Post # 1
I’m a regular poster going incognito for this. I won’t go into all the details that led to my getting pregnant, but suffice to say, it was completely unplanned. My FH and I have talked this over, and we are both 100% for me having an abortion. We are both relatively young and not emotionally/financially ready for a child just yet. The only thing I’m having trouble with is the amount of time I have to wait to get the abortion.
I called up my local Planned Parenthood office today, right after I got the positive test result. I spoke with the operator about different times available for walk-ins or appointments, and confirmed what I had suspected would happen when I called: all of the times available are incompatible with my work schedule, since I work 50 hours a week in a job where I cannot call in regularly and where it is relatively difficult for me to get off work early. So I had to schedule my abortion appointment for this coming Saturday, which is six days too many if you ask me.
I just want this mass of cells out of my body, RIGHT NOW PLEASE AND THANK YOU. I’m trying to not let this affect me, but I’m in a pissy mood already, especially with FH (afterall it takes two to make a baby!), and at my body, because I feel like it betrayed me.
Ugh. I really just needed to vent, but any words of encouragement would be awesome.
Post # 3
Idk, in this situation I’d make that time off happen. I recently had a pretty bad pregnancy scare… I was bleeding a ton unexpectedly and when I went to my gyno she said that I could very possibly be pregnant. I take my birth control literally perfectly, and like you, couldn’t emotionally/financially swing a pregnancy and birth. I almost threw up I was so scared, shocked, and worried. The last thing on my mind was what my boss might say if I needed to take time off! I too work 50-55 hour weeks and only have very limited time off, but this is serious.
Post # 4
Just wanted to send some positive thoughts your way. Try not to focus on it too much over the six days you have to wait, and don’t be angry with FH or yourself. Take care of yourself and schedule some time off if you need it.
Post # 5
Lots of positive vibes to you….I had a friend go through this and while it was awful at the time, she made the decision that was best for her and it was the right thing in the longrun. I’m so sorry you’re going through this! Make sure you take some time just for you.
Post # 6
I’ve been there: for me the wait was the worst part of the whole experience. It’s a tough couple of days, but you can make it! Just try and keep occupied.
Post # 7
I’m sorry you are having such a stressful time and you feel that your body betrayed you. Is there any way you could call in sick or call in with an emergency and take an afternoon (or better yet, the day) off of work before Saturday? Your boss doesn’t have to pay you for time off but they can’t force you to come in if you have a medical issue that needs to be taken care of. Either way, please try to stay calm and take care of yourself, and don’t be too rough on your FH. He is likely experiencing all the same emotions as you are.
Post # 8
Just a post to wish you the best of luck and that those six days pass quickly for you.
Post # 9
@masterbeeofdisguise: I would try to arrange for the time off. I work about 50 hours a week as well, but if I had a major personal/health concern come up (like an abortion) I would take the time off. Does your position allow for emergency medical leave or sick time?
Post # 11
Yes I’d like to know how everything went.
Post # 12
Sending good thoughts your way…
Post # 13
I’m sorry about the wait. My best friend had to wait also and I know how hard it was on her. I hope that the week passed quickly and that you both can come together over this.
Post # 14
I hope you are doing well 🙂
Post # 15
My BFF was very young when she got pregnant the first time and she, too, was not ready for it. I know it can be very stressful waiting for the day of your planned abortion and it does take a lot of you, emotionally. My BFF terminated the pregnancy. I went with her, as the father wanted nothing to do with it. You are very lucky to have the support of your FI. Try to relax and still take care of yourself. GL and lot of hugs!
Post # 16
OP: I hope your doing okay.