Post # 1
1) My Mother’s insurance information (of whom I am a beneficiary) changed last year April and she never told me, so when I went to go get stitches, I got to sit extra long in the lobby while my leg continued to bleed.
2) She needs therapy. Baldy. Instead, relies on a 50 mg sertraline prescribed by her primary care physician and will not deal with her demons. No follow-up, no anything. I realize I can’t do anything about this.
3) She smokes like a chimney and drinks like a fish. Again, can’t do anything about it…
4) She lied to me about our insurance (that I found out when I called the insurance company to get a new card) covering psycho-therapy that I and my youngest brother need badly.
Does anyone out there have some advice that might be useful in this situation? Has anyone else ever dealt with a friend or family member like this? FI knows everything, but is at a loss. Anything would really be appreciated. Thanks so much.
Post # 3
Well what are you wanting to happen? You know that you can’t change her, are you just mad about the insurance?
Post # 4
I’m sorry you are dealing with this! Unfortuntely in these situtions the only thing you can do is cope with it or learn how to let it not get to you. People have to hit rock bottom before they will get their ish together and it doesn’t sound like she’s there yet.
The otherday I heard something that really put things into perspective for me… you can’t expect your (mom, dad, family, insert disappointing person here) to be anything other than who they are. Just go in with the expectation of this is how this person is and I can’t let it affect me so much.
I have the tendancy to let what my family does really get to me and internalize it. So I do empathize with you! I wish you the best!
Post # 5
@jjah89: Yeah, I should have clarified, I’m so sorry. I’m bothered because my youngest brother was forced through the court proceedings of my Mother’s divorce to see my reprehensible father. I’m not all sure what he did, but my Brother shows some seriously psychologically damaged signs and could use a neutral person to talk to. I asked my Mother about therapy for him and she claimed “her insurance wouldn’t cover it.” I’m upset that she’s wrong, lied to me, and has denied this kid something that could be useful for him.
@MrsElopement: Thank you so much for some perspective. This has definitely been needed and something someone has yet to say. Thank you. I really do appreciate it, truly.
Post # 6
some people just refuse to accept professional help, either with medication or therapy. my parents are like this, they just choose to self medicate. perhaps this is your mom’s way of not dealng with the issue.
any chance you can get your own insurance?
Post # 7
@kerensa: Thank you so much for letting me know I’m not alone out here. I’m sorry if I was unclear. I am covered through her insurance. Essentially, she forwarded incorrect information.