Post # 1
is anyone else getting annoyed when people buy things that arent on the registry or all the stuff that was purchased are little inexpensive items. no one bought dishes, glasses, or silverware, a toaster, blender, the things we would have liked and need. i guess its my fault for adding the measuring cups, tongs, and spatulas …
no one needs to buy me a gift – but i figure people would have bought some of the other things.
yes this is really selfish and bitchie – having a bridezilla moment.
Post # 3
Sorry. When I was registering I started registering for really small things and my mom stopped me and told me that measuring spoons are something I can buy myself! You will have some wedding money and discounts at the stores when all is said and done so you can buy the other things for yourself. You may still end up getting a lot of what you need.
Post # 5
Hmm, I put tons of smaller items ($25 and under) on our registry, but so far we’ve gotten larger items (set of copper bottomed pots, cast iron cookware, etc). I’m actually hoping that someone buys me the silicone spatulas I put on there, but maybe it’s because we’re older, with an older guest list, so that’s why we’re getting the larger items? No matter what, any gift is helpful if it’s something that you no longer need to purchase yourself.
Post # 6
im older – im 34 and most our guests are older.
i think its more that my extended family really never cared to much about me. (funny how all of them want to come to the wedding – but thats because its for the food and drinks).
i will be grateful and send thank you cards and smile and be nice for the $3.99 spatula.
Post # 7
@jen 42713: I think it is good to have a balance of both higher end items like the blender, mixer, etc. along with the lower end items like spatulas and measuring cups. By doing so, you give your guests different options and price points for gifts. =) And like people said you can always return these items later and put it towards something more expensive. Just a few thoughts… 🙂
Post # 8
I will never understand why people insist on buying stuff that isn’t on your registry. It’s like, we spend the time making a registry so that, if you’d like to get us a gift, you have a freaking list, and then you go buy some crappy “art” instead. Bleh. This happened with us at Christmas (FFIL’s family got a bunch of stuff off of our registry for us)–I spent hours adding things that we wanted, reading reviews, looking at specs, and they decided to get us a completely different wafflemaker. That sounds really stupid, I know, but the one I had on there wasn’t an expensive one, but it had really nice features, and they got us kind of a huge one instead that has crappy reviews. Argh.
Post # 9
@jen 42713: I’ll be completely honest- I fear I’ll be in the exact same spot as you.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I think my husband and I were thinking “Ooh! Shiny” when we registered, and we ended up getting a bunch of stuff we’d never use (but we did register for). Like others, we did lots of returns and got the stuff we really wanted. You’ve still got a bit of time before the wedding– maybe the big stuff will still come?
And if you want to, you can edit your registry now to remove any other small stuff to encourage larger purchases– I thnk this is okay since lots of small stuff has already been purchased.
Post # 11
@jen 42713: Well you’ve still got 2 more months so hopefully you’ll get some of the other items that you need (keeping my fingers crossed for you), but it sucks that your extended family is like that. At least you get to marry your dream guy, and that’s better than anything you could ever put on a registry.
Post # 12
@jen 42713: Maybe some people are in a rough place financially and can’t afford more. Also, keep in mind that many people buy smaller gifts for the shower and larger ones for the wedding.
Post # 13
It’s OK to have those feelings. You will get over it. Now I am imagining all the brides I pissed off because I never buy from registries!
Post # 14
sometimes people go off-registry because they have a coupon or some other discount to get you a similar item but it’ll cost less for them. some people still think registries are tacky and just don’t look at them, and some don’t want the bride and groom knowing what they spent so they don’t buy off the registry. some people want to give something that’s more meaningful from them rather than a blender, which can feel impersonal, which is why you’ll get homemade or artistic gifts.
most of all, people are still struggling with finances due to the economy, which is probably why you’re going to get more of the lower cost items rather than the big ticket ones. try to keep in mind that people mean well and have good intentions. buying a spatula has just as good intentions behind it as an expensive item, it is not some way of personally snubbing the bride and groom.
Post # 15
yeah i understnad the economy – thats why when i was looking at silverware – i chose reasonable priced ones – $30.00 a place setting, and the toster is only #29.99. my shower is on saturday – so i figure most the items that were going to be bought are now purchased. i dont know … but thank you all for letting me rant.
Post # 16
One of my best friends prides herself on never buying off the registry! I think it’s silly to intentionally avoid it…but apparently, there are a lot of people out there who think registries are silly. That friend usually puts together a basket of smaller household/kitchen items from the dollar store/Walmart that she thinks ‘nobody ever thinks about’. It’s really nice and smart of her for young couples, but in our case, we already HAVE the cheap stuff (and it’s falling apart), so the we’re registering for nicer replacements. But I did stop FI from registering for some smaller things that I knew we would need before the wedding…organizational stuff, mostly.