Post # 1
So last wednesday was my 8th anniversary with my SO and we have a wonderfully romantic day. Every year we always make sure to go out and celebrate our anniversary and it evolved into us “taking turns” to organise the day. I mentioned this to one of our mutual friends, who was pretty shocked and impressed that I was organising this year’s anniversary and he commented that he wished he could get his wife to agree to that.
I was surprised because to me, I don’t see why the guy should have to organise it every year. I actually enjoy thinking of romantic things for us to do, and my SO still got me flowers and gift (as do I for him when he organises the day).
Who organises your anniversaries?
Post # 3
I usually organize celebrations and vacations. He is a bit disorganized and tends to procrastinate (i.e. last valentine’s day, it occured to him the day beforehand to take me out to dinner at this restaurant we’ve been wanting to go to… reservations for which fill a week in advance at least).
Wedding planning should be a hoot, lol.
Post # 4
@Regina Phalange: Haha I have to admit I did this one year when I was organising, kind of forgot that you need to reserve in advance for some of the fancier places (especially for Valentine’s day!).
Post # 5
We tend to do either take turns or a joint effort. I think guys get the short end of the stick as they have to bethe ones to plan it or get a gift and I think it’s a bit unfair.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
We trade off, but it’s not really a “formal” thing– it just depends on who has a good idea for what to do, or how we want to do it. For example, 1 year my husband planned a weekend trip to Monterey; another year I booked us reservations at a super fancy restaurant we’d both been wanting to go to; Another year he planned a full day of fun in San Francisco covering all of our favorite parts; this past year we did a nice dinner, and I surprised him with a hunting trip to Texas (he got the trip, I got a freexer full of wild game, so it was really a present for both of us).
It just depends on where we are each year and who has more time to think about such things.
Post # 7
I don’t know…I was hoping he’d plan a proposal this year. 2 weeks til and we have no plans..I did last year.
Post # 8
One of usually brings it up and we make a general plan, eg which restaurant to go to, should we see a movie, etc. THEN we surprise each other with gifts and stuff!
Post # 9
This is so interesting, for some weird reason I assumed there would be more votes for “my SO does it”. I guess sharing the planning is not as uncommon as I thought!
Post # 11
In our four years, we’ve never celebrated an anniversary.
we decided right at the start of our relationship that the first one we’d celebrate would be our first wedding anniversary.
he has said that he would like to go to a different country each year to celebrate, and as we live in the UK, popping to Europe is easy! i’m going to let him organise them, and he’s going to book it all, take me to the airport and not tell me where we’re going until i see the destination at the gate.
Post # 12
We usually start talking about it a few weeks beforehand. “Oh, our anniversary is on the 4th, were you thinking about anything specific?” “No, did you have anything you wanted to do?” “I hadn’t really thought about it.” Rinse and repeat until one of us finally goes “I made reservations at X restaurant, is that cool.” “Yeah, that’s great!”
So yeah, it’s a joint effort that we kinda trade off on.
Post # 13
Anniversaries are kind of a quite time for us, we’ll both talk about what we want to do if we do something.
But we do take turns doing something for Valentine’s Day which I really like. 🙂