Post # 1
So there is this lady I used to work from my last company 4 years ago. We both live in separate states and my only interaction with her at work was via email/phone calls/IM. During that time i only met her twice but really haven’t spoken to her since & knows that I’m engaged because she’s on my friend list on facebook.
Now earlier she hit me up on IM asking how i was doing but then it lead to the following:
Her: when the weddding
Me: Sept 18
Her: I better get an invitation
Me: girl i have to keep the wedding small
Her: I don’t care I want an invite! Seriously
Me: uhm so you’ll go to dallas
Her: Yes I will! Me and my friend. Don’t play. Send me my invitation
Me: i’ll have to see we’re keeping it close family and friends already limited
Her: Invite me if you can if not I will not understand but ok
Ok so WOW talking about putting on the spot. She’s still not invited but just the fact its just so weird that people are like this. Since being engaged, already a few people have demanded to be invited, expected to be invited and probably don’t know alot of other things going on with my life granted probably don’t even know the name of my Fiance. ANNOYING!!
Ladies I’m pretty sure all of you have similar situations. Do share your stories!!!
Post # 3
Oh I sooooooo feel your pain…we got a lot of that when we first got engaged “congrats, I better get an invite” and of course its always from people that you are not close to at all!
Then as the months passed by, I thought people forgot, but once the save the dates went out…then again….and definitely when we mailed the wedding invitations out earlier this month….whew…the well is open and everyone…regardless of the fact that they are your parents, grandparents friends and haven’t seen nor spoken to you in 5 yrs want an invite…its insane!
That chic is crazy…lol. I’ve received a few messages on facebook, but none as rude as that!
Post # 4
That’s the crazy conversation ever! Who mandates an invite? That’s not how this process goes. I’d definitely NOT invite her, she’s nuts!
Post # 5
Yeah, I had a conversation a little like that this week also. I just laughed it off and told her that “everybody says that”. I don’t like being pressured to invite someone. That is so rude!
Post # 6
Wow! She’s crazy. When we first got engaged and I put it on facebook I got several comments about how I better send them their invitation. I even had a couple people message me their address. I never responded and I’ve been very careful to not put anything about our wedding on facebook. I don’t want everyone knowing our busines and I don’t want to get into these types of conversations. I figure if I’m not constantly posting about it then the people who aren’t really close to use and wouldn’t be invited probably won’t think anything of our wedding and won’t notice they didn’t get invited until after it’s already too late and their seeing our honeymoon pictures on there!
Post # 7
LUCKILY ive only gotten one
” i better get an invite “
but its soo annoying!
Post # 8
Yeah I try to be careful not posting wedding stuff on facebook as well. Only way people know is by my status that I’m Engaged to_______ and by reading wall posts of people asking how the wedding planning is coming along… etc
Post # 9
I had a girl who was my friend but she is the go out for coffee every few months type of friend. Fiance and I were planning the wedding well before the official proposal. Before the official proposal I went out to lunch with this girl. She was asking about the wedding as she knew we were already planning it and this conversation went down:
Her: So I better be invited to your wedding
Me: Well as you know we are only inviting 50 people and so it really depends on how many extended family comes over.
(Let me say she was on the list but she was also in the bumpable area – meaning if my family from Africa and Australia decided to make the trip she would be bumped off the list)
Her: Noooooo I should be able to come before your family
Her: Seriously, you have to invite me
Then I quickly changed the subject. I could not believe her rudeness I was appalled and wanted to bump her off no matter what. But it looks like I may not have to do that as she has moved out of my city and I have not seen her in months.
Post # 10
@miss cakeball, I’ve done the same on facebook….but the wall posting by others say “how’s the wedding” and “oh I got the wedding invitation, its beautiful, can’t wait to come” can get you in a lot of trouble too….it never fails that once people start posting stuff like that…we start to get the “can I come”…”where;s my invite”, etc
Post # 11
omg ive gotten soooooo many!! i deleted my myspace and facebook cuz i was sick of everyone demanding and cuz they are unneccesary, but that was the cake topper for me!
and i went to a wedding over the weekend and i literally had 6 peoplee TELL me they better be invited and one girl get all bitchy and shit talk me behind my back cuz “were not even invited. are you kidding me?” ! people are INSANE!!!!
Post # 12
@ Future Mrs. Marting – more important than family, huh…yeah she’s pyscho!
Post # 13
Wow!!! That really is putting you on the spot! My goodness!
I have a few stories…From the shortest first…
We met a couple at the bar of our favorite japanese steakhouse one Friday night. the girl was totally fixated on my engagement ring and kept telling us we should invite them to our wedding…Really? I JUST met you….ok….
Then, my fiance plays on a shuffleboard league and I’ve been in a few season but not consecutive like him. There is this lady who is a sweetie, vey loud, but sweet. There is another lady we’ve know since our very first season and she’s become a good friend so we invited her to the wedding. Well, loud lady keeps telling us everytime we see her she better get an invite or else she is crashing our wedding anyway! She’s an older lady but I think she has a little crush on my fiance. LOL The other lady says she will crash it too if she finds out where it is!
More recently, I was married before and so a couple of girls from my ex-family are actually in my wedding. Crazy I know. One was talking to another one that I very rarely talk to…I think we’ve seen each other once in the past 2 years. She was telling her about the day of activities and stuff and now she is shunned because she wasn’t invited and wants to be a part of it too! Hello? We haven’t even spoken on myspace or facebook in over 2 years so why would I think to invite you?
I also have a much more complicated situation of another potential crasher but that is longer and we’ll save that for another time. 😉
I think the ones that say “I better get an invite” fall in to one of several categories:
a. they have never been to a wedding and desperately want to
b. would like to take advantage of the free food and booze
c. secretly wish they would be having their own wedding
d. just want to go because they know people who will be there and actually want to party with THEM!
Post # 14
I had a similar conversation with my Aunt regarding her best friend.
“Mary’s coming to, so she needs to be invited.”
“She’s coming with me and Grandma, so be sure to invite her.”
Luckily I really like her and had no problem adding her to the list but still…gah!
Post # 15
ick! i hate these situations!
fi’s best friend from high school, D, is seriously a jerk. he has treated fi like crap ever since fi met me and started spending more time with me and less than him. (and for the record–fi’s 27, so it’s not like high school was recently, this is clearly a relationship fi’s just grown out of.) D might have been invited to our wedding out of old time’s sake, except a different friend of theirs was married last september, and D rsvped yes for him and a guest, and then didn’t come. wasn’t even going to tell the groom, excpet fi caught wind of it and made him call. totally crappy! so D is def not invited–we think he’d do the same thing again. so anyway, just last week, fi’s out to dinner with a bunch of his high school frineds, including D, and this is the first time in like a year fi had seen d even though he lives close by. a different friend brought up fi’s bachelor party, since our best man has already emailed fi’s friends to organize, and d asks point blank where his email was. ummmmm awkward! he’s not invited to the wedding, so he’s not invited to the bachelor party—awkward convo to have in front of other people!
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
My response would have been, “haha” and that would be the end of it. 😉 If she was actually serious, I don’t think she deserved to be taken seriously!