Post # 1
So things are actually worse, if possible, with my parents than two days ago:
I want to quit my wedding 🙁
But in some ways I’m feeling better about it. I can’t explain it, but I do feel like they’ve finally heard how upset I am and how much of a problem all of this is. I don’t know how this will pan out, but my sister says she talked to my dad for a long time and maybe there is hope….we’ll see. In the meantime, I believe that my mom is not speaking to me. Ugh!
And now I get an email that fizicsGuy won’t be back from his work trip until next week. We’ve spoken once, for five minutes, since he left 2 1/2 weeks ago. I understand that he’s working crazy hours trying to fix a problem that’s costing his company lots of money, but it’s not exactly like I’ve been eating bon-bons for the last few weeks. I’m at a conference and have been coming back to my hotel room every night and doing work until like 2AM. And I’ve been battling with my parents and doing wedding stuff in between all of that. I know it’s his job, but I feel like I’m always a lower priority than his job. I understand that he’s got a stressful job and that one of his reasons for sticking with it is so he can earn a higher salary and potentially give us more options when we have kids, but it’s hard to see this as something he’s doing for our relationship when it’s taking him away from it at this super stressful time.
I guess I’m freeling completely overwhelmed and unsupported by absolutely everyone in my life (except my siblings…and I am thankful for that). But my parents are making my life miserable, my MOH has been weird an kind of absent (didn’t even offer condolences about my uncle, or even ask how I was doing…she even knew him and stayed with me at their house for three weeks when she came with me to India once), and my FI is on the other side of the planet and may as well have dropped off the face of it. The most supported I’ve felt is after receivng a a really nice email from my FI’s cousin today….nothing crazy, I’ve only met her once, but just having anyone go out of their way to say something nice feels like so much. And I guess my vendors have been supportive…but I feel like it’s gotten pretty bad if the people who are amongst the most supportive in your life are your wedding vendors.
Of course, the hive has really been wonderful in offering good energy…I’m pretty sure I’d have completely lost it by now otherwise:)
Well, mostly just needed to vent. I feel like there’s no one really I can turn to right now for a bit of comfort and support….
Post # 3
Hang in there Fizics. You must be stocking up on good karma that will soon be headed your way 🙂
Post # 4
I agree with doctorgirl.
At least you do see the ray of hope that is shinning through.
I’ve been there with the FI except that he is not on the other side of world but right here. He also has to do crazy projects that takes up about 99.9% of his time and I often feel like I"m at the bottom.
I hope all turns out well with your parents.
I’m glad your siblings have been supportive and your vendors are working with you.
I belive that you’ll always have the hive to give you a quick pick me up if you need it.
Lots of hugs for you in your stressfull time and sorry about your uncle.
I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
Post # 5
Okay, I zoned in on how sweet your FI’s cousin is to send you a nice email! Yayyy….fizics! It only takes one person sometimes to reach out and make you feel a tiny bit better.
BUT, girly, doctorgirl is right there for ya, and I’m right behind her. Love, hugs, and positivity to you honey, comin’ atcha.
I know how hard it is to be away for work, I did that for 2 years with my man, and it was me getting on the plane, all Bye, later. It used to break my heart, but oh gosh, nothing better than the pilot saying "Welcome to Boston"….yayyyyyyy I’m back, and 2 hrs from now, I’ll be HOME.
It sux royally, but yup. it’s for your future together…..okay, this may and probably will sound super silly, but this is my motto, live in the now & look forward to tomorrow. Y’all will be together soon, and work through it all together.
In the meantime, vent like a big dawg, we’re all here to listen & support you. (((Hugs)))
Post # 6
Sending hugs your way. If this is the worst of the worst, hopefully it gets better, right?
Ugh i hear you on your FI being far away. When my FI was away, I was like "great now who do i vent to?!" and it really sucked. Now I talk to my cats like a big dorkus. Maybe treat yourself to a massage at your hotel? i know they’re pricey, but at least your company is paying you to be there. THat might help you just chill a little?
Post # 7
Has your sister tried talking to your Mom as well? I hope things for you get better. We’re here for you to vent. 🙂 *hugs* Things will work out in the end and you won’t even remember all this stressing and frustration years from now. 🙂 You can always get a massage or a facial to relax yourself, it will help!!
Hang in there! <3