Post # 1
I was out with my mom about a week ago and told her how SO and I went out for our Anniversary dinner recently (7 years thank you very much). Anywho her response was pretty negative saying you shouldn’t go out for an anniversary without being married and “This is a your generation thing.” I wasn’t surprised by this because she says it to my other siblings as well.
Just a general question, do you and SO celebrate a yearly anniversary of being together or no? Everyone I know who isn’t married celebrates there dating anniversary. I guessing it is a generational thing because a lot of us wait to get married until later on. Note, my mom got married when she was 21 and had 2 kids by the time she was my age (with two more to come)!
Post # 3
Of course we celebrate our dating anniversary! Ummm she sounds like a party pooper… why shouldn’t you have something to celebrate? That doesn’t make sense.
Post # 4
We don’t. When we got married I told DH he could forget our dating anniversary and only celebrate our wedding anniversary.
That said – we have been together 10 years this year so I did get him a card and we did go out that night, but not as a major celebration – he got me nothing and that was OK as the expectation was that we do not celebrate that date any more.
Post # 5
I told her exactly that! Hahaha. My mom is weird but I love her. No problem with people living together and dating but they can’t celebrat an anniversary unless they’re married. Also, says she would never get married again but asks me when I am everytime I see her. Walking contradiction that woman!
Post # 6
We don’t. We disagree about when we actually started dating though =). Our relationship blossomed from what was originally just a friends-with-benefits arrangement.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - FMILs back yard
We do. We’ll have been together for seven years this year. To us, what an anniversary celebrates is the committment to one another, not just the years of marriage. We were committed to each other the day we first said “I love you” and that is the date we chose for our anniversary.
We plan on getting married on our anniversary date so that our wedding anniversary will be the same as our dating anniversary and we will just continue to count the years of committment, not marriage.
Post # 8
We do! 8 years for us in September!
Post # 9
Yup but we don’t really do much. We are very let’s stay at home and order in people.
Post # 10
@MaddieM: We recently had our 7th anniversary as well! (in April) We went out for dinner…and it was DELICIOUS!!!! We don’t necessarily do anything big, sometimes we’ll just cook a nice meal, sometimes we’ll go out, but we usually do something.
@missjayb: I really wanted us to get married on our dating anniversary, but unfortunately we would have to wait until 2016 for it to fall on a Saturday (it would be our 10th, which would be cool, but I don’t want to wait that long). We’ve settled on as close to our anniversary as possible. Unfortunately in 2015 the closest happens to be Easter weekend, so that’s a no go. We will be getting married 9 days after our 9th anniversary 🙂
Post # 11
We never celebrated any anniversaries but will celebrate our wedding anniversary. I know some people that celebrate their dating anniversary and TBH I do think it’s kind of silly. But, to each their own and if it’s important to you then go for it! It’s not affecting your mom in any way but she’s still entitled to her opinion, as you are to yours.
Post # 12
I agree with giving up the dating anniversary when you go through with the big day. Seriously, it would be excessive to have both. For non-married ladies though, I’m all for some kind of anniversary if you’re in it for the long haul. Glad I’m not the only one.
Post # 13
High five for the 7 year couples!
Post # 14
I don’t think it is necessary once you’re married. I’d just like to remember one day.
We did celebrate our 1 year dating anniversary, but after that we haven’t. If I remember or he does, we would probably go out to eat instead of stay in, but it wouldn’t be a big deal anymore.
Post # 15
I’m another member of the 7 year club! It was our 7 years on the 29th March. We usually go out for a quiet meal and we get each other a small card.
Post # 16
@MaddieM: I agree, once we’re married we’ll only celebrate our wedding anniversary. But right now…well it would be sad if we had to wait through 9 years of dating (it’ll be almost 9 years exactly when we get married) and one year of marriage before we could celebrate!