Post # 1
Just wanted to share… my mom went to a bridal shower a few weeks ago. She said that when the bride opened a monetary gift, someone would announce to everyone at the party “So-and-So gave $100.00!” every single time.
So tacky and rude! Who would even think that’s okay?
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
That’s weird. When I open monetary or gift card gifts around others, I always look at the person and say thank you, but keep the details to myself (or quietly and discretely show the amount to the person making the thank you card list).
Post # 5
Yeah, I agree with you, but I can also kind of see that they were announcing the gift, because there wasn’t a physical gift to see. Still…
sounds like a nice Bridal Shower. at mine, half of my Aunts arrived with nothing but snacks. No card or gift, I was a bit bummed (because I like cards, at least)
Post # 6
Um. Awkward. Obviously that bride doesn’t know what tact and grace is.
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Post # 8
Ohhh wow. That’s incredibly rude.
Post # 9
I think this is actually done— and accepted— in some circles, especially those where there’s a good mix of checks and physical gifts, like unwrap a box and the hostess marches the gift around on display saying “And Aunt Sophie gave a bread maker!!!”
Not to my own personal tastes, but I think it’s common enough in some social circles and cultures that I wouldn’t find it offensive or even raise an eyebrow. Especially with showers, it’s all about how your family/friends usually do things.
Post # 10
Oh how appalling…way to make the people that could only manage $25 feel like total losers.
Post # 11
Horrible. Its one thing for the gift give(still tacky) to volunteer the information i.e. Aunt Sally wants the recognition for a generous gift and says it, but for the bride to ok that? No, thanks.
Post # 12
That’s terrible. DH’s mom wanted us to open our cards in front of the whole family the day after the wedding and we said no. She was really unhappy because she said we would hurt his grandparent’s feelings by not opening the card, but we did not want to deal with people asking how much we go and all that. We told her if she wanted to read the cards she can come over and read them. It’s been 6 months and she could care less now.
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
@Stressed_Bride15: A little awkward and definitely not tactful. At ours we just announced “money”, no amounts, and I discreetly let my MOH know the name and how much for the thank you cards.
Post # 14
I would feel mortified if someone did this to me. I don’t want that known to other people.
Post # 15
Oh my. That is completely inappropriate. At my shower, and others that I’ve attended, boxed and bagged gifts (i.e non-cash, non-check, non-gift-card gifts) were announced (and, in some cases, passed around the room.) However, when brides opened cards with gift cards, only the fact that the gift was a gift card was announced (no mention of monetary value), and money (cash and checks) may have been mentioned as being the gift, but there was never a mention of the amount.