Post # 1
An article about how FB handles status updates for engaged couples got me thinking about how in this modern age of technology with family and friends scattered across the globe couples announce their engagements. I have heard of situations where friends or family members were hurt that the good news was known by others through online mediums before they were told personally. How did you announce your engagement and in what order did you tell people?
Here is the article I mentioned:
Post # 3
I called people after I calmed down. Mom and sisters first than grandparents than aunts and uncles, the rest was word of mouth.
Post # 4
We called friends, parents and grandparents. The rest was word of mouth.
Post # 5
We were engaged overseas on a group trip with a lot of FI’s family. Most people at home knew it was coming & kept emailing my FBIL for updates. When it finally happened I told him (FBIL) that he could tell friends at home, but to also ask them not to post anything on FB until we all got home. There were some family members I wanted to tell in person & I didn’t need them finding out that way.
Post # 6
I also called my parent, grandparents, my aunts and uncles who I am close to, and others who i felt needed to hear it from me. After that, we changed our facebook status’s and the rest heard through the grapevine. I did have a few who said, “Well I heard through facebook!” But these were people I only talk to a couple of times a year and we have never stayed up to date with each other’s lives, so I didn’t feel too guilty about it.
Post # 7
I called my parents, my sister, and my godmother. I waited until the next day to call my friends. Then updated on Facebook.
Post # 8
I called my parents, sisters, and grandmother (my mom had already told her, I was so bummed). Then I sent an email to my aunts, told the co-workers I wanted to personally tell, and then a couple of days later updated facebook.
I had a cousin who got engaged a couple of weeks ago- it was all over facebook by the next morning. She actually got quite a few what??? comments from friends and family. I was surprised to see people actually post that response, but can’t say I didn’t think the same thing!
Post # 9
I am a terrible person and I sent out a mass text message very first thing. After that I called my parents and FI called his parents. We also posted it on Twitter and because FI is well known in the tech community, a tech gossip blog picked it up and then the whole internet knew.
Post # 10
We made lots of calls to people we wanted to tell, and yes, then used Fb and Twitter to announce it to everyone else.
Post # 11
I actually called or told people in person. I’ve never done an official facebook post on my engagement! I guess at this point, I probably won’t. I don’t care to “release the news” there, necessarily.
And I specifically turned off posting of others to my wall to prevent someone saying something.
I felt like, for me, a personal phone call or announcement in person was right. I didn’t need to share it online.
Post # 12
My sister made the mistake of updating her Facebook status before calling our mother and father to tell them she was engaged. My mother particularly was very hurt she found out over FB and only got a call from her the next day.
I think it’s best to call those closest to you ASAP and THEN update your FB.
Post # 13
I know this is an old thread, but the night he proposed, we told all of our family first. My mom and sisters already knew it was coming. So we called them (actually went to my moms house) and then called my older sister. I then called my best friend and cousins. He called his grandparents, parents, close cousin, sisters, and some close friends. Then we sent out a massive text before we announced it on Facebook.
My cousin just got engaged Friday night and they just announced it today on Facebook. They called everyone that’s close to them first though. That’s why they waited the weekend.