Post # 1
As of tomorrow, there’s exactly one month to the wedding, and we still have to deal with Christmas and New Year’s in between now and then. There’s still SO MUCH to do.
-My dad refuses to give me the title of or band that plays the song for our father/daughter because he thinks it’s okay if he just brings a CD to the wedding. Thus, he says, I don’t need to give that information to the DJ.
-My mom randomly invited the girl my uncle has kind of sort of been flirting with recently, but no one knows if she’s actually going to come, and I don’t even know this girl’s name. My mom says it’s okay because she’ll just pay for it, but NO. It’s *not* okay.
-The church coordinator isn’t returning my calls or emails about some slight ceremony changes or to approve the programs so we can actually print and finish them.
-FI’s dad and brother still haven’t gone to have their tuxes fitted yet, and FI’s dad still hasn’t bought himself a mask.
-We’re still missing about 40% of the RSVPs.
-I still don’t have a babysitter for the kids’ room.
-FI and I still haven’t figured out how to dance.
-I still have to finish approximately 3.5 billion DIY projects.
-I don’t have a wedding ring yet because my jeweler friend is a flake, and if he hasn’t gotten back to me by tomorrow, I’m just not going to have a wedding ring.
…Have you other January ladies started freaking out yet?
Post # 3
I could not sleep last night!!! I was going over in my head everything that is to be done both for the wedding and work wise in the next month.
Taking deep breaths and trying to be calm – but also getting so excited! A lot of my friends/family are confirming their travel plans now, which is great. Part of me is thinking – We’re really going to have that many people coming into town just for us???
@GreenEyedMoon: You’ll make it!
Don’t worry about your dad – as long as you make it his responsibility to bring the CD. If he forgets – have a back-up song that you’ll tell the DJ about.
Babysitter- assign this task to your mom or a bridesmaid.
Jewler friend – is there a mutual friend of yours that can find out the status of the ring as well?
Everything esle will work out!
Post # 4
@kanadia82: Thanks for the encouragement. I need it.
I’m going to keep bugging my dad, and I think he’ll give in. It’s just annoying that it’s one more thing I have to deal with.
My mom can’t handle the babysitter because she lives across the country, but the bridesmaid idea is a good one. My Maid/Matron of Honor has three younger sisters, including two still in high school. I’ll talk to her and see if any of them would be interested.
My jeweler friend got back to me yesterday and said the ring would be ready next week. I have an appointment with him, so I’m set. He’s very difficult to get in touch with and to get started working on something, but once he gives you a date, he always gets his work done. I don’t have to worry about him anymore. Whew.
Post # 5
@GreenEyedMoon: yeah great to hear about the ring!
Post # 6
I feel your pain. I am running around like a mad woman trying to clean up my place before Fiance gets here tomorrow. It’s an emtional day. Mom is freaking out on me because the venue isn’t retuning her email about our wine choice. She is yelling at me that if I don’t care why should she. I do care, but today I have other worries.
– Caterer not getting back to me all week.
-Linen people not getting back to me on not needing 8 tables
– Reverand is on vaction till end of the month and we still need to meet with her about ceremony, so that will be done only a few days till wedding unless she takes me while on vaction. I wasn’t ever told about vacation.
– My house is a wreck. DIY wedding stuff taking over kitchen. Wedding/ Christmas presents taking over living room.
-My e-ring keeps falling off so it is sitting in the box till I can get a spacer put on it.
Sigh, I need a adult beverage.
@GreenEyedMoon How are things going today?
Post # 7
@Katielee: I’m freaking out slightly less, but everything is still going wrong. For example, I tried on my dress yesterday. I’ve apparently lost a lot more weight since my final fitting before my bridal portraits two months ago. I now have to have the dress taken in another few inches. Also, half of our table numbers have completely disappeared. I think the box may have been thrown away on accident. Replacing them is going to cost a lot more money than we can afford.
Updates from before are:
-My dad refuses to give me the title of or band that plays the song for our father/daughter because he thinks it’s okay if he just brings a CD to the wedding. Thus, he says, I don’t need to give that information to the DJ. DONE!
–My mom randomly invited the girl my uncle has kind of sort of been flirting with recently, but no one knows if she’s actually going to come, and I don’t even know this girl’s name. My mom says it’s okay because she’ll just pay for it, but NO. It’s *not* okay. I don’t think this is actually going to be resolved.
–The church coordinator isn’t returning my calls or emails about some slight ceremony changes or to approve the programs so we can actually print and finish them. Done!
-FI’s dad and brother still haven’t gone to have their tuxes fitted yet, and FI’s dad still hasn’t bought himself a mask. Don’t know the status on this one. FI needs to call again tomorrow.
–We’re still missing about 40% of the RSVPs. Still.
–I still don’t have a babysitter for the kids’ room. But I have talked to my Maid/Matron of Honor about it, and she’s going to ask her oldest younger sister.
–Fiance and I still haven’t figured out how to dance. Still.
–I still have to finish approximately 3.5 billion DIY projects. Still. Though I’ve made significant progress on the programs.
–I don’t have a wedding ring yet because my jeweler friend is a flake, and if he hasn’t gotten back to me by tomorrow, I’m just not going to have a wedding ring. I think this is taken care of.
Post # 8
23 days. Oh crap I think I just started freaking out.
Post # 9
Wow, what a diiferance 9 hours make. I got intouch with linen folks and everything is okay they hadn’t started making anything yet. I got in touch with the Rev and she just isn’t seeing new people for the rest of the month and we get to meet with her next week.
My house is still a mess. I won’t sleep tonight with Fiance coming in tomorrow. I am too excited, it’s been a long 3 months. So I am going to go clean off my nervous energy. I found some little plastic thingy to put on my ring and will go put that on tomorrow.
Now I am trying to stay calm that my dress alterations were totally screwed up and when I go back Sunday everything will be ok. I have lost weight too. But nothing enough to be taken in. The roll of back fat is gone (well, mostly lol)and she told me if I lost much more she would have to take it in a bit. I am sure with Christmas and Fiance being here it will be hard to stick to my diet but I will try my best.
I am sorry about your table numbers. Hopefully you will find them. What is the plan if you don’t?
Fiance wants to wing the first dance and he will be practicing a lot the next few weeks.
Glad you got your rings done and programs are coming along.
@MissIntent I know!! I am so excited I can’t stand it. It will all feel more real when I get him here tomorrow!!!
Post # 10
I hope things get better for you guys soon! Im sure they will!
I am not in freak out mode (yet) but I am totally exhausted. I feel like there are a million things to do and think about/organize every day and I feel a lot of pressure on my shoulders…
Post # 11
@Evie19: Me too. I feel like I could sleep for a week. The stress does that.
Post # 12
Okay, confession time: I thought I’d be calm. I thought I’d be, if not stress-free, at least low-stress. I’m organized and have a solid plan, especially since we’ve had a longer engagement. I’m a vendor myself, for pity’s sake! This should be fun! And easy! And… fun!
Oh. Oh no. How wrong I was.
In actuality, the technical planning part has been great. My vendors are proving themselves worth their cost so far, I love some of the details — big and small — that we created, and I’m madly in love with our ceremony.
BUT. My future-mother-in-law. Some of our “friends” and family members. The welcome dinner, the after-party, the seating arrangements, the meetings, the gifts, the drama(llama). moneymoneymoney. Dealing with key people who still don’t spell or pronounce my name correctly. Dealing with key people who still don’t KNOW my name. Uninvited guests. Yep, I think I have a perma-frown, and I suspect I’m causing myself bodily damage since my shoulders are constantly up around my ears.
So yes, the official freak-out snuck up on me, tapped me on the shoulder, and told me it’s here for the long haul.
I need a massage.
And a drink. Or three.
Oh yeah… and happy holidays!
Post # 13
I feel your pain. I won’t meet with my pastor until next week, so no program until then. I haven’t finished making the playlist for my reception. I am also missing about 40% of my RSVPs, and instead of sending in RSVPs, some people are calling and telling me they’re bringing people (who weren’t invited). I’ve almost bought all the decorations, but I don’t really know what they’re gonna look like until we actually decorate the church on the 13th, so I’m panicking about that a little. I just found out we’ll have enough money to take the bridal party and some others out to dinner and drinks afterward, and I’m trying to figure out how to invite certain people without others. My Future Sister-In-Law and I are playing phone-tag, my flower girl doesn’t have a dress yet, we still haven’t asked our ushers (blaming Fiance for that)…
And I keep forgetting Fiance and I wanted to write our vows, so there’s that to do. -_-
On the plus side, this thread reminded me that I need to call the bakery today and pay the balance for the cake.
Post # 14
Oh! Also, I’m losing weight (not trying, just haven’t had much time to eat). My dress fit perfectly when I bought it, 4 pounds ago. It still fits, but if I lose 2 or 3 more pounds, it will be loose. Doesn’t help that my doctor just prescribed me laxatives, and my Fiance wants me to start working out with him now. I’m looking into padding myself with foam, but hoping Christmas will take care of it.
Post # 15
@sweetpea87: Crap! You mentioning your vows just reminded me that we still have to write our couple’s prayer.
Post # 16
I am exactly the same – I feel there is so much to do I don’t know where to start!
I had my last day of work yesterday (Friday in NZ) – i’m a teacher and we have finished for the summer holidays so that is 1 relief but I had a very emotional day of school yesterday, realizing it is my last year of my maiden name for ever! Plus the teachers pulled me up in the end of year assembly and sung me “Going to the Chapel & we’re going to get married” with the kids and all the parents, I was so overwhelmed by it all.
Plus we had our work do/my school hen’s night Thursday night and didn’t end up getting home until 3am so only had 3 hours sleep. The restuarant we went to were so amazed they said they had never seen teachers so rowdy (a lot of sing-a-long’s etc) they laughed even harder when we said we were a Catholic school!
I got home from work yesterday and had a shower and went to bed at 6pm! I slept through until 7 this morning so am feeling a lot better.
@sweetpea87: I am also losing weight I don’t want to lose! I had my final fitting (well there will be 1 the week before but not much can be done there) and got told I can’t lose or gain anymore and without trying I have managed to lose more! So frustrating in the beginning I found it so hard to lose and now I don’t want to and I am!
We will get there tho! I hope everyone enjoys the last couple of weeks of planning – eek I can’t believe how fast these the time is going now!