Post # 1
My name is Alyssa and I am so glad I found these boards because I’ve been going insane the past few months. My boyfriend and I have been together almost seven years, and we picked out THE ring in March. I have been going NUTS waiting for it. My question is, for those of you who are waiting, or have waited, have you ever totally thought "this is it!" and then he does something like tie his shoe or stretch? My birthday weekend my man and I were in Chicago (my hometown) and I was sitting on a bench in Millenium Park, surrounded by blooming tulips. He got down on one knee – my heart fluttered – and then he tied his shoe. Haha! This also happens in an episode of The Office. Anybody else having all these false hopes? I find myself thinking, "What if he does it while I’m in the shower? Or, he could put it in my diet coke!" and just making up all these crazy scenarios because I want it to happen so bad. So what "I thought he was gonna propose!" moments did you have?
Post # 3
If it makes you feel any better, we went on a romantic vacation to Hawaii 2 weeks before he proposed (in my crummy office!). One night we were watching Kilaua erupt and talking about the future and he started to bend down. My heart skipped a beat and my temperature went up about 2 degrees. He was just bending down to sit down on the lava flow, and I felt like a chump. I clearly had engagement brain, and I came to find out later, it wasn’t even on his mind at that time.
It’ll happen, and probably when you least expect it (hopefully not in your crummy office on a Saturday night)!
Post # 4
It didn’t happen to me but I have a friend who’s –now– husband got down on one knee with a hand behind his back. He took her hand and said, "Jill (pause), Will you (pause) take this movie back to Blockbuster for me *pulls out movie from behind back*?"
I absolutely loved that episode of The Office, and thought it was pretty funny how they ended up getting engaged!
Post # 5
pfftt…. i got married last week and still waiting for my proposal!
my friends hubby proposed to her with a yell from the living room while she was in the kitchen "so how about it??
after reading of some of the proposals here, im guessing aussie men suck in that department
Post # 6
lol today is my bday. we are still moving things into our new condo and i made brownies last night. well m is getting a brownie and we’re chatting he goes like he’s going into his pocket and puts his hand on his hip. looks like i need more zzzzz’s!
Post # 7
So I’m a big red sox fan. For my birthday, my dad got me a trip to boston to see a sox game and stay in a nice hotel, etc. Allexpenses paid, even room service! Jonny (my bf) came with me, of course. I mean, if I were a guy with a proposal to get out of the way, I would have done it there! Fenway park in the summertime, when the team is winning on a beautiful night? Pretty memorable moment!
At one point during the game, someone DID propose…the words "will you marry me" appeared on the jumbo tron and I about peed my pants thinking this was it. But no…some other lucky lady. Thank goodness I was so nervous I froze, so I didn’t do anything to embarass myself like jump up and down in glee or scream out "yes yes yes!" like an Herbal Essence commercial.
But alas. All of our special events/occasions have come and gone, there’s nothing coming up that would indicate a proposal. le sigh!
Post # 8
oh we were visiting an old friend of my boyfriend’s, and sitting at her computer looking at pictures. i was sitting in front of the screen and he was standing up. at one point, i turned away from the computer to ask a question, and he was happening to get down on one knee…RIGHT in front of me..like his legs touching mine in front of me…OH MYGOD THIS IS IT!!!!!!!!..i almost fell out of the chair…bc i was like YESSSSSSSSS but then nooooooo why here??!??! all at the same time… hahahahhahahahaha i think my face got flustered immediately after but i was able to keep my composure!!! hahah
Yea…engagement brain, as Doctorgirl put it! lol
Post # 9
My great friend who is now married went on a trip to Paris with her BF at the time. Everyone got her hopes up thinking her BF will propose there. I mean it is Paris, why not?! Unfortunately, he wasn’t thinking the same thing we were. But a few weeks or months (don’t remember) they were re-doing their laundry room and while she was on the ladder he was trying to get her attention but she was just too busy so she was shooing him away. When all of a sudden she looks down and there he was on his knee, actually proposing!! Although it wasn’t Paris, she sure was happy!
Btw – My uncle had done the go on your knee and pretend to propose but instead asked his gf to do something as a joke…I am sure his gf wasn’t too thrilled about it, lol… Anyway, they just got engaged on Tuesday!
Be patient ladies, this dream will come true for you too!
Post # 10
After dating for 6 years my boyfriend (now fiance) and I decided to take a 2 month whirlwind trip to Fiji, New Zealand, and Australia. EVERYONE kept telling me, "this is it! he’s gonna propose on this trip!" So of course, I got my hopes up.. Many times on the trip we’d catch a beautiful sunset or do something cool together. Every day I’d think, ok he’s going to ask me today!! But he never did. We came home from the trip and my family was like "WHAT?! HE DIDN"T ASK YOU?!?!" LOL
So one random Monday afternoon about 8 wks after returning from our trip, my man friend comes home, calls me out to our backyard and gets down on one knee!! At first I thought I was on Punked, but luckily… he asked me to marry him!! 🙂 It will happen when you least expect it… And if you’re like me, when you look your absolute worst lol.
Post # 11
My fiance "almost" proposed so many times that I got a bit jaded. There were so many "perfect moments" or "strangely romantic" evenings he planned that went by without a ring that I all but gave up. Then one weekend he took me on a surprise trip to Newburyport. He was acting kinda funny but I didn’t think much of it. Well, we pulled up at the inn and it was beautiful and for a second I thought maybe it would be this weekend, but then I thought- nahh. Then we got to dinner, and it was a beautiful candle lit restaurat on the water and I was like, hmmm. This is very romantic. Then we had a wonderful night together and I went to the bathroom after dessert and texted my friend "This is THE most romantic night EVER and I could KILL HIM because he is STILL not going to propose!!!" Like I said, I was jaded!! Anyway after dinner he suggested a walk on the boardwalk and it was there that he finally popped the question. Looking back it was so obvious by his behaviors, but at the time I was just sick of another night of high expectations and being let down. My advice is to try to stop thinking about it and know that the time will come, esp since you’ve picked out a ring!!
Post # 12
i really thought my FI was going to do it last x-mas morning. he was being all super lovey dovey. we were opening gifts, and he told me to leave my stocking for last. so when i got to it i felt a lil box in there. i pulled out this wrapped box and looked at him and he smiled. i opened it and it was a lil box of chocolate. i was like.."ohhh…" and i laughed. he was like "i know you love chocolate, baby". i was like "yep…i do.." then he popped the question on our anniversay 2 months after x-mas.
Post # 13
I had two (though they weren’t so much "moments" as suspicions)…but for both of them, he totally would have proposed, but I stopped him.
For the first one, he was going to propose on his birthday (or the day after) — and this had been his plan for months, ever since I told him that I wanted us to both be 18 before he proposed. But I had a talk with him a month or so before, asking him to put it off because he had some issues with my family that he needed to resolve, etc. He did so gracefully, and I am so glad that he did.
The second one was at this past Christmas. Because I was going to be away with my family for the holidays, we exchanged gifts early. He gave me a card with instructions not to open it until Christmas morning, and of course I knew what was in it! I tried to pretend like I didn’t, but finally I had to tell him that I’d rather he — you know — BE THERE when he proposed. Again, he took the ring back gracefully to bide his time.
The day he did propose, it would have been a complete surprise, had I not asked to borrow his coat in the freezing restaurant. The ring box was in his jacket pocket, and I could feel it. Oops!
Post # 14
I am sorry you’re going through so much angst waiting — but he’s probably looking for the "perfect moment". =) Just give him some time. Yes, it might be a long wait, but if you keep looking for the moment, you’ll end up seeing what’s going to happen before it does.
Post # 15
Don’t forget that this is his moment, too. Once he’s comfortable enough with the idea of being engaged, and has put himself in the mindset to do it, he’ll move foward with a proposal.
So be patient and let him go at his own pace.
Post # 16
Oh my goodness! We haven’t had any of those "almost" moments. I can read him very well, and I’d like to think that when the time comes, I would know. Or will I??