Post # 1
Future Brother-In-Law & Future Sister-In-Law welcomed their daughter/our niece into the world today and she’s totally perfect. 10 fingers, 10 toes and gorgeous! They were “team green” so the gender was much anticipated. EVERYONE except for Future Mother-In-Law was convinced that it was a boy, even Future Brother-In-Law & Future Sister-In-Law. When Future Brother-In-Law came out to the waiting room and announced “it” was a she we were stunned but absolutely thrilled (I reeeeeally wanted it to be a girl)!
Anyways, considering the gender was a surprise everyone was eager to hear the news. I just hopped on FB and saw that one of their friends posted, on BOTH of their walls, “Congratulations! Hailey _____ sounds beautiful!”. I doubt FBIL/FSIL have seen the posts yet since there’s no reception in the hospital but if I were them I would be irate. Now, I don’t necessarilly take FB that seriously but I just think it’s really crappy for someone who is not the babys parents (or in any way related to them) to announce not only the birth but also the gender and full name to all of their FB friends, which is pretty much everyone they know.
How would you feel about someone blowing up your spot?
Post # 3
Yeah, I found out my Future Sister-In-Law had her baby before her and her husband revealed it on facebook (which is normal). I congratulated them in a private message instead of all over their wall. They deserve to tell the world, and not me!
Post # 4
@UpstateCait: Ugh that pisses me off so much! I wouldnt write on someones FB wall saying ANYTHING about a baby until they have posted it themselves (like posted a picture or their own announcment) I just think it’s so rude! Same thing goes for pregnant ladies. If I know a friend is pregnant, I would NEVER write something on her wall until she herself posted something about it. I think of it as highly inconsiderate!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park
I would be PISSED! I hate that people feel that it’s appropriate to announce other people’s business on facebook. I thought my water may have broken a couple of weeks ago (it didn’t, just extra watery discharge that the preggo books don’t warn you about) and had called my husband to let him know I was going to the hospital to check. Anywho, later I posted a status about some project I was doing, and this random girlfriend of a friend commented “Wait, I thought you were in the hospital!” um, no, bitch, I’m obviously at home, if I was in the hospital and wanted people to know, pretty sure THAT would have been my status! Why the hell do you think it’s ok to comment like that? I deleted it, and reamed into my husband becuase he decided to tell a friend that my water may have broken, and that friend told, like, 20 other people. Argh! Anyway, now he’s on information lockdown.
I’m being induced this Monday, and in preparation I’ve already disabled the feature for people to be able to post on my wall or comment on my statuses. We’re trying to keep it from our families until we’re actually in the hospital (because they’re incredibly stressful, needy people and we don’t want them in the room with us, or texting every 5 seconds from the waiting room) and I don’t want any of our ignorant friends blowing our cover! I’ll keep it turned off until we make the official baby announcement. P.S. you can find those settings under Account->Privacy.
Post # 6
@PitBulLover:the same thing with engagements, too
Post # 7
I don’t think I’d mind that too much. If you don’t tell people not to say it on facebook, they will, so I’ve learned to make sure to say not to if I want to keep it a secret. If I don’t, than it’s really my fault.
My sister learned about my grandpa’s death on facebook when a cousin posted it, many people learned about my sister’s engagement on facebook when she didn’t want it on there until she was able to tell close friends in person, etc. Facebook is annoying sometimes.
Post # 8
@PitBulLover: Ditto. We were the first ones to see our friend’s baby. We didn’t write anything on FB until after they announced. I would be royally pissed if someone wrote on our FB walls before we had a chance to announce it.
Post # 9
@UpstateCait: Totally thoughtless. I agree entirely.
On a happier note: YAY!!!!! Congrats on being a new auntie. 😀
Post # 10
While it sucks, some people just don’t think, I’m sure it wasn’t meant to take anything away from them. Would I personally do it? Of course not, but I can’t get mad for someone for being happy. Learn from it and close your wall/account next time if you don’t want it to happen to you.
Post # 11
I would definitely not want to steal someone else thunder, so I wouldn’t do it.
Although, this might be different when I’m pregnant, but I wouldn’t be bothered by it. I know that news gets around on facebook and I know how my family is with texting. I tell my sister and everyone including her coworkers will know within an hour. Ehhh…
I think I would be happy to see all the posts on my wall. I’m pretty sure that I won’t have time to update my status on facebook within a reasonable time so if people find out by other methods… good for them.
Just my opinion.
Although, when I get pregnant I won’t be team green, so this is probably different.
Post # 12
I would think that new parents would be so over the moon (and exhausted and busy) that they aren’t going to care about facebook. And seriously, if somebody just had a baby, and they’re getting worked up over someone congratulating them via facebook and “stealing their spotlight” or whatever, they’ve got their priorities screwed up.
I don’t know if it’s rude or not; I don’t think anybody does. This kind of social media is too new, and the etiquette is still evolving rapidly. The way we convey and relay information is also much more fluid and instantaneous, and artificial restrictions, like waiting for an official anouncement, are breaking down. You see it in news coverage; anything that’s happening, it’s on Twitter a minimum of 10 minutes before a media outlet has it. (Sometimes hours.) Same with gossip and facebook.
Post # 14
@sand dollar: What a fantastic idea! Way to think ahead!
@PitBulLover: Agreed! Fiance and I were in the waiting room when she was born so besides FIL’s, we were the first to see her. It never even crossed my mind to post about it on FB. This is their big news to share, no-one elses. I’m just so angry that people think this is okay. What blows my mind even more is that Future Mother-In-Law commented on the post on FSIL’s wall saying something like “she’s so beautiful!!” and then “liked” the one on FBILs. She shouldn’t be contributing to this!
Post # 15
@Elvis: If I just carried a human inside of me for 9+ months (FSIL was almost 2 weeks overdue) and didn’t know the gender then someone I was just “sorta” friends with blew up my spot, I would be livid and I do not think it would have anything to do with my priorities being “screwed up”. That announcement is 9 months in the making and no-one besides the people who actually did anything to earn it, deserve to make it.
Obviously this girl didn’t post it to be malicious. I’m sure she was just happy that her friends had their kid and it was a momentary lapse in judgement. Doesn’t make it suck any less though.
Post # 16
When my niece was born she was a team green surprise too (except to me, I knew she was a pretty little princess) and I made sure specifically not to tell anyone (facebook or otherwise) until the go ahead was given by her parents that I could reveal it. All of our friends were WAY too excited to find out, but it’s their news to share and it’s not right to take the wind out of someone’s sails like that.
I also don’t agree with people posting pictures of other people’s babies unless they ask permission, not everyone wants their child’s photo on FB.
I guess FB is just like that though, when I got engaged I asked everyone to keep it off FB until I got the chance to personally call all those who I didn’t want to find out over the internet and like 12 hours after we got engaged one of my aunts had already plastered it all over my wall before I got a chance to disable it. Going forward at least I know to close my wall when there’s something exciting going on haha.