Post # 1
So has anyone else out there just gotten annoyed and fed up with their wedding party? To the point were the actions of a small number of the wedding party is creating unneccesary drama that you just want to fire them all?
Our wedding has been drama free except our wedding party…. we sooooo do not need this…. I think members of our wedding party have forgotten that this is OUR wedding…
Just needed to vent….
Post # 3
Ya. Right there with you on this one. My some of my bridesmaids keep carrying on like there is no tomorrow. I wish they would just quit it. All that matters is that I have my groom, and my gown! lol.
Just laugh at the situation. Whatever they are doing, they are wrong. Even if you are doing something wrong (which I doubt you are, but just in case) they should lay off since it is your wedding after all!
I think people are letting this whole bridezilla thing go to their head too much.
Post # 4
Congratulations on your wedding! My wedding isn’t for quite a while, but I’ve seen some wedding parties get seriously out of control. My best advice is just ignore, ignore, ignore… and tell them to stuff it when need be. Your wedding will be fabulous despite all their drama.
Post # 5
Yup…def. been there too many times so far (see my several other posts). From my sister and BFF not getting along to people being all weird about the B’ette Party that they are insisting they want to throw for me even though I said I really don’t expect anything (and I don’t). To my sister being all weird about dresses (which is fine, she’ll be 8.75 mos pregnant and most likely won’t stand up anyway).
Nothing life altering, but still…why all the drama?! Aren’t they supposed to be here to support us? Oh well…more stuff to tuck away into my, "how to be a good BM" file for next time:)
Hey, fabulouslyengaged, we’re date twins!
Post # 6
I am MOH for a friend who currently is a BM in many of her cousins’ weddings. She keeps stressing because her cousins’ bridal parties are complaining about money, whining about dresses, not being reliable and generally causing a ton of stress. As a result she is totally concerned about how things will go for her wedding.
Where is your MOH? I think you should pull her aside, tell her how you feel and ask her to take on the stress. (hat is what I am trying to do for my friend =) Ask your MOH to reach out to the BMs and ask them to either keep any negativity to themselves or to bring it to her to address. Then she can diplomatically, kindly, and gently approach you with any VALID concerns, and protect you from anything that’s going to be an unnecessary downer on your happiness.
Post # 7
I am so there with you! Thanks for writing this and for you girls chiming in! It always helps to know there are others who are in the same boat!
And I TOTALLY agree with you Fabulouslyengaged about the bridezilla thing! A bride says one thing about how she would like something to be (ex: I want orange and pink flowers) and someone automitically goes "bridezilla!" Um no, it’s our wedding and I am picking out the flowers! haha!
I was having such a problem with one of my BMs (and she was really annoying my other BMs and trying to control everything and telling me what to do) that I had to call her up one night (she lives an hour from me) and lay it all out there. I told her straight up to stop complaining. My BMs have told me that if they hear her even start to complain on the wedding day, they are going to tell her to zip it!
Is there a BM or your MOH that you could count on to nip it in the bud before it gets worse?
Post # 8
I have one really terrific BM who would take on the world for me. Only problem is she is 9 hours away but at least she has been there for emotional support even though she can’t help with a whole a lot here at the moment. My MOH is my sister who is, well not really being an MOH. She doesn’t want to help with anything. Anytime I even mention I might need help with something she throws a hissy fit and storms off. If it wasn’t for FI (who is 6 hours away) being AMAZING almost nothing would be booked or picked out. Good thing I do get to marry my best friend!
Post # 9
@PurdueGrace- My sister and MOH has been the same way! luckily that’s mostly our only WP stress so far but sometimes it gets to me. I love her to death but she is younger and wants absolutely nothing to do with the wedding. She didn’t even want to go dress shopping with me, and has given all her bachelorette planning duties to my friend/other BM.. which is fine by me bc that BM is fabulous and a great planner, but I still feel bad. I also just get upset that she’s my SISTER and doesn’t care! Sigh.
Post # 10
It is very upsetting when people who you thought cared about you, show such a disinterest on your special day. Since my original post, our wedding party has started to come around but it is only because a person who is not a part of the wedding starting kicking butt and knocking some sense into people.
Post # 11
I have been averting the whole Bridal party drama by not asking anyone (YET!!) to be in the wedding party. Part of the reason is that the people who are closest to me are so far away, and I’ve been having a hard time figuring out who are the right people. I was thinking of asking my sister to be my MOH, but she lives 3,000 miles away and is not the most involved person when it comes to organizing events. I want her to be the MOH because I love her, but at the same time I’m not sure I can count on her to help out with the planning – just because she doesn’t like that kind of stuff. I also debated asking my BFF to be either MOH or BM, but she’s not sure to come because she will be starting a new job right before the wedding and may not be able to make the trip to France (where our wedding is going to be). I have cried a lot because of that, because I really wanted her to be there, but there is just not much either of us can do.
I have thought about asking other friends, but I keep envisioning in my mind that my friends will consider it a burden – to spend money on a BM dress (I have some really stingy friends, you’d be surprised…they consider $50 on a dress to be excessive), to spend time organizing stuff… etc. So I haven’t asked anyone. It’s sort of a problem, because our wedding is in 4 months.
I am marrying my best friend, and we have taken pleasure in planning a lot of the things ourselves, but I would like to involve some more people. I feel that the lead up to the wedding is part of the celebrations too. Do you guys think I am being silly, still not having asked anyone. It’s almost at the point where I’m not sure how to bring it up anymore, we’re so close to the wedding and not have any BM…
Well, I’d appreciate any thoughts or advice. Good luck sassykm with your bridal drama. I hope hearing my story will make you feel a bit better – at least you have a wedding party 🙂 I gotta work on mine soon!!