- 6 years ago
So my wedding is in 10 weeks and I have decided to ignore most of my wedding party.
My partner and I decided on an intimate wedding we just close friends and family but it turns out we aren’t as close to these people as I thought.
It all started from the moment we got in engaged. We got 2 cards. One from a friend at work! My SO brother couldn’t be bothered to answer the phone to us! He text congrats instead. We even went to visit them and they didn’t say congrats. Actually they ignored us and spoke among themselves.
We decided to marry in his hometown ( 5 hours away) and where his family live. Yet everytime we visit they are too busy to see us. Or don’t even answer the door when we arranged to hand deliver our invites +they were defo in) My SO stupidly asked them (his 2 brothers) to be best men and they haven’t done anything!! They don’t even answer the phone / emails!! What upsets me the most is that are too busy to see us but I see pictures on Facebook of family get togethers!! It’s so hurtful.
In short his family have been insulting (to him not me) and have let him down all his life. He has been terribly depressed about it all and I am left to deal with their nasty comments & deal with his low spells. I don’t want them at my wedding and I certainly don’t want us to have anything to do with them after. I have been told this request is unreasonable as “they’re blood”
I wish my side were better but they’re worse. I cannot even guarantee my bridemaids!! My self appointed MoH even told me she is sick of talking about my wedding! (why volunteer yourself then?) 4 weeks after saying the above see threw me a bridal party where she hadn’t even organised anything. We sat in a hotel room all night (which I paid for!) All the accommodation, food and drink is paid for at my wedding yet people keep asking for more eg new bridemaids dress (moh is too big for the one SHE asked me to buy) and for professional makeup.
Unfortunately I’m just scratching the surface of the damage people have done. The stress is getting too much now and my SO and I are bickering all the time. I feel let down by my SO. It doesn’t seem to matter if I’m upset; so long as his family are ok. I really wish we had the cash to elope. I don’t even want to see these people again. Advice on how to move on and stop feeling so bitter