Post # 1
I have to vent about FIs friends. Kinda long, but feel free to post some of your FIs friends that bother you.
Me and my FI have a great relationship. We have two beautiful kids, a nice life together, and love each other and our family so much. Our one problem is his friends. I genuenly like most of them. They cool and laid back like us. But there are three that just annoy the hech out of me. Now, I will mention we are a little unconventional. When we go out about 80% of the time its seperate. We have two kids so someone has to stay home, and also we have different ideas of fun time when out. I like to go dancing and get to about once a month. He is a gamer, and HATES dancing, so about 2-3 times a month he goes out.
THere is only one that really gets under my skin though. He is the only friend that just does not seem to like me, and has gone out of his way to try to create drama (to the point we stay away from him) The last weekend I saw him on my night out with my friends, and yes mostly men that I have grown up with, and was dancing. I dress in cute dance bar type clothes, but nothing FI hasnt seen me leave with. I think that night I had leggings and a long shirt/short dress on with boots. Pretty normal for around here. Well, my FIs friend takes pictures of me on his cell and sending them to FI. I got home to FI joking around about having a spy, and showing me pictures that were taken. He really didnt care. I wasnt doing anything provocitive, or scandalous. I guess he gots texts about “Are you okay?” “what did she have to say for herself?” And started to talk bad about me to mutual friends because I have FI brain washed or something. I am going to tear my hair out!!!
Sorry to vent here, but in real life it would just add fuel to the drama he is trying to create.
Post # 3
@weeonebride: What a dick! I would confront that guy! Tell him to stop stalking you or have your FI do it. It reflects poorly on you and your FI. That guy is NO FRIEND. He is jealous or something.
Post # 4
There is a crazy “friend” on the loose in a bar near you! Oh wait…he’s standing 10 feet away from you and doesn’t say hi before snapping your photo??? craaaaazy.
This is just me, but if one of my FI’s “friends” did this, I would fully expect FI to say something to him about how inappropriate that is. It’s just uncalled for.
Post # 6
Seriously? Sounds like he might be a tad bit jealous that his friend has a girl and hes stuck taking pictures like a creep of someone in the bar? creeper.
Post # 7
I have to agree with the two above posters.
Of course, I can sooo relate to really disliking (dare I say ‘hating’) a friend of your FI’s.
my FI has a friend, we’ll call him ‘D’ (hehehehehe, I’m evil, though his name DOES start with ‘d’) who came to three game nights. We play Dungeons & Dragons and host the game nights. Well, the first night was good. The second, wasn’t the greatest, but nothing I didn’t mind too much. The third, he pissed me off to where I was ready to say “I’m out” (of the game) and leave. Which would’ve had my FI ending the game then and there. and who knows WHAT else.
I was so upset and angry, it took DAYS for my FI to calm me down, which isn’t the norm for us. We agreed to NOT invite him over to ANY games and I said I didn’t want him back AT ALL. My FI agreed.
You should definitely talk to your FI about how it makes you feel and come to an agreement on it. Especially if this guy might be invited to the wedding or ANY social event you two have!!!
so sooooo sorry you’ve gotta deal with such a jerk!!!
Post # 8
I would definitely hope your FI would talk to him and tell him that:
1) That was wildly inappropriate, and, might I reiterate, CREEPY.
2) There is nothing wrong with going out and having fun with your friends.
and 3) If he sees you in another ensemble he thinks is too risque then he should call the fashion police and let them handle it instead of secretively taking pictures like a CREEPER!
Hopefully the people he’s been ranting to about you having your FI brainwashed realize he’s a loon and are backing away slowly.
Post # 9
My FI says its stupid, and he has tried making him loose the attitude on many occasions, and it never stops, so he doesnt really talk to him much anymore, but they have been friends 13 years.
FI thinks if we ignore his obvious cry for bad attention it will go away. I say smack him. I dont get to get out of the house much and I dont want him maing me feel uncomfortable when I am just trying to let loose for one night!! If I end up with more than my usual one drink and he is there I might just say something to him worth reporting. lol
Post # 10
@weeonebride: ugh, yeah, I know how that is. The knowing someone for years on end and him not wanting to say or do anything. My quandary was it was my FI towards a female friend he’d known for countless years and has been a problem since we’ve been together. (WHY are men so naive???)
I say if your FI doesn’t do anything, do it yourself! of course, I’m also the one who enjoys a good fight and I don’t mind taking on a person if I know them, lol. Oh, heck, I’d do it even if I didn’t… but it would have to be in person, though. The internet isn’t good for arguments, hehehehehe.
Post # 11
@weeonebride: Okay, then he needs to be blunt, and say, “Hey, this is my future wife you’re being an ass about, and I don’t appreciate it. If you give a crap about our friendship at all, you won’t put us in this position again. Smarten up!”
Post # 12
@linguo42: <3 soooo LOVE that!
Post # 13
This is mega creepy and just plain strange! I would totally get your FI speak to him or speak to him yourself, because why on earth should you be worrying about whether this guy is gonna be hanging around watching you?IMHO just bang out of order!!!
Post # 14
me thinks your husbands friend might have some feelings for you….sounds like something a 14 year old with a crush would do.
Post # 15
Your FI needs to stand up for you. You’re not just his FI, you’re the mother of his two children. He needs to man up and tell his buddy that shit aint gonna fly.
I’d probably threaten the buddy with a restraining order since he’s clearly stalking you. 😉
Post # 16
lol… I would be creeped out, but its the ONLY bar in three cities around here worth going dancing at, so its common to see each other there.
I wouldnt put it past him to be a little jealous considering I met him and FI at the same time, but the guy is so dramatic!! Always the victim. I know if I told FI I was wanting him to really get after him (and if anything else does happen I might) he would take care of it. I just hate that this friend seems to think I am doing inaapropriate things, and trying to make it seem bad in my FIs eyes, and kind of trying to make him choose between us. Honesty, I know I would win, but I hate FI being put in a situation to potentially lose a long term friend.
GRRR!! Thank you ladies!!