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    spraguebride    August 8, 2009   Bothell, WA

    My hubby and I have been married since October. Tomorrow is our 3 year "dating anniversary".

    This has be thinking "How long until people stop celebrating the dating anniversary once they are married?" 

    Do some people always celebrate both?  Do others stop as soon as they are married?

    What did you do? What do you plan to do? What do you think it normal?

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I think I'll want to celebrate it in someway forever.  Even if its just a nice dinner.  Or making sure we spend it as a date night.  It helps that its the 4th of July so there is always something to do. 

     
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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    Hm thats a good question. Most married folks I know never refer to a dating anniversary, but I'm sure I'll still be somewhat attached to that date as a newlywed. We dated for 5 years before getting engaged, so its been a special day for us for a while, AND he proposed on our dating anniversary, so its our "engage-aversary" as well!

    I bet we'll recognize it for a few years, but won't go all out and do big gifts or anything. All in all, I think the wedding anniversary is most important.

     
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    rachel_leigh    May 15, 2010  

    I think we will probably celebrate our dating anniversary for a few more years, mostly because it is our engage-iversary as well.  It is actually coming up on the 26th.  Six years together!

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    Eh, we're not attached to our dating anniversary.  We broke up once on our original "dating anniversary" and then made up a new one when we got back together.  It's never felt right to me.  I'll be excited to be rid of it and able to celebrate our wedding anniversary (strangely enough, they're around the same times -- original, made up one, and wedding)

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    we dont have an official dating anniversary (since we have differing times when we say we started dating! LOL) but we have a "day we met anniversary" and that coincides with st. patricks day and our wedding anniversary will be 3 days after our engagement anniversary.... so we are gonna probably combine the wedding/engagement aniversary for labor day weekend festivities, then the "we met" anniversary with our favorite holiday (YES ITS A HOLIDAY) St. Patricks Day...

     
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    spraguebride    August 8, 2009   Bothell, WA

    I think that in a few years we will not celebrate anymore. I am sure that I will alway stop on March 20th and think to myself "we have been together X number of years".

    We were just married...so March 20th is the anniversary that we have always had. I just couldnt bear to ignore it JUST because we were married. It still signifies that we have been together 3 years

    So our solution is to celebrate...but not all the way. No cards or gifts...but we are going out to dinner.

    I know my poor hubby was worried that with money being so tight...that I was adding ANOTHER hoiday to buy a gift for.  hahahahaha!!!  I told him "relax....you don't need to buy anything"   hahahahaha

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i think we'll stop our dating anniversary now that we're married. it's too much to remember. our wedding anniversary covers the day we met (a month before we started dating), and the day we got engaged. i think that's enough celebration.

    i don't think anything's "normal." people just do whatever is right for them.

     
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    missjyc    September 18, 2010   macomb, michigan

    i think we both decided that this past dating anniversary will be the last we celebrate! LOL.

    we'll be married by the time our next dating anniversary, and obvi the wedding anniv is a bigger deal.

    i'm sure we'll do something small, the way we celebrate valentine's day or sweetest day... but i def dont want to do gifts or fancy dinner or etc.

    just something small and sentimental, even if it's just a txt "it's our ## dating anniversary today!" ;*)

     
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    RoddyBride09    September 5, 2009   Bethlehem, PA

    We don't really celebrate our dating anniversary per se but we try to spend an evening with each other on that day. The hubs had asked whether we were going to celebrate the "other" anniversaries and I said no but he better remember our wedding anniv. :)

     
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    Ms.Editor    April 25, 2009   Chicago

    We celebrated our dating anniversary this year as it was a big one--5 years together! I wonder if more people will start celebrating both days as it seems people are dating longer before getting married (purely anecdotal evidence, but at least it's this way with my group of friends).

     
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    maisymay    December 19, 2009   morgan hill, ca

    Our date-iversary is in April and our anniversary is in December, so I imagine we'll continue to acknowledge both. We are a little overly sentimental though. We began dating on April 13, 2007 and every month on the 13th one of us mentions how long we've been together. It's silly, but just one of our little things.

    In my opinion, feel free to celebrate as long as you want. It's the little things we remember that keep the relationship fun.

     
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    krissybee    October 15, 2011   :: chicago IL ::

    i think we'll always celebrate our "dating" anniversary (also its our engagement anniversary too) even after we get married. A nice dinner and cards..nothing too extravagant. If we never dated, we wouldn't have gotten married and thats kinda fun! another reason to go out and celebrate too!!

    Cool

     
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    2PeasinaPod       Philadelphia

    We still wake up on our dating anniversary and say "happy anniversary" to one another, but that's it. I think it's sweet to keep it in mind, but our wedding anniversary is what we really celebrate. We just make sure we spend the day together if we can or celebrate that weekend if we can't actually spend the day together b/c of work or school. I think it's important to acknowledge the day you got married. My best friend doesn't, and I think it's sad that they don't take a day out of a year to just celebrate their marriage.

     
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    OttawaBride2011    May 21, 2011   Ottawa, Ontario

    We don't really celebrate now so I can't imagine we'll start once we're married :) We'll just celebrate our wedding anniversary!

     
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    Min    August 21, 2010  

    We dont celebrate our dating anniversary. We know when it is just becuase it was on my 21st birthday but we have never done anything for it. Plus its my birthday and his is 4 days before mine and then a few days later its Valentines day so it would be way too much to celbrate our dating anniversary anyway. But Ive never been big on dating anniversaries. Im sure we will celebrate our wedding anniversary though, who knows, at least the first one....lol

     
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    rachaelrobin    January 16, 2011   Philadelphia

    Oh I hope we won't keep our dating anniversary; we started dating the day after Christmas!  We've spent almost every anniversary hanging out with his brothers and parents - which has been good, but I am hoping maybe for something slightly more romantic out of an anniversary.  It might be just me, but videogaming just doesn't do it for me...

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    I think we will just celebrate the marriage anniversary :) But I will always remember and always atleast bring up/do something tiny and cute on our dating annverary! But the dinner, flowers, gifts? only the marriage one!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    We never really kept track of our dating anniversary since we basically have 2 of them.

     
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    naangel55    June 20, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    I dont think we will be celebrating our dating anniversary but I know we will remember it and comment on it.  We know our engagement anniversary too but I think the main thing would just be our wedding anniversary. Maybe out to dinner on the dating one but thats about it.  Too many gifts!!! haha

     
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    Ryansgirl    October 22, 2011   Canada

    We were trying to get married on our dating anniversary - October 21 - to avoid this issue lol.  Unfortunately it won't work, but we'll probably celebrate it in a small way each year.  We even celebrated the monthly anniversary for the first couple years.  Every 21st we would say "Happy Anniversary!"

    But what about the engagement date?! Ours was August 10th...Do we have to celebrate that too? :)

     
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    princess poolau    October 11, 2010  

    hehehe we'll be celebrating our dating anniversary and our marriage anniversary. more excuse for a nice dinner and bottle of bubbly!

     
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    VirginiaMarie    January 2011   Austin, TX

    I don't know about "celebrate", but we will probably always continue to remember June 23 as a special day for us.  With just a longer kiss before bed, or a sweet "reminder' email....

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    I don't think we'll celebrate it, but maybe a special homemade dinner. We'll have eight of them before we get married, so it's a habit! 

    We've never celebrated the smaller markers (6 months, etc) and I'm not sure why. I guess we knew we'd last long enough for those not to matter? :P

     
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    duck    May 13, 2012   new orleans

    the fi and i are so ridiculously attached to our dating anniversary that we are getting married on it!  it will be our 7th year together when we get to say "i do"

     

    if we weren't getting married on that date we would probably continue to celebrate it in a small way--date night or cards, since it will always be special...its the day of our first kiss, and really that started everything that has led us here....

     
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    thefuturemrsgibbs    June 12, 2010   Northern California

    FI and I plan on celebrating our wedding anniversary only. We know of the exact day we met 4-26-08 almost two years ago! But we disagree on the exact date that we started being "boyfriend and girlfriend". He didn't really ask me officially it was just kind of assumed since we were dating exclusively. 

    He did however ask me to marry him officially with a ring and we picked the date and started planning right away.

     
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    lauren810c    August 21, 2010   NYC

    Good question....although we are engaged we are celebrating our 2 year anniversary together (which we refer to as the day we met) this May 15th..we are getting married in August...so if anything I think of it as another day to celebrate with a nice meal out with my man!

     
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    ChaiAnkh99    August 12, 2011   Boston

    Our dating anniversary is also my birthday and my FMIL's birthday, so it's not as if either of us will ever forget it.  I look forward to eventually having another date to celebrate as our (wedding) anniversary, one that's all about us and not about me.

    A co-worker of mine has been with her fiance for five years, and they go on an "annual first date."  They go to the same restaurant to which they first went, on the same date, every year, and I think it's adorable.  They're getting married in two months, but I'm sure they will continue this tradition even after that.

     
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    Mrs. Menard to Be    February 11, 2010   Kansas

    Our wedding is the day before our 6 year anniversary!! So i think we'll celebrate both in a way (:

     

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