Post # 1
I feel like one of my bridesmaids is distancing herself from me. We’re a little over three months out from the wedding, she lives across the country from me, and we mainly communicate online. I don’t think I talk about the wedding that much with her, and I try to talk about other things that are going on in my life, because I don’t want to be that girl who is all me-me-me wedding-wedding-wedding all the time.
HOWEVER, she helped pick the bridesmaid dresses about a year ago. At the six month-to-go mark, I reminded all my bridesmaids they needed to order their dresses, and the others have all received theirs already. I talk to this bridesmaid fairly frequently, and about once a month I remind her that we’re X number of months out and that she needs to order her dress, and she always tells me she hasn’t forgotten. I’m getting a little frustrated because I don’t know how late is too late to order them, and I don’t want to be annoying by asking about it too much. I know it’s not a matter of time to go or money, because she tells me about going shopping and having time off and the like.
Am I being too annoying by reminding her? What will happen if she doesn’t get the dress in time?
Post # 3
Maybe find out when the dress needs to be ordered by. Then you can tell her, ok this is when your dress needs to be ordered by, can you let me know when you have ordered it? Or if you feel uncomfortable doing that, just remind her that all the other bridesmaids have their dresses and ask her if there is a reason she hasn’t ordered hers yet. Maybe its a matter of finances and she’s too embarrassed to tell you.
Post # 4
I don’t think you are being annoying by reminding her, especially since other bridesmaids have already received their dresses. I have always been under the impression that bridesmaids should order dresses at the same time, especially if its a dress that needs to look the same color. Could there be a reason that she keeps delaying it? If your wedding is in May, I would think that the dress needs to be ordered ASAP. Next time you have a conversation with her, if she says she hasn’t forgotten, you might want to ask her when she plans on ordering it and if that will be enough time. Good luck!
Post # 5
When it was time to order my BM dresses and my sister refused to do it, the owner of the shop said, “There’s one in every group and it’s usually a sister or SIL!”. I would find out what the drop dead date is and let her know. As Bostonsmom mentioned, maybe there is another issue such as finances. Of course, my sister was just being a PITA…
Post # 6
I would probably find out the “do or die” order date, and then two weeks prior to that date send an email out to all the bridesmais (even though everyone else has gotten their dresses) just saying “Wow, the wedding is getting closer. Just wanted to remind everyone that the last day dresses can be ordered is April 1st. Please let me know if that date is going to be a problem for you.” If you can throw in other wedding chatter into the group email all the better. That way you aren’t singleing her out, but you are getting your point across.