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My name is Alyssa and I am so glad I found these boards because I've been going insane the past few months. My boyfriend and I have been together almost seven years, and we picked out THE ring in March. I have been going NUTS waiting for it. My question is, for those of you who are waiting, or have waited, have you ever totally thought "this is it!" and then he does something like tie his shoe or stretch? My birthday weekend my man and I were in Chicago (my hometown) and I was sitting on a bench in Millenium Park, surrounded by blooming tulips. He got down on one knee - my heart fluttered - and then he tied his shoe. Haha! This also happens in an episode of The Office. Anybody else having all these false hopes? I find myself thinking, "What if he does it while I'm in the shower? Or, he could put it in my diet coke!" and just making up all these crazy scenarios because I want it to happen so bad. So what "I thought he was gonna propose!" moments did you have?
If it makes you feel any better, we went on a romantic vacation to Hawaii 2 weeks before he proposed (in my crummy office!). One night we were watching Kilaua erupt and talking about the future and he started to bend down. My heart skipped a beat and my temperature went up about 2 degrees. He was just bending down to sit down on the lava flow, and I felt like a chump. I clearly had engagement brain, and I came to find out later, it wasn't even on his mind at that time.
It'll happen, and probably when you least expect it (hopefully not in your crummy office on a Saturday night)!
It didn't happen to me but I have a friend who's --now-- husband got down on one knee with a hand behind his back. He took her hand and said, "Jill (pause), Will you (pause) take this movie back to Blockbuster for me *pulls out movie from behind back*?"
I absolutely loved that episode of The Office, and thought it was pretty funny how they ended up getting engaged!
pfftt.... i got married last week and still waiting for my proposal!
my friends hubby proposed to her with a yell from the living room while she was in the kitchen "so how about it??
after reading of some of the proposals here, im guessing aussie men suck in that department
lol today is my bday. we are still moving things into our new condo and i made brownies last night. well m is getting a brownie and we're chatting he goes like he's going into his pocket and puts his hand on his hip. looks like i need more zzzzz's!
So I'm a big red sox fan. For my birthday, my dad got me a trip to boston to see a sox game and stay in a nice hotel, etc. Allexpenses paid, even room service! Jonny (my bf) came with me, of course. I mean, if I were a guy with a proposal to get out of the way, I would have done it there! Fenway park in the summertime, when the team is winning on a beautiful night? Pretty memorable moment!
At one point during the game, someone DID propose...the words "will you marry me" appeared on the jumbo tron and I about peed my pants thinking this was it. But no...some other lucky lady. Thank goodness I was so nervous I froze, so I didn't do anything to embarass myself like jump up and down in glee or scream out "yes yes yes!" like an Herbal Essence commercial.
But alas. All of our special events/occasions have come and gone, there's nothing coming up that would indicate a proposal. le sigh!
oh we were visiting an old friend of my boyfriend's, and sitting at her computer looking at pictures. i was sitting in front of the screen and he was standing up. at one point, i turned away from the computer to ask a question, and he was happening to get down on one knee...RIGHT in front of me..like his legs touching mine in front of me...OH MYGOD THIS IS IT!!!!!!!!..i almost fell out of the chair...bc i was like YESSSSSSSSS but then nooooooo why here??!??! all at the same time... hahahahhahahahaha i think my face got flustered immediately after but i was able to keep my composure!!! hahah
Yea...engagement brain, as Doctorgirl put it! lol
My great friend who is now married went on a trip to Paris with her BF at the time. Everyone got her hopes up thinking her BF will propose there. I mean it is Paris, why not?! Unfortunately, he wasn't thinking the same thing we were. But a few weeks or months (don't remember) they were re-doing their laundry room and while she was on the ladder he was trying to get her attention but she was just too busy so she was shooing him away. When all of a sudden she looks down and there he was on his knee, actually proposing!! Although it wasn't Paris, she sure was happy!
Btw - My uncle had done the go on your knee and pretend to propose but instead asked his gf to do something as a joke...I am sure his gf wasn't too thrilled about it, lol... Anyway, they just got engaged on Tuesday!
Be patient ladies, this dream will come true for you too!
After dating for 6 years my boyfriend (now fiance) and I decided to take a 2 month whirlwind trip to Fiji, New Zealand, and Australia. EVERYONE kept telling me, "this is it! he's gonna propose on this trip!" So of course, I got my hopes up.. Many times on the trip we'd catch a beautiful sunset or do something cool together. Every day I'd think, ok he's going to ask me today!! But he never did. We came home from the trip and my family was like "WHAT?! HE DIDN"T ASK YOU?!?!" LOL
So one random Monday afternoon about 8 wks after returning from our trip, my man friend comes home, calls me out to our backyard and gets down on one knee!! At first I thought I was on Punked, but luckily... he asked me to marry him!! :) It will happen when you least expect it... And if you're like me, when you look your absolute worst lol.
My fiance "almost" proposed so many times that I got a bit jaded. There were so many "perfect moments" or "strangely romantic" evenings he planned that went by without a ring that I all but gave up. Then one weekend he took me on a surprise trip to Newburyport. He was acting kinda funny but I didn't think much of it. Well, we pulled up at the inn and it was beautiful and for a second I thought maybe it would be this weekend, but then I thought- nahh. Then we got to dinner, and it was a beautiful candle lit restaurat on the water and I was like, hmmm. This is very romantic. Then we had a wonderful night together and I went to the bathroom after dessert and texted my friend "This is THE most romantic night EVER and I could KILL HIM because he is STILL not going to propose!!!" Like I said, I was jaded!! Anyway after dinner he suggested a walk on the boardwalk and it was there that he finally popped the question. Looking back it was so obvious by his behaviors, but at the time I was just sick of another night of high expectations and being let down. My advice is to try to stop thinking about it and know that the time will come, esp since you've picked out a ring!!
i really thought my FI was going to do it last x-mas morning. he was being all super lovey dovey. we were opening gifts, and he told me to leave my stocking for last. so when i got to it i felt a lil box in there. i pulled out this wrapped box and looked at him and he smiled. i opened it and it was a lil box of chocolate. i was like.."ohhh..." and i laughed. he was like "i know you love chocolate, baby". i was like "yep...i do.." then he popped the question on our anniversay 2 months after x-mas.
I had two (though they weren't so much "moments" as suspicions)...but for both of them, he totally would have proposed, but I stopped him.
For the first one, he was going to propose on his birthday (or the day after) -- and this had been his plan for months, ever since I told him that I wanted us to both be 18 before he proposed. But I had a talk with him a month or so before, asking him to put it off because he had some issues with my family that he needed to resolve, etc. He did so gracefully, and I am so glad that he did.
The second one was at this past Christmas. Because I was going to be away with my family for the holidays, we exchanged gifts early. He gave me a card with instructions not to open it until Christmas morning, and of course I knew what was in it! I tried to pretend like I didn't, but finally I had to tell him that I'd rather he -- you know -- BE THERE when he proposed. Again, he took the ring back gracefully to bide his time.
The day he did propose, it would have been a complete surprise, had I not asked to borrow his coat in the freezing restaurant. The ring box was in his jacket pocket, and I could feel it. Oops!
I am sorry you're going through so much angst waiting -- but he's probably looking for the "perfect moment". =) Just give him some time. Yes, it might be a long wait, but if you keep looking for the moment, you'll end up seeing what's going to happen before it does.
Don't forget that this is his moment, too. Once he's comfortable enough with the idea of being engaged, and has put himself in the mindset to do it, he'll move foward with a proposal.
So be patient and let him go at his own pace. 
Oh my goodness! We haven't had any of those "almost" moments. I can read him very well, and I'd like to think that when the time comes, I would know. Or will I??
it'll happen. My fiancee proposed to me in Rome by saying "lets take pictures so we can trick our families into thinking we got engaged" (Because everyone had been anticipating it for a year or so). So of course, he tells me to get out my camera, gets down on one knee without a ring just smiling and asks me if it looks convincing. I just kept shaking my head and internally telling myself he was an asshole for getting my hopes up like this (you pretend to get engaged at Walmart or something, not the freaking Trevi Fountain in Rome) and not to lose it and start crying because I really thought we had a chance to get engaged in Rome. Then he pulled out the ring box, and I really DID lose it (and he kept yelling at me to take the picture!) Chances are, he has an idea formulated and it will happen when it catches you off guard.
We went to Cabo over Thanksgiving for 7 days (a month after he moved in) and kept experiencing beautiful sunrises and sunsets, going on romantic walks, etc. People kept referring to me as his wife, NO PROPOSAL!!
I was pissed because before he moved in we talked about getting engaged, and he knew it was important to me that we not live together for a long time before it happened. He was on board and this was the perfect opportunity for him!
I'm so glad I calmed myself down, because he needed time to find the perfect stone, ask my parents and plan the perfect proposal. Which he did and I'm now glad it didn't happen in Cabo!
My ex kinda proposed once by casually saying - so you wanna take the nestea plunge? No ring, no bended knee, I said no and I am glad I did because he was already cheating on me with a bar skank!
I had actually stopped looking for love when it found me anyway several years later!
Haha!! These stories are hilarious!!
Yep, I definitely have a case of engagement brain. I am trying SOOO HARD not to say anything about it until it happens, and I can't wait for it to happen but I really am going to try to put it out of my mind - because a surprise would be awesome! Thanks for the advice, ladies! I'll let you all know when it does happen !! :)
Well, for better or for worse, this is one thing I don't have to worry about. My BF is not about surprises - I know when we are going ring shopping, when we will get 'officially' engaged, etc. I'd love to think that I'll find a ring in my cake at dinner one night, but at least it takes some of the anxiety about when and where off the table.
Oh man, these stories are great! We recently got married, but back when I was waiting my then bf used to do something that really bugged me. He'd have an idea of something he wanted to do and instead of just asking if I wanted to go to the movies for example he'd say "I have a proposal to make...... I propose we go get a bite to eat and then go see a movie." UGH. Got my hopes up every time!!! haha
I was ready for a proposal around the 1 year mark and so every birthday or holiday or stupid month-iversary I'd get my hopes up and then be let down. Finally by year 3 I had given up that it was ever going to happen. I started to question if he really wanted to get married at all or if it was me - maybe he wasn't sure he really loved me. Well, he was going to take me out for my birthday, shortly after our 3rd anniversary, and I started to get my hopes up again, but then convinced myself again that I was being totally stupid and he was simply taking me out for dinner. We had a nice evening, but he wasn't nervous or acting weird so I figured I was right, no proposal. Before we headed home we stopped to take some pictures of the bay and took a few with us in them as well and that's when he finally did it! (and caught me by surprise!)
I would tell you to try not to think about it and get your hopes up, but I know that's next to impossible when you're so ready for it.
Oh gosh! My ex-husbands proposal almost didn't happen, and I was totally unaware. His parents had been staying with us for 2 weeks, and I was about sick of them, and nearly didn't go on a sighteeing adventure that day. I really just wanted tobe home alone, and in my mood, picked out about the fugliest shirt I could find to wear; no makeup, no nothing.
This time around (b/c FI can't liek or keep a secret to save his life) it was pretty obvious it was coming,
Well we have been together a while and talked many times about when we should get married. Well we decided that once I finished undergrad it would be a good time. So after this past Christmas we decided next JUNE (3 wks after I finish). So we were basically engaged and I was just waiting for him to suprise me with a ring.
I had the total opposite experience. I was sure he would wait until our anniversary in April and go all out. But he didn't. The saturday before Valentine's day we made Valentine's boxes like you do when your in grade school. All week we gave each other little knick knacky things. Then the day before Valentines I came home from school and he told me to look in my box. I did and...there was nothing in it! I was like wth and he says oops must have forgot to put it in there and puts the ring on my finger. It wasn't what I had expected, but it truly was very sweet and very him. Afterwards we had a nice dinner out and overall it was a good night!
I've got to be honest, while this type of proposal won't make it into a romance novel, I am so happy the way things ended up! I was totally suprised!
FI and I were at the beach on our first anniversary and we were just sitting talking and cuddling and such. I don't remember what we were talking about, but it must have had something to do with the ring or getting married because he said, "I could propose right now...but I'm not going to." Agh!!! I only had to wait another 2 1/2 weeks, but at the time it was three months after he bought the ring AND I WANTED IT!!!
His proposal on Christmas was amazing though so I'm glad.
I think it's funny that so many men will skip over what we consider those "perfect moments", and then propose on some random Tuesday. They must enjoy torturing us... :) That's what happened to me, anyway!
@meganmp1: I totally get what you are saying! I knew my engagement would happen around Christmas, and I thought it was the perfect night on the 23rd. We had a romantic dinner, went to a romantic comedy, and then were just hanging out. We went up to the top of the city to look at the lights. . . no proposal. 4 days later he proposed to me, while opening presents with his family. Yeah, not exactly the most romantic moment I could have dreamed up!
I had the most un romantic proposal in the world with my xh. I had barely met his family, just once or twice before and they'd never met mine either. We invited both of them to come to thanksgiving dinner at his house. I had been on call at the hospital and was exhausted, getting in after midnight the night before..I stayed over there (we didn't live together) and was yes...COOKING...and after getting over there, putting the turkey in the oven and set the alarm for six am to continue cooking (including homemade stuffing) and later on, as everybody was seated, I was still at the stove stirring gravy making sure it was not lumpy and of course, rather haggard looking and somewhat narcoleptic, he asks me to marry him in front of ALL OF THEM. I'd had no sleep. cooked off and on for almost twelve hours, and felt like a wilted flower. In fact I didn't hear him the first time he said "I have an announcement...(which after the fact p.o'd me) blah blah blah". I didn't hear him and said "um..what did you say?" 
lmao.
The WORST bended knee moment but no proposal came from my lifelong bff. She and her now H had gone to dinner on valentine's day at the Hotel Peabody at Chez Phillipe. They ordered a dessert not on the menu but one the chef would make up. Anyway, she was getting REALLY sick of waiting and he had finally just passed the bar exam and kept hinting to her it would be soon.
So they are finishing their dessert, and the waiter brings out a box. Not a ring sized box, but could cleverly hold a ring for sure. He then tells her to open it and he GETS DOWN ON THE FLOOR..he was looking for the credit card. She is all fluttery and opens the box thinking it is the moment...and it was...
A GREEN DAY CD. Yep. She slammed the gift down and stormed out of the restaurant and called me to drive down there to pick her up and that she was breaking up with him. She's crying on the phone, and all of a sudden in the background I hear him say to her.."What is wrong with you? It's like you were EXPECTING something different. What were you expecting? Like this?" And then I hear a scream (happy one) and then "I should kick your a*S for that!!!"
And that is how my bff got engaged.
Ohh I loved that episode of the Office. I thought a proposal was coming last Christmas, even though I knew 100% my FI was not proposing till after he graduated. Still your brain makes you think up so many potential scenarios. I was even more convinced when I had three presents that he said "went together" The first was a pink and blue toothbrush and a note saying how they will finally get to be together in same place soon and about how much he loves me. The second present was a digital camera. hahaha how these went together I still don't know, but I really thought it was gonna be a ring!
Belle, your friend's story is hilarious!
I had been waiting for awhile, hoping really, but we never went ring shopping or anything, and every time I tried to talk about getting married, he told me he didn't want to talk about it, and eventually just told me that he just doesn't think it's a good time (we were already living together so I didn't see why not) but I didn't push it. Up until this point, I kept hoping certain days and outings would lead to an engagement, to no avail. I wasn't like REALLY expecting it like other girls here, just hoping. So, the thought DID cross my mind that my hubby was going to propose because he said he wanted a quiet restuarant to go to for dinner, but I brushed it off quickly and honestly it was nothing more than the same hope I'd had for the past year and a half or so. But, turns out he proposed :) (not in a restuarant, but in a park). Personally, I wouldn't have wanted a proposal on a holiday or birthday, or anniversary, anything like that. I'd want it to have a day all to itself, and it did!
Just this past weekend, I was helping my boyfriend tidy up his living room. He had gone over to the kitchen for something, and I was going through some papers on the coffee table to see what could be recycled.
Then I saw a receipt - "Ben Moss Jewellers." My heart started pounding and I felt my temperature rise instantly. And then I remembered - we had just gone to Ben Moss two weeks ago to get him a watch (a graduation gift from his parents). I felt so stupid!
And Bellenga, your story reminds me of how my dad proposed to my mom!
It was Christmas and my mom had saved up for months to buy my dad a really nice watch. She had already given it to him when he gave her her gift - a Rod Stewart album. She didn't even like Rod Stewart! She started crying and that's when he proposed.
Bellenga.. Oh my gosh!! Your BFF is a tolerant woman, I would have been SO mad at the guy!! Funny though! Reminds me of a coworker - he had bought the ring for his woman, and she found a $4000 charge on their mutual credit card (dummy! why would you put it on a SHARED account that she opens the statements to?!) and she demanded to know what it was. They got into a huge fight and she basically left the room saying "If we're going to be together, you can't keep secrets from me." She was leaving the apartment in her car in a huff when he went a grabbed the ring and said "Fine. This is what it was. Will you marry me even if I don't ask for your permission on large purchases?" LOL. They're happy together but I can't help but think, yikes, talk about a proposal gone wrong!!
Can you imagine how silly you would feel?!?!?
That's hilarious! But my bff was super duper mad. She yelled at him..loudly. And then said she sould kick his as*.
That one about the friend finding the receipt for $4k is hilarious too!
The other night T asked if I would watch a movie with him..he picked out 2 and we ended up watching "Bride Wars"..seriously.
He asked silly questions during the movie, and one of them (when Anne gets her e ring and the question is popped via a fortune cookie) was "so how should a guy propose to his girl?"
What does clueless (and somewhat now holiday-jaded and special day-lackadazical me say in response? Huh?
"I have no damn clue. "
I am lackadazical (sp?) Lackluster right now regarding engagements..OFFICIAL ones that is. A bit ho-hum. Is it showing?
Your post title is so funny!
After Mr. Lab bought THE ring, it only took 2 days for him to propose. BUT, we'd been planning to get engaged/buy ring for 9 months at that point! Some guys are just slow about these things. *le sigh*
lol I love this post. FH proposed the day he got the ring, so I didn't have any problems there, but I was with him when he bought the ring and I had no idea when it would be ready for him to pick up. He proposed in the middle of the week, but the weekend before I thought he might have had it. I was super paranoid everywhere we went
I just recently got engaged about 2 months and ago and was exactly like you. We've been together for 10 years and for the past year I really had getting engaged on my mind. Everytime we would go away I thought this is it he's going to do it now, the vacation would be over and not proposal. I started to think that maybe he wasn't going to do it anytime soon and finally stopped thinking about. When I finally stopped talking to him about it an pressuring it happened. I had no clue and was extremely shocked. It was great!!!
It will eventually happen you just have to give it time. When he's ready he will do it.
Yes! Mine aren't really that funny but there were a lot of "maybe this could be it" moments.
THEN when it DID happen, I had a feeling that it might. He was out late on a Wednesday and I knew he had to have gotten the ring then (he told me he was going to get his watch battery fixed but didn't because they said it would be $100. $100 for a watch battery?!) So I was suspicious. When we left to go into the city for dinner, I looked at his pocket and saw a square-ish shape outlined. I like immediately thought it was a ring. We get in the car and he takes out.... his cellphone.
Little did I know he actually had the ring box in his other pocket!
My guy and I spend a lot of time together, so I knew that when I went out of town last September for my sister’s Bachelorette Party, that he’d seize the opportunity to ring shop.
I was really convinced he’d propose, even if he didn’t have an “official” ring yet, at the airport because it’s where we had our first kiss. But I got off the plane and called him and he was late, so just picked me up by the baggage claim and was flustered because he was late.
I knew he had made reservations at my fave restaurant in Orlando and he said he had a surprise for dessert. Dinner came and went. It was perfect, there was good food, wine and plenty of “moments”. So I gave up about 80% hope for it happening that night.
I figured out where we were going for dessert, Disney, which at this point is only kind of special for us. We’re spoiled and live 15 minutes away and he had always said that a Disney proposal was just way too cheesey. So, we got dessert (Pineapple Dole Whips - yum!) and ran into a friend unexpectedly, and he invited the friend to go watch the fireworks with us. 20% hope that was left? Gone. My guy is NOT someone who can plan a surprise and deal with an “interruption” so smoothly.
It was such a great night, but I had finally convinced myself to stop waiting for it because I was setting the expectations up too high.
Then the fireworks started, and before I knew it, he was in front of me on one knee and all I could do was go “mmmhmm,mmhmm,mmmhmmm!!!!” So, it really was perfect.
Just remember that the more expectations you have, the more likely you WON’T be surprised, so better to just….trust… it WILL be perfect and with perfect timing!
Just be careful what you say in the moment - my cousin’s husband proposed at home and she was so surprised she shouted “NO WAY!”.. He was so nervous he said, “That’s not your answer, right?”
Hang in there!!!
I don't have a funny story in regards to this thread. But all I can think of when I read the title is at least he's practicing tying th knot! I know, I know bad joke.
Hang in there! It'll happen soon!
My fiance can't keep a secret, so thankfully his decision to propose was spontaneous. But he told me when he picked out the ring, and it took him a few months to pay for it (he wanted it fully paid for before it was on my finger). So he bought it and took it home with him (we don't live together) and he took camera phone pics of the BOX and texted them to me to tease me. How cruel!!! Thankfully it was just another month or so before he did propose, when I was NOT expecting it at all!
Excellent topic, by the way!
I had the opposite problem!!!
My fiance and I had been together for over 2.5 years, and I started to get restless. We talked about marriage all the time, but I never thought he would actually propose to me (hes not the take-charge type). So one night, when I was severely PMSing, we got into a mini argument about how I've waited for so long, and how he talks about it all the time but doesn't do anything, yada yada yada... So he made me a deal. He said that by his birthday (march 19th) he would think about proposing (it was August btw). So that shut me up. I got all excited, and had fixed my gaze on March (Because I just KNEW he would wait till the last second).
To make the story quick, that November he proposed on our 3rd dating anniversary in the most romantic way I have ever heard! I was so stunned that I literally tripped and tackled him!
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