Post # 1
I just have a vent a little… When my engagement was announced, a girl I’ve been friends with since childhood made very sure that I knew she wanted to come to the wedding. I wasn’t going to originally invite her just because we aren’t close anymore but I thought why the heck not.
So I did.
She got the invitation. Put on Facebook how excited she was to be invited to a long-time friend’s wedding and told me numerous times how she couldn’t wait.
Well, I noticed that she hadn’t RSVPd yet but figured she was coming after how many times she said she was looking forward to it. I messaged her today and her response was “OMG I forgot to tell you that I won’t be able to make it.” I mean, what?! I am not hurt that she isn’t coming, I’m just a little annoyed that she pretty much asked me to invite her and now she isn’t coming.
Oh well… One less guest to pay for!
Post # 3
Ugh! One of my friends did that. Only she RSVP’d “yes”, and then couldn’t come 3 days before the wedding… So I was stuck paying for her plate, anyway!
Post # 4
@dreamer1288: Ha, what a nut! I’d be glad to not have to pay for her either.
Post # 5
ha! I had a friend do that too, then didn’t send in her RSVP, my DH called her and she RSVP’s no, and then 4 days before the wedding she texted if she could come to just the reception after all! So annoying!
Post # 6
I had a long time friend get mad at my bridal shower that she wasn’t asked to be a bridesmaid. We had drifted apart and she never made time for me. I didn’t blame her, but I made sure to choose bridesmaids I could count on.
Sadly, I asked her to talk to me about her feelings if she was resenting my decision, and she has not spoken to me since, except to send me ugly texts. She RSVPed yes to the wedding, but she and her boyfriend didn’t show. Nor did the rest of her family. I ended up paying for 4 plates that went to waste because of her ugly jealousy.
Something I learned through the wedding process: real friends will be there NO MATTER WHAT. The rest…. well, who cares? All you really need is your husband and people who love and support you. Count those who will come as blessings and forget about everyone else.