Post # 1
So ladies…When my wonderful Boyfriend or Best Friend put that ring on my finger , I vowed to stop stuffing my face so that i may feel like a million dollars on my wedding day.
It is now 9 months later and I have yet to loose the weight. I am sitting carrying around about 20 more than i want and now I only have 3 months to loose SOMETHING before i do my next fitting.
I am sooo angry at myself.How could I not stick to a diet? the gym routine?! My wedding is in 4 months and i have zero motivation….I have read Allan Carrs easyweigh to loose weight and Skiny B*tch…(They say the only way to loose weight is to become a vegan…and that aint happening) ….
To make matter worse is I have my dress…I tried it on.. and I just dont feel good in it… I have back boobs…I feel like a marshmellow… I understand its because its a brand new dress and of course its a little tight ( the sales woman says) ….And aparently it will loosen up a little….like a pair of jeans….but um…how often does she think im going to wear it before the big day???
At this point i am happy with even 10 or 15 lbs….I am just sooo afraid that i am going to look horrible in my pictures and I wont be able to see the moment happening…all im going to see is my buldge….
any advice would be good right now… 🙁
Post # 3
Ok first, calm down. You have 3 months until you’re next fitting, that is 12 weeks, give or take. It is definitely possible to lose 1-2 lbs a week, which means you can still lose between 12 and 24 pounds!
You just need to get your motivation back (or find it in the first place). How about posting on the Workout Buddies thread? We can help you! Do you have a gym membership? Have you considered weight watchers? You can do it!!!!
Post # 4
Look for small places in your diet that you can make changes. Do you drink soda? Go for fast food? Order popcorn at the movies? Use full-fat dairy instead of non-fat? Order frappuccinos at Starbucks? Just try to find a few tiny places in your daily eating that you can focus on, it might be enough to make a difference. Trying to go gung-ho into a new diet all at once can be overwhelming, and might not be very helpful to you since you’re just trying to drop any amount of weight.
You could also check out a free website like sparkpeople.com or livestrong.com that will create eating plans for you. It’s sort of the no-brainer way of doing it.
Post # 5
Have you tried weight watchers?
It allows you to eat regular food but it controls your portions! It encourages healthy eating because if you eat healthy you can eat more (healthy food = less points) and if you eat badly you can’t eat much (bad food = lots of points – it’s actually shocking LOL)
You can also do it online – so no meetings and there is an awesome online tracking system! But if you need accountability the meetings might be good for you!
Post # 6
First of all stop beating yourself up over the extra weight! You will be beautiful on your wedding day no matter what 🙂
Second, 10-15 pounds is totally doable by your wedding date as long as you allow extra time for your dress fittings. It equals out to about one pound a week which is perfectly healthy.
Start by cutting out all soda or any drinks that aren’t water, tea, or black coffee. Watch your sodium intake (keep it at 1500 mg max a day) and that will help your body let go of some of the extra water. Start with a really healthy breakfast for the day (oatmeal, egg whites, homemade breakfast shake, etc) and it will make eating healthy the rest of the day easier. Do you go out for lunch during the day? Start packing your lunches so you aren’t tempted to ruin your eating.
If you cut enough calories eating the healthy way, exercise won’t be quite as important. Try going for a walk every night after dinner. Buy the 30 Day Shred, it only requires 20 minutes a day in the comfort of your home! It’s summer so you can go for a light swim every day.
Best of luck!
Post # 7
Do you have a support system of people that you can check in with? I have a hard time going to the gym if I’m going there to be by myself but if I’m meeting a trainer or have a class, I am more likely to go. As for the diet, keep track of what you are eating on a site like sparkpeople.com. Make sure you are measuring the food so you are eating a cup of pecans instead of 2 1/2 cups. It’s a pain but it works!
Post # 8
@OttawaBride2011 Workout buddies thread? I actually do have a membership at a gym…where the workout buddies thread 🙂 I could really use a buddy for this 🙁
Post # 9
girl, i feel your pain when it comes to the ever-present weight loss struggle. i highly recommend fitday.com to keep track of all your food intake. it will break it down for you into calories, carbs, protein, and fat, so you can see exactly what you’re eating each day.
for me, i’ve found that it takes a really strict, almost over-the-top approach to lose anything at all. i’m currently on a 1600-cal a day diet plan (any less and i just feel like i’m going to pass out on the treadmill) along with a five-day-per-week gym routine. it’s grueling when i’m also working and in school, but i know it’s my only prayer of losing weight. other genetic and medical factors just aren’t on my side when it comes to the weight loss.
you have time to make a difference… just get cracking on the food diary and gym routine. and remember the most important thing of all: he wants to marry you because he loves YOU for who YOU are. try to stay confident in that. i know it is hard!
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Try Sparkpeople. I lost 35 pounds from September to February and they are free.
Post # 12
All of the other ladies have great advice! Don’t be so hard on yourself. Would you say those things to your best friend?
Sticking to a diet/workout routine is hard for a lot of people. Are you demanding too much of yourself? Like going from couch potato to marathon runner? Start small with one diet change at a time and one feasible work out goal a week. And def a support system!
Post # 13
Weight Watchers would be a great option for you! Check it out…
Post # 14
You are in a great position right now because you have time to get back on track!! Don’t worry, you will because it’s your wedding that’s coming up! 🙂
Seriously, the first thing I would recommend is to not give yourself so many rules or ‘schedules’. I think doing that (like saying I’ll go to the gym 4x week) is setting yourself up to fail. Instead, work walking into your routine and the gym is an added bonus. I am not lying to you, I’ve helped so many people lose weight just by giving them a pedometer!
And don’t get me started on the vegan thing. Besides the obvious of being annoyingly difficult to put a balanced meal together, forget restaurants, it’s also setting you up to fail b/c you are totally depriving yourself! As far as food, just eat less and drink more water. HOnestly! That’s it! yes, it’s an added bonus if you eat healthier things like grilled chicken, veggies, fruit, fish but you have to keep yourself happy while you’re dieting and that means eating what you LIKE! Just stop yourself after you’ve had 1 ‘real’ portion!
Post # 15
Don’t beat yourself up about it! Losing weight is hard and everyone has setbacks. Try to let go of the past and negative feelings and focus on the future, whatever plan you choose.
I’ve had very good luck following the plan outlined in the South Beach book. And you don’t have to stick to just the recipes in the book…you can find South Beach recipes for free online and can still eat out sometimes. The first two days were the toughest, as it was a big routine change. But we started (FI & I together) mid-April and it has become second nature at this point. I’ve lost 13 lbs so far and likely would’ve lost more if I had not been sick for a week and eating more starchy things than I should have. It’s a very good plan and after you get past the first two weeks, it really doesn’t feel much like a diet, but you keep losing weight.
Good luck and hang in there! Just remember, no matter what you do, you will be gorgeous on your wedding day and your Fiance loves you for YOU! 🙂
Post # 16
Ooooh I feel for you, doll. I’m in a very similar boat, except that I’ve 60 lbs to lose, and 11 months to do it. I know it can be done, but I’m having such a hard time building the motivation to do it. I’m inclined to agree with the ladies who suggested weight watchers, it does the job, and there’s nothing forbidden. And the small changes to decrease food in, and things like the pedometer to increase food burned, will do it. If you’re interested, there are a lot of interesting articles (from scientific studies etc) on websites like nytimes.com, I find them motivational sometimes.
Do you swim? I’ve just this last few months learned, and I love it, I go 3 times a week now. I still find it hard work, and today at then end of one length which I went as fast as I could for, my heart rate was up to around 150 – for me that’s pretty good, the most I get in the gym at full belt is about 168! So there are enjoyable ways to work it.
Don’t beat yourself up, don’t look back with the ‘shoulda woulda coulda’ nonsense. Every time you open your mouth to put food in, you have the opportunity to make a good decision.
Now if I could only convince myself! Best of luck, chick, start this evening, you have enough time!