(Closed) Annoyed! FI’s cousin just announced he is getting married 2 weeks before us!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

That’s pretty annoying!. There’s nothing you can do though – just concentrate on your wedding. Sorry they’re being kind of insensitive. I’d be peeved too.

Post # 4
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Well, let’s see. It’s already March and they’re getting married in Hawaii in October. That’s 7 months. Not a lot of time to let people know you’re getting married in Hawaii. That’s no short flight. And it ain’t cheap.

My bet is most people WON’T go to the Hawaii wedding. Especially if they live in FLorida

Post # 5
2634 posts
Sugar bee

Ugh, I’m sure I’d be frustrated too.  But since you’ve already sent out your STD’s all the people that are invited to both weddings will probably come to yours since they’ve known about it for a while now.


Post # 7
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Um, Hawaii isn’t cheap!  I think you might find that your mutual guests do go to yours over theirs.  Aside from their immediate family that is.  I’m willing to be that they weren’t thinking about anyone when they made these plans.  I’d be so annoyed if my relative or friend decided they wanted a destination wedding and only have us a few months to plan for it.  Not even that, they’ll see that you guys were first, not that its a competition, but that’s how it works sometimes.  I’m sorry that they took your month.  I understand being annoyed.

Post # 8
639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I feel for you, but just be glad you are not in our situation, which is that my FI’s cousin is having her wedding ON OUR SAME DAY.  That’s right, the same day.  We’ve had our date set and venue booked since last March and we sent out Save the Dates in January.  They just got engaged over Christmas, are going to the courthouse in April to have a legal ceremony and are planning a huge wedding (though nothing has been done yet) for our same wedding date.  And his cousin is guilt tripping their mutual family into going to her wedding or making them feel so awkward about the conflicting dates that some have declared they won’t go to either wedding.  grrrrrr.  so annoyed about this!

Post # 10
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

That is a bit annoying. Try not to worry though…six months and they don’t have anything booked? If they’re doing a big wedding, they may just decide to push their date back once they start planning.

Post # 11
639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@ Kiki – I know, but we can’t really do anything about it.  Her Fiance is in the military, so I understand they have a bit more limited time schedule to work with (from mid-august to the beginning of October), but its not soo tight that their ONLY option was our day.  They are just being selfish because they picked that date and didn’t want to change even though all the rest of the family knows its my Fiance and I’s date and our entire wedding is planned and they haven’t even started yet.  ok.  done ranting.  I’m trying to be zen about it and look at the bright side – because less family is coming, we have room to invite more of our friends.   

Post # 12
1011 posts
Bumble bee

I would think that most people will go to your wedding.  Unless they’d thought that they wanted to go to Hawaii any way.

My sister is getting married 4 months after I am and my mom keeps reminding her not to expect all the relatives to come to her wedding.  (We had another family wedding on the west coast this past November and everyone had to travel . . . they’ll be travelling to mine and to my sister’s too).

Post # 13
5 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had something like this happen. My hubby to be proposed in February, announced it to his friends, and exactly one week later his best friend (and the Best Man in our wedding) proposed to his girlfriend. They’d been dating longer and it had all the feel of “Oh yeah…maybe I should propose, too!” We announced our wedding for October 9th and low and behold, they announced theirs exactly (to the day) one month before ours. I was soooo angry. It really felt like a copycat move. We planned on a small, beautiful outdoor ceremony…they’re planning a huge, all out full blown thing.

I WAS livid, but what it boils down to is this…Our day is our day. The people who are invited are celebrating our relationship. They’re not going to be thinking about so and so’s wedding a month (or in your case 2 weeks) before, so I’m not going to dwell on it. I know our wedding is going to be beautiful…and frankly, I don’t envy that bride one bit planning a wedding like that in 5 months. Sounds like you are much better at planning, too. Let it go, do your own thing and enjoy your day. The people who really care will be there for you.

Post # 14
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Wow! That sure is inconsiderate, but I bet they weren’t trying to be. Try to be happy for them. It won’t affect your wedding!

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