Post # 1
I was thinking about who at my wedding would be married the longest and came across a possible problem. My grandparents on my side are all divorced. My FI’s grandparents recently lost their wife and husband. Many of my aunts/uncles are divorced. Our parents are pretty much the only couples that have been married for a long time.
I had always planned on having the anniversary dance, since it’s tradition around my area. But now I don’t want to bring sadness to the grandparents who recently lost their partner. Any advice? Leave this dance out??
Post # 3
It was kind of depressing looking over my list and realizing not many couples we know have stayed together, except our parents!
Post # 4
I would say cut it out. This is a cute idea if there are couples attending who have been married for a long time, but if you don’t have any or many I would say just skip this part.
Post # 5
Why not do a variation- like the couple with the closest anniversary to yours?
So you’re getting married in June- have the DJ go through the months until everyone with anniversaries in a month other than June sit down. Then start counting down weeks until there is only 1 couple left.
Post # 6
@Rosychicklet- Gosh that’s a great idea… But I already am pretty sure it would be the FIL’s – their date is June 23! If it weren’t for that I’d def. consider that idea.
Post # 7
OH, like it wouldn’t be surprise at who had the closest anniversary? More staged?
Could you just have a dance for maried couples??? Not count down the years? But at the end, make a brief sentimental announcement and give your bouquet to your grandmother.
If you feel like your grandparents would be sad, could you dance with the grandfather who lost his wife, and your Fi dance with the grandmother who lost her hubby? It would stink not to dance with your own husband for a married dance but….
Do you know that these grandparents would even want to dance? Do they get around that well? Could the grandmother and grandfather dance with each other?
If (being old) might they be likely to leave early? then you could do the dance after they leave.
Post # 8
We were actually just talking about the Anniversary Dance last night. We decided not to do it, even though we like it in theory, because we didn’t want to make our families feel uncomfortable. My side has a lot of divorces and my grandma is already a basketcase over the thought that my grandpa (who passed away 4 years ago) won’t be there.
That is a cute idea about the anniversary that is closest to yours. Of course, that would have been my grandparents, so we still can’t do it, but it’s a good option.
Post # 9
I’d say leave it out. Maybe you and your FH can dance with the grandparents who are there solo 🙁 to make them feel loved and included. Otherwise, I woudl avoid the awkward situation at all costs 🙂
Let us know what you decide to do!!
Post # 10
Thanks girls. I think I’m going to leave it out all together. But this is one of the reasons I love weddinbee, it makes me think about things I may have not of thought of. I was just planning on doing it before I even thought about my guests.
I wanted a way of getting everyone up out of their seats but I guess that’s what my DJ is for!