Post # 1
Arrrgh! I know I have no “official” claim to the month of October, but I really do not think it’s cool that FI’s cousin did this. We announced our date mid last year and sent out the std in February so our planning has been well on its way; venue booked, everything coming together. Well, I found out yesterday that FI’s cousin on his dads side said that he is getting mnarried 2 weeks before us. The cousin’s reason is that him and his Fiance have always said that as soon as they baught a house they would get married and 6 months ago they baught their house. They haven’t even started planning and no venue booked. My main concern is that being how the economy is, people will not have money to travel to both weddings. Not really concerned about the present, I’m just thinking that people on that side of the family will have to choose which one to go to since they are both weeks apart. My wedding is in Cali and theirs in Hawaii. Most of FI’s dads family lives in Florida or Hawaii.
Arrrrgggghh! There’s not much I can do about this right?
Post # 3
That’s pretty annoying!. There’s nothing you can do though – just concentrate on your wedding. Sorry they’re being kind of insensitive. I’d be peeved too.
Post # 4
Well, let’s see. It’s already March and they’re getting married in Hawaii in October. That’s 7 months. Not a lot of time to let people know you’re getting married in Hawaii. That’s no short flight. And it ain’t cheap.
My bet is most people WON’T go to the Hawaii wedding. Especially if they live in FLorida
Post # 5
Ugh, I’m sure I’d be frustrated too. But since you’ve already sent out your STD’s all the people that are invited to both weddings will probably come to yours since they’ve known about it for a while now.
Post # 6
That’s what I’m hoping!!!
Post # 7
Um, Hawaii isn’t cheap! I think you might find that your mutual guests do go to yours over theirs. Aside from their immediate family that is. I’m willing to be that they weren’t thinking about anyone when they made these plans. I’d be so annoyed if my relative or friend decided they wanted a destination wedding and only have us a few months to plan for it. Not even that, they’ll see that you guys were first, not that its a competition, but that’s how it works sometimes. I’m sorry that they took your month. I understand being annoyed.
Post # 8
I feel for you, but just be glad you are not in our situation, which is that my FI’s cousin is having her wedding ON OUR SAME DAY. That’s right, the same day. We’ve had our date set and venue booked since last March and we sent out Save the Dates in January. They just got engaged over Christmas, are going to the courthouse in April to have a legal ceremony and are planning a huge wedding (though nothing has been done yet) for our same wedding date. And his cousin is guilt tripping their mutual family into going to her wedding or making them feel so awkward about the conflicting dates that some have declared they won’t go to either wedding. grrrrrr. so annoyed about this!
Post # 9
Thanks for the comments guys!
@denverbirdlet- eeeek! you are right!!! That is waaay more annoying than my situation. That’s so selfish of them!
Post # 10
That is a bit annoying. Try not to worry though…six months and they don’t have anything booked? If they’re doing a big wedding, they may just decide to push their date back once they start planning.
Post # 11
@ Kiki – I know, but we can’t really do anything about it. Her Fiance is in the military, so I understand they have a bit more limited time schedule to work with (from mid-august to the beginning of October), but its not soo tight that their ONLY option was our day. They are just being selfish because they picked that date and didn’t want to change even though all the rest of the family knows its my Fiance and I’s date and our entire wedding is planned and they haven’t even started yet. ok. done ranting. I’m trying to be zen about it and look at the bright side – because less family is coming, we have room to invite more of our friends.
Post # 12
I would think that most people will go to your wedding. Unless they’d thought that they wanted to go to Hawaii any way.
My sister is getting married 4 months after I am and my mom keeps reminding her not to expect all the relatives to come to her wedding. (We had another family wedding on the west coast this past November and everyone had to travel . . . they’ll be travelling to mine and to my sister’s too).
Post # 13
I had something like this happen. My hubby to be proposed in February, announced it to his friends, and exactly one week later his best friend (and the Best Man in our wedding) proposed to his girlfriend. They’d been dating longer and it had all the feel of “Oh yeah…maybe I should propose, too!” We announced our wedding for October 9th and low and behold, they announced theirs exactly (to the day) one month before ours. I was soooo angry. It really felt like a copycat move. We planned on a small, beautiful outdoor ceremony…they’re planning a huge, all out full blown thing.
I WAS livid, but what it boils down to is this…Our day is our day. The people who are invited are celebrating our relationship. They’re not going to be thinking about so and so’s wedding a month (or in your case 2 weeks) before, so I’m not going to dwell on it. I know our wedding is going to be beautiful…and frankly, I don’t envy that bride one bit planning a wedding like that in 5 months. Sounds like you are much better at planning, too. Let it go, do your own thing and enjoy your day. The people who really care will be there for you.
Post # 14
Wow! That sure is inconsiderate, but I bet they weren’t trying to be. Try to be happy for them. It won’t affect your wedding!