Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have been talking about taking a vacation this year and all day today he was sending me different ideas, locations, etc. We are thinking of going in October which of course would be great, but do you know what I want more than a vacation?? A RING!!! Ugh. By October we will be 2.5 years and I keep thinking to myself “why are you planning vacations when you have said before that you can’t afford a ring for me right now?”. Of course, I haven’t said that to him. I did mention that maybe we should just do a small vacation this year and put the rest of the money in the house fund (we talk about saving for a house all the time. With our rent right now though its just not possible). But who knows. Apparently a vacation is more important than a ring or a house to him.
Sorry…I just needed to vent.
Post # 3
I understand you want the ring but think about it this way – when it does come time for the ring, the wedding, the house, the kids, etc. and all the expenses that come along with those things in the future, you’re gonna be happy you took that vacation.
Post # 4
Have you talked to him about a timeline at all? I understand how you’re feeling, and I think those feelings are valid. Maybe having a timeline will help you handle it better, and have a vacation, too!
Post # 5
Yes, you are right Kitty. I should just enjoy it and just be thankful that we even have the option to take a vacation at all.
Post # 6
Labor-No, we havent really discussed time line because I don’t want him to feel pressure. I know what his money situation is and I know he does the best he can.
I did ask him if it was happening in 2010 and he said maybe. Then I said 2011? And he said maybe. Then I said 2012?…then I burst into tears. Haha. I said they were happy tears that he is even thinking about it, but really they were “If you make me wait until 2012 I might have an emotional breakdown”.
Post # 7
i totally understand that you want a ring (been there myself) but thats a sparkly pretty thing for you where a vaccay is for both of you. as a couple you need times to have fun, relax and just enjoy being together – otherwise its too much of a grind all the time