about how fast some of the users on here pointed out that thread. She was venting. All of us do it. Doesn’t make it wrong. Her feelings are not invalid and it’s not a deal breaker that she has feelings.
I hope this thread doesn’t cause more drama. Who has those pictures of the drama llama I spotted on another thread?
Post # 11
Holy crap, I can’t believe someone (let alone 10 people) would send you stuff like that! I know that some Bees have beef with Miss Tattoo but she’s just telling it like it is. To think they would message you to “let you know who you’re marrying” is ridiculous!
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I WISH I had the balls to say what your soon to be Mrs says. I almost always agree with her!
…and I didn’t comment on your intro post since I was slaving away working for the man but welcome to the hive!!
Post # 12
And what rock were you living under when your mom allegedly beat this into your head? Because Leave it to Beaver, The Brady Bunch and any other show that portrayed women as only capapble of doing housework are not on tv anymore. Unless your house only gets the reruns station.
I ask this because, had you lived a life in the real world and saw what your friends dads did, you’d know that a man can do a woman’s work just as a woman can do a man’s work.
You want Miss Tattoo to mow the lawn while you’re doing “girl” chores? Then buy her a pair of sneakers and teach her how to do it. I learned how and I wear stilettos on a regular basis but can wear a pair of sneakers when necessary.
These archaic images that men still carry just tick me off! You want a woman to work and maintain a house? How about pitching in, dude.
Post # 13
Welcome to WB Mr Tattoo! Like the others, I hope you’ll understand that 99% of us around here aren’t so much into the drama 😉 You and Miss Tattoo are a great addition to the hive! We don’t get men’s input around here often, so it’s going to be fantastic for us to hear your POV!
Post # 14
I say just ignore it! Sorry you’re dealing with that.