(Closed) and then the saleswoman told everyone my butt was too big…

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow! I’m so sorry to hear you had such a terrible experience! That is just awful customer service. I’m so glad to hear that you bought your dress online, rather than from a store whose employees had said such incredibly insulting things to you. And good for you for sticking with the style you want and not getting what everyone else thinks you “should” wear because of your body! I’m sure you are a beautiful woman, and you should wear what you want on your wedding day!

 

Post # 4
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so sorry that you had to deal with that.  I think it really is just a culture thing though- I had a friend who was from Taiwan, and she was TINY.  When she went home to visit- her FAMILY told her she needed to lose weight because she was now the “Fat cousin”.  Don’t take it personally (easier said than done, I konw)- and you know what- I have a bit of Awesome in the Trunk- and I have a fit and flare dress- I’m sure that your FI will love it as much as I know mine will! 

Post # 5
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4415 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

When I got married, I was a size 12 (I’ve lost a whole dress size since whoohoo!), and I wore a fit & flare or trumpet.  I don’t think you need to worry about the size of your butt.  A dress that is fitted well will make it look fantastic!

Post # 6
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448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yea I had a man from immigrant say to me once in my jewelry store, “all you american womens are so big you wrists are so big and manly” mind you I am a size 2 and I have a tiny wrist for an american…..but then I said “well atleast are men are big too”….oops it slipped!!!!!!!!!! haha

Post # 7
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4774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sorry, I couldn’t imagine finding a wedding dress in Asia, everything there is so tiny.  In Japan and Korea I couldn’t fit into anything!  I did find a great bargin on a pair of American Egle shorts that were on a discount rack prob because they were way too big for anyone there.  Hope you have better luck and find a great dress.

Post # 8
Hostess
11299 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@themiddlelittle: Ooh no sorry you had this experiene whilst dress shopping. I’ve got a fit and flare dress and I’m a US size 10 and the dress highlights my bum, to which I know FI will love. When I looked in the mirror, I thought hey you’ve got a great ass.

Post # 9
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862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh my gawd…that is some story!  (you told it so well by the way)

I am terribly sorry that you had that trauma and I don’t blame you for being upset!  Too bad you couldn’t have had your friend tell those ladies that their comments were rude and hurtful!

Glad you found an alternative way of getting the dress you wanted.

 

Post # 10
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851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aww I am sorry, I have been to south east asia a bunch of times, and its not great for your self esteem 🙂

I have a friend who told me the reason she stays so thin is because if she puts on even 2 kilos she goes back home and they all say “oh you got so fat!” – its not  considered rude to be straight up about peoples weight over there!

I am a size 4 and I feel massive whenever I am over there. They are all so petite!

Post # 11
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3167 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

boy does this bring back memories of trying on jeans in China x_x

Post # 12
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3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Wow.. that’s very interesting! Helping you in cheek b cheek… call you butt “too big”. Wow! If it makes you feel any better, I have a pretty large butt myself. I mean, it’s HUGE! I love it and my FI loves it. So there was no question about showing it off with a trumpet style dress (more dropped waist, but still accentuates my butt). My mom stares at me in it and said, “Oh, wow that does accentuate your butt… you sure you want to do this?” Yes! 🙂

Post # 13
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3614 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Sorry that happened to you. Actually similar stuff happens here in the States too. In one salon I went to the owner yelled across the entire store that I must’ve “paid good money for those nice perky boobs”. In another store the sales manager scolded me like a kid,  “we can’t change the dress to fit you, if you’re short you’re short!” . Nothing like having your body scrutinized and passed judgement on by someone who’s supposed to be helping you out.

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