Post # 1
i have been married for almost 2 years and me and my husband talked about vow renewal some time in the next ten years. i have posted a post a while back asking questions about a vow renewal due to the fact that my small (75 people including me and husband) wedding was not what i wanted and things went wrong. i have talked to people in my family who think its a good idea if thats what i want and they support me. and i wouldnt mine a casual vow reneal but i almost wonder what about an anniversary party where me and my husband say something nice to each other in from of people and me adn my guest (more than 75 due to not being able to invite extented family the first time) have fun dance and have dinner and ect. but i didnt get my dream dress the first time and i would love to have it would it be to much to get it and wear it to an anniversary party since its casual? and i know its technically aginst the rules to have a bridal party at a vow renewal but my close friends said they would love to. so if we just have a anniversary party would it be ok if i made them apart of the party like giving them some kind of flower to wear or something for the party adn get pictures together ect.? im just trying to explore my options on this issue. what do you all think?
Post # 3
@jacklakin: I kind of feel like there are no rules for this, and you should definitely go with your heart! If you’d like your closest friends to be there right beside you, I say go for it! Since it sounds like you didn’t quite get the wedding day you dreamed of, I think you should totally go ahead and make it a fabulously glorious day! 🙂
Post # 4
Thank you so much, i truly appreciate it! i think i’ll go for it. let the planning begin!
Post # 5
@jacklakin: I think you can do this as casually or non-casually as you want. It’s YOUR party. My father and his sisters sponsored a formal anniversary party for my grandparents on their 37th anniversary (why 37 I’m not sure – I think that was just when they were able to get the money, lol). While my grandmother didn’t wear white, we did all wear (semi-)formal wear and there was a married dance between my grandparents, they said some words to each other, etc. (That was over 13 years ago, I’m sure they’ve made it to 50 by now.)
I don’t think you should feel like you have to follow any “rules.” As long as people in your family and close friend circle are okay with it…do what you want to do! If you didn’t have a chance to take pictures with a bridal party the first time around and your friends are game, DO IT. If you want to wear a fancy white dress again, do that too! It’s a party and you’re spending your money and I’m sure none of your vendors will object, lol.
I do think it would be a little strange if your dream dress was a traditional ball gown, unless everyone else is wearing ball gowns. Whatever you wear should be germane to the occasion. If you want to wear a formal dress, make it a formal party; if you want it to be more casual, then you should wear a casual version of your dream dress. But it can be white.
Post # 6
@jacklakin: are you still planning your vow renewal? I have been thinking about this as well, my husband and I got married last New Year’s Eve and it was such a blast that we want to do it again! Friends have been calling as we are getting close to New Years asking when we are doing a renewal or having an anniversary party haha. I think it’s just a good excuse to throw an awesome party and celebrate our marriage with a vow renewal as well. I was thinking we may even renew our vows privately or with just a couple close friends and then celebrate afterwards with a party.
Post # 7
Sounds like fun! PM me as I am also having a vow renewal.
Post # 8
@Missloveknot: i think a private renewal sounds awesome with a party afters especially if all your friends are asking for one and you want to do one. i just hope they dont expect one every year lol. i am stil debating it, i want to do it but i think about what others think to much and am nervous what my in-laws will think. but your idea sounds awesome! go for it if thats what you want too!
Post # 9
@jacklakin: i think you should do what you feel in your heaet i to had very small wedding just our children n my mom n his mom we had horrible day nothing went right my mom found out the night of my wedding my dad was leaving her to disaster if you need to do this the. go for it i to am renewing my vows with a paety 10/8/16 and having party and i am looking forward to recommenting myself and so is my hubby go for girl its tour choice just dont do gift registery or jack n jills or bridal shower its not wedding but other than that have the day you want i say
Post # 10
@mrstattoo10816: sorry bout the miss spells on my phone 🙁