- 6 years ago
I already know in advance this will most likely sound selfish and petty but I’m pregnant and have been extra emotional lately. So here is a little background. DH has a leach of a brother and now SIL. They are ridiculous and we have a hard time even being in the same space as them. At this point he is 30 she is late 20’s neither have real jobs (at the moment they are actually both not umployed by choice). He is on his 3rd car his parents have bought for him, he lives in a $100,000 house ($100,000 goes along way in our area) that mommy and daddy bought as in paid cash for, he is currently in FL for 2 weeks once again mommy and daddy paid for those tickets. While they are in FL my MIL decided to go and straighten up his house because they are slobs and belong on an epidsode of hoarders! They screwed up the bathroom floor in the house and the sink so what does my MIL do she buys ALL the supplies which cost $300 + dollars and asked DH to fix it (DH is super handy). Well DH did in fact fix it but is SO annoyed at his parents and brother. He has tried to say stuff to them in the past about all of this madness but his mom and dad just get mad at DH and think he is being mean to his brother. Now to where I am SO freaking annoyed. DH was supposed to get a family ring to propose to me with because he is the first born son but no they gave it to my freaking BIL to give to his wife. They paid for BIL and SIL’s entire wedding but for ours they didn’t offer to pay for anything! And all we got as a gift was a $80 bed set. Now that I’m pregnant DH said to give MIL baby shower invite first so I did. Well I looked on our registry and found her purchases. A freaking baby monitor and some baby soap. That is ALL she bought. Mean while we have the playpen/bassinet on there and bottles which are pricey and we were so hoping she would purchase them. The monitor is decent priced just a normal one nothing special. The other 2 items we were hoping she would purchase at least one of them were under $150 so not to expensive but we were still hoping to get some help since we have bought all of the other bigger ticket items. It’s just so annoying that they never offer to help out with anything in our lives but are willing to drop $100,000 on a house for dead beat son. Yes we are doing well because DH has made something of himself. I guess I don’t get it. Also the dead beat brother does NOTHING for his parents while DH is over here on call 24/7 to make sure there cars are running, do they need anything in the home fixed, shoveling there driveway, etc. It’s not a financial issue either they are very wealthy and are more then capable of giving us more then a freaking comforter for our wedding. My Father who is not financially well of at all offered to pay for the reception. We didn’t let him but jeeze at least he offered. My Mother is not in our lives because she is dealing with mental issues right now. I grew up without her so it would have been nice to get a MIL that actually seemed to care about DH and I.